{"id":164703,"date":"2024-05-23T12:35:35","date_gmt":"2024-05-23T12:35:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164703"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:10:16","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:10:16","slug":"como-utilizar-a-filosofia-antiga-no-amor-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-utilizar-a-filosofia-antiga-no-amor-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta antiga filosofia japonesa ajudou-me a melhorar a minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Everybody wants that perfect fairytale love but when things don\u2019t go exactly as we imagined them, that can break us. After all, our lives are not produced by the Walt Disney Studios (such a shame, I know).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sempre que me deparava com problemas com o meu parceiro, tentava procurar conforto e ajuda nas minhas amizades (os gelados tamb\u00e9m ajudam) ou percorria interminavelmente a Internet para encontrar algu\u00e9m que tivesse passado por uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ve probably been there too. Actually, who are we kidding? You are reading this, so I\u2019m guessing you\u2019re already there. Anyway, after going down the rabbit hole once, I read something about this Forma de arte japonesa <\/strong>que realmente ficou comigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

J\u00e1 alguma vez pensaste que todas as solu\u00e7\u00f5es podem estar em tradi\u00e7\u00f5es e arte antigas? Pois, eu tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o. Acontece que podemos aprender muito com ele e aplicar a sua filosofia aos nossos problemas. <\/strong>Quem diria que uma arte japonesa antiga poderia ajudar a nossa vida amorosa?! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O segredo esconde-se no facto de aceitarmos os nossos defeitos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Casal<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Kintsugi<\/em> \u00e9 um m\u00e9todo utilizado no Jap\u00e3o para reparar objectos partidos, normalmente cer\u00e2mica, mas com nada menos do que laca dourada! Se algu\u00e9m me fizesse isto, receio que me transformasse numa est\u00e1tua de ouro!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You probably wonder what\u2019s the point of this. Well, they want to aceitar os defeitos e a beleza de os reparar<\/strong> algo que j\u00e1 esteve partido. Agora est\u00e3o a ver onde quero chegar, certo? \u00d3timo, fiquem comigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toda a filosofia Kintsugi se baseia num termo simples, wabi-sabi<\/em>. Here\u2019s the catch, wabi-sabi is almost like a way of living that focuses on celebrar as imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es <\/strong>que nos rodeiam e aceitar a beleza da quebra e da repara\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine o mundo se todos viv\u00eassemos assim! Claro, podemos tentar atingir a perfei\u00e7\u00e3o (que tem a mesma taxa de sucesso que encontrar uma agulha num palheiro) e exigir o mesmo do nosso parceiro. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mas e se tent\u00e1ssemos encontrar paz no facto de que can\u2019t avoid imperfections and prevent changes<\/strong>? Wouldn\u2019t life just be easier for everyone?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O perfeccionismo leva ao stress e a um mau romance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No one is created to be perfect and that\u2019s actually where all the beauty lies. Sorry to disappoint you but your love life isn\u2019t exactly a perfect romantic movie. I know mine isn\u2019t, that\u2019s for sure! My love life is more like a tragic comedy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se est\u00e1 constantemente a tentar mudar o seu parceiro e adapt\u00e1-lo a essa forma perfeita, mais vale comprar-se a si pr\u00f3prio um bilhete de ida para a frustra\u00e7\u00e3o e a insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there, and it\u2019s not fun!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P.S. Este tipo de bilhete de regresso \u00e9 muito dif\u00edcil de obter e bastante caro!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t trust me? Well, this is actually proven by a lot of estudos<\/a>! Acontece que os casais que se esfor\u00e7am por atingir o perfeccionismo na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o sofrem frequentemente de depress\u00e3o<\/strong>. Tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o \u00e9 divertido.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The thing is, this doesn\u2019t only go for criticizing your partner too much, but yourself too. Well, guess what? If you go down this route, prepare yourself for a lot of conflicts due to being disappointed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve been through the same and wanted my relationship to be the best one to ever exist. I used to criticize my partner for everything, from the way he dressed to the way he breathed air! I just wanted everything to be flawless but that\u2019s not really possible, and quite frankly irrational!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agora, deixem-me perguntar-vos uma coisa. J\u00e1 alguma vez pensaste que precisas de apimentar as coisas no quarto? Acha que s\u00f3 precisa de experimentar outras posi\u00e7\u00f5es? Errado! Perfectionism doesn\u2019t only affect your mental state but bedroom activities as well!<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A ci\u00eancia tamb\u00e9m me apoia nesta mat\u00e9ria! Investiga\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> demonstrou que pode diminuir a quantidade de rela\u00e7\u00f5es sexuais, mas tamb\u00e9m a qualidade das mesmas. Aposto que, da pr\u00f3xima vez, vai pensar duas vezes antes de pressionar o seu parceiro e a si pr\u00f3prio para ser impec\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Broken doesn\u2019t mean destined to be ugly<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Imagine o seguinte: tem uma bela jarra para flores, que pertence \u00e0 sua fam\u00edlia h\u00e1 d\u00e9cadas e tem um lugar especial no seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Um dia, o seu c\u00e3o entra a correr, brinca \u00e0 volta da mesa e, quando d\u00e1 por si, o seu vaso (e o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o) parte-se em peda\u00e7os. O que \u00e9 que faria?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vai pegar numa vassoura e numa p\u00e1 de lixo, recolher tudo e deit\u00e1-lo ao lixo? Acho que ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 assim t\u00e3o louco. Pelo menos, espero que sim. Se ainda est\u00e1 a pensar, a resposta \u00e9 um grande n\u00e3o!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teria cuidado recolher todas as pe\u00e7as e tentar junt\u00e1-las<\/strong> or use those pieces to create something else, maybe even more beautiful. The point is you would still cherish it, now maybe even more than before. That\u2019s the whole logic behind the \u201crepara\u00e7\u00e3o dourada<\/em>\u201d principle!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mesmo com uma forma e um aspeto diferentes, continuaria a ser valioso e a contar uma bela hist\u00f3ria. hist\u00f3ria sobre a sua evolu\u00e7\u00e3o, altera\u00e7\u00f5es e repara\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>. It\u2019s the same when it comes to humans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ent\u00e3o, de que \u00e9 que est\u00e1 \u00e0 espera? Vai simplesmente deitar fora todo o esfor\u00e7o que fez na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou vai tentar repar\u00e1-lo e criar algo ainda melhor<\/strong>? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine your relationship as one of those craft projects you did for school as a kid. You wouldn\u2019t give up easily even if something didn\u2019t go well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s because you wanted your project to be the best it can be and you wanted everyone to be amazed. So take some colors and glitter and sprinkle them on your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pode parecer estranho comparar a cer\u00e2mica a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, mas n\u00e3o somos t\u00e3o complicados como pensamos <\/strong>we are. If we approached other life problems like this, they wouldn\u2019t seem so bad, would they? <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Everybody wants that perfect fairytale love but when things don\u2019t go exactly as we imagined them, that can break us. After all, our lives are not produced by the Walt Disney Studios (such a shame, I know). Whenever I came across problems with my partner I tried to seek comfort and help in my friendships…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":164706,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164703","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/This-Ancient-Japanese-Philosophy-Helped-Me-Improve-My-Relationship-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164703","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164703"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164703\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":164709,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164703\/revisions\/164709"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164706"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164703"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164703"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164703"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}