{"id":162508,"date":"2023-03-06T08:13:24","date_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:13:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=162508"},"modified":"2023-03-06T08:13:31","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:13:31","slug":"porque-e-que-os-rompimentos-de-relacoes-de-facto-magoam-mais-do-que-as-relacoes-reais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-os-rompimentos-de-relacoes-de-facto-magoam-mais-do-que-as-relacoes-reais\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Raz\u00f5es pelas quais os rompimentos de relacionamentos em situa\u00e7\u00f5es magoam mais do que os relacionamentos reais"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m so sick and tired of all those situationships. Those in-between phases of relationships, the gray area where two people aren&#8217;t quite committed, but still care about each other a great deal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m tired of talking with strangers about my hobbies, goals, likes and dislikes over and over again..but that isn\u2019t even the worst part of it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you\u2019ve ever experienced a situationship breakup, you know what I\u2019m talking about.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are plenty of reasons why these gray areas hurt more than any actual relationship, and the whole essence of it lies in two things: It\u2019s POTENTIAL and your INVESTMENT.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-you-became-addicted-to-them\">1. Tornou-se viciado nelas<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste com pensamentos profundos a olhar para a rua\" class=\"wp-image-162511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The pain isn\u2019t about the amount of time you were together. It never was. The real pain is about the intensity. You\u2019re on and then you\u2019re off again &#8211; <strong>altos loucos e depois baixos loucos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s your first few months of romance and you\u2019re filled with love drugs (oxytocin, dopamine, beta-endorphin and serotonin), and as with every drug &#8211; you become addicted to it. <strong>So, once your relationship ends abruptly, you\u2019re cut off on a high.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being in a heavy withdrawal is what makes the pain so INTENSE. On the other hand, when you\u2019re in a relationship, the initial romance decreases as time flies. You create tolerance for this love drug and there are no crazy highs that can hurt you now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kimberly Rae, uma treinadora de rela\u00e7\u00f5es, fala muito sobre este tema na sua conta do TikTok, por isso, talvez queiras dar uma vista de olhos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-tiktok wp-block-embed-tiktok\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@kimberlyrae.life\/video\/7191530991201258794\" data-video-id=\"7191530991201258794\" data-embed-from=\"oembed\" style=\"max-width:605px; min-width:325px;\"> <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@kimberlyrae.life\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@kimberlyrae.life?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">@kimberlyrae.life<\/a> <p>3 raz\u00f5es pelas quais o fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode ser t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil. <a title=\"situa\u00e7\u00e3o\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/situationship?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> <a title=\"rela\u00e7\u00e3o\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationship?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Relacionamento<\/a> <a title=\"conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipadvice?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Conselhos de relacionamento<\/a> <a title=\"namoro\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/dating?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#dating<\/a> <a title=\"conselhos sobre encontros\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/datingadvice?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#conselho de namoro<\/a> <a title=\"treinador de encontros\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/datingcoach?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#cach\u00ea de namoro<\/a> <a title=\"treinador de rela\u00e7\u00f5es\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipcoach?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#reinador de rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> <a title=\"separa\u00e7\u00f5es\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/breakups?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#rompimentos<\/a> <a title=\"rutura\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/breakuptiktok?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#breakuptiktok<\/a> <a title=\"desgosto\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/heartbreak?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#heartbreak<\/a> <a title=\"rela\u00e7\u00f5esdificuldades\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipstruggles?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Relacionamento - dificuldades<\/a> <\/p> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"Som original - Kimberly Rae | Treinadora de Encontros\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7191531025997007659?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound &#8211; Kimberly Rae | Dating Coach<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-you-were-emotionally-invested\">2. Estava emocionalmente envolvido<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A verdade feia sobre todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es de relacionamento \u00e9 que nenhum dos dois tem a certeza do que quer e, no entanto, as emo\u00e7\u00f5es tendem a ficar \u00e0 flor da pele.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You\u2019re in too deep to just be friends, but not quite there for a real relationship.<\/strong> Even though you\u2019re aware that being emotionally invested in this situationship is the literal definition of self-sabotage, you just can\u2019t help yourself but to continue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about it. In a situationship, you\u2019re putting in all the effort and emotional investment without getting any of the rewards that come with a real relationship. <strong>You\u2019re making the same level of commitment, but you\u2019re not getting the same level of commitment back.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E, a julgar por este Tweet, muitas pessoas concordam com isso.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">situationship heartbreak hurt worse cuz y\u2019all was never truly anything<\/p>- ** (@bigguccicraigy) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/bigguccicraigy\/status\/1618812749446017027?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">27 de janeiro de 2023<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>A coisa natural que se segue \u00e9 a dor.<strong> Muita DOR.<\/strong> Because all the time you were holding onto the hope that it will eventually turn into a real relationship, but it didn\u2019t, and now you\u2019ve drained all the emotions you\u2019ve had.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-you-had-the-potential\">3. Tinha o potencial&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts.jpg\" alt=\"mulher s\u00e9ria com \u00f3culos sentada em pensamentos profundos\" class=\"wp-image-162512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re in a situationship, you\u2019re basically dating potential and when it ends, you\u2019re dealing with the death of that potential. So, you\u2019re probably thinking why would this be the cause of why situationships hurt so much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bem, v\u00ea isto como a morte do que poderia ter sido. <\/strong>When you&#8217;re in a situationship, all you actually have are the possibilities of what might be (the fake scenarios you create everytime you go to sleep).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHm, this guy loves to travel and go to music festivals and I love to travel and go to music festivals..I can only imagine how fun and adventurous life we&#8217;re going to have.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>So, all you have is this idealized fantasy of what could be and when it ends it\u2019s painful that this fantasy never got off the ground.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s easy to romanticize a relationship that could\u2019ve been perfect rather than one you knew for a fact wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-you-need-a-closure\">4. Necessita de um fecho&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In a real relationship, when it&#8217;s over, it&#8217;s over. You can go your separate ways, mourn the end of the relationship, and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This, however, isn\u2019t the same for situationships. <strong>It\u2019s the hope that hurts and disappoints you.<\/strong> You\u2019re constantly thinking, <em>\u201cOh okay, I haven\u2019t heard of them today, but maybe tomorrow they\u2019ll text me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The whole ending makes you feel ridiculous and like the grieving isn\u2019t justified. Also, it doesn\u2019t help that they seem completely unbothered which further invalidates how you feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mas lembrem-se, <strong>disrespect is all the closure you\u2019ll ever need.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-closure-you-needed\">A conclus\u00e3o de que precisava<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The fact that you\u2019re in a situationship gaslighting yourself into believing you have a future with this person already means you\u2019re in a vulnerable position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then the rejection comes. It\u2019s like betting everything you own on something that has a 50% chance it will fail.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Portanto, sim, resumindo a hist\u00f3ria: <strong>the title and the length of time doesn\u2019t determine the threshold of your pain. <\/strong>As emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o medidas pela sua experi\u00eancia e, infelizmente, as situa\u00e7\u00f5es de namoro tendem a ter muitas delas.&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m so sick and tired of all those situationships. Those in-between phases of relationships, the gray area where two people aren&#8217;t quite committed, but still care about each other a great deal. 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