{"id":164725,"date":"2024-05-23T13:10:45","date_gmt":"2024-05-23T13:10:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164725"},"modified":"2024-05-23T13:10:45","modified_gmt":"2024-05-23T13:10:45","slug":"como-ter-uma-relacao-saudavel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ter-uma-relacao-saudavel\/","title":{"rendered":"Como ganhar finalmente o jogo do amor depois de in\u00fameros fracassos, segundo a minha amiga divorciada"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I have a friend, we\u2019ll call her Lisa, an elegant, confident woman shining in her forties. She wasn\u2019t always like this, though. I\u2019ve witnessed <strong>tempos terrivelmente dif\u00edceis no que respeita \u00e0 sua vida amorosa <\/strong>\u2013 just a few ups and bountiful downs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2013 \u201cWhile I was young I imagined myself in my forties as married with two kids living in a cozy suburban house. Now that I am getting close to that age <strong>Sinto-me um fracasso ambulante <\/strong>\u2013 divorced twice, no kids, living in a tiny condo.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parece-lhe familiar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Esta era a Lisa h\u00e1 tr\u00eas anos, desesperada, a perguntar-se como \u00e9 que tudo tinha corrido mal. Ela passava as noites a chorar no meu sof\u00e1. <strong>Podem imaginar o n\u00edvel de frustra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> que ela sentiu, tu podes? Tudo causado pela forma como a sua vida se desenrolou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depois, come\u00e7ou a consultar terapeutas, at\u00e9 tentou fazer ioga e <em>aten\u00e7\u00e3o plena <\/em>t\u00e9cnicas. Passado algum tempo, reinventou-se e <strong>mudou a sua vis\u00e3o sobre encontros e rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong> Be like Lisa \u2013 learn from your mistakes! These are her tips on how to build healthy relationships and enjoy life to the fullest!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Identificar os pontos problem\u00e1ticos!<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop.jpg\" alt=\"mulher ruiva jovem e triste num caf\u00e9\" class=\"wp-image-164737\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/sad-young-redhead-woman-in-a-coffee-shop-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong><em>Eu estava a exagerar! Estava desesperadamente \u00e0 procura de algu\u00e9m que preenchesse o vazio que surgiu ap\u00f3s o meu segundo div\u00f3rcio.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>The first step is to spot all the pain points \u2013 mistakes you are repeating over and over again. After decades in corporate law, <strong>Lisa\u2019s mindset was trained to push too hard.<\/strong> She wouldn\u2019t allow for things to spontaneously happen, but instead, she would <strong>perseguir o amor namorando agressivamente,<\/strong> conhecer pessoas atrav\u00e9s de aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros, ou mesmo casamenteiros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was overdoing it as she did in both her marriages, failing to notice both of her ex-husbands were living \u201cdouble lives\u201d. Sometimes life can be tough, but you must never give up on yourself! Life is also full of twists and turns. You never know where they will take you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Foi ent\u00e3o que se deparou com uma cita\u00e7\u00e3o convincente numa loja de vinhos local: <strong><em>A vida \u00e9 um equil\u00edbrio entre o fazer acontecer e o deixar acontecer.<\/em><\/strong><em> <\/em>Bastante simples, mas com um efeito t\u00e3o revelador, Lisa sentiu de repente a necessidade de alterar os seus padr\u00f5es de comportamento e encontrou um novo \u00e2ngulo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Concentrem-se na vossa pr\u00f3pria felicidade!<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem e feliz sentada num sof\u00e1\" class=\"wp-image-164735\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Happy-young-woman-sitting-on-sofa-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong><em>Enquanto andava freneticamente atr\u00e1s de perspectivas de relacionamento, esqueci-me de estar presente na minha vida!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Por fim, permitiu-se respirar fundo primeiro. Depois, avan\u00e7ou lentamente, passo a passo. <strong>O facto de se concentrar noutros pequenos prazeres da vida fez com que deixasse de dar import\u00e2ncia ao namoro. <\/strong>Desactivou as notifica\u00e7\u00f5es das aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros e s\u00f3 as consultava ocasionalmente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Set yourself free. Enjoy life. Get out hiking with friends, plant a tree, read books, join art therapy sessions\u2026 <strong>H\u00e1 muitas actividades alegres para al\u00e9m do namoro.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating can still be an important part of your life but don\u2019t let it dominate over. <strong>Don\u2019t rush things out! Take it slowly. <\/strong>Planeie um encontro uma vez por semana e d\u00ea a si pr\u00f3pria a oportunidade de o desejar. A quantidade de prazer quando o encontrar duplicar\u00e1 dessa forma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Entre em sintonia consigo pr\u00f3prio e tente identificar os seus pensamentos e sentimentos durante o encontro. Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao comportamento, gestos ou palavras dele. Parece-lhe correto? Consegue ser voc\u00ea mesma \u00e0 frente dele? Partilhe as suas observa\u00e7\u00f5es com amigos e familiares. Talvez fique com uma perspetiva ainda melhor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Aprender a cultivar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a segurar rosas e a abra\u00e7ar um namorado\" class=\"wp-image-164736\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-holding-roses-and-hugging-a-boyfriend-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p><strong><em>Quando conheci o meu atual noivo, pela primeira vez ao fim de muitos anos, n\u00e3o tinha grandes expectativas. Esperava apenas ter uma conversa agrad\u00e1vel e desfrutar do jantar.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Continuaram a encontrar-se uma vez por semana e, passados alguns meses, comprometeram-se a manter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finalmente, conseguiu descobrir como a rela\u00e7\u00e3o se desenvolve ao longo do tempo. Ao dar a si pr\u00f3pria a oportunidade de levar as coisas com calma, ela estava <strong>para o conhecer melhor, <\/strong>para ouvir sobre os seus amigos, pais, experi\u00eancias de vida, atitudes e pensamentos, sem a pressa habitual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Como <strong>permitiu-se saborear o momento sem se precipitar para o futuro<\/strong>Com o passar do tempo, tornou-se mais capaz de se compreender melhor a si pr\u00f3pria. Ao conhecer-se a si pr\u00f3pria, era <strong>capaz de manter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Resumindo, est\u00e3o juntos h\u00e1 quase dois anos e ficaram noivos recentemente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All of Lisa\u2019s <strong>failures were lessons and a path to today\u2019s version of herself<\/strong> and her ability to love and be loved. Admittedly, she wouldn&#8217;t have done it differently even if she could.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Para mudar as circunst\u00e2ncias, \u00e9 preciso primeiro mudar as cren\u00e7as. O potencial de mudan\u00e7a e de desenvolvimento pessoal est\u00e1 dentro de n\u00f3s. Mas, por favor, lembre-se de respirar primeiro.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have a friend, we\u2019ll call her Lisa, an elegant, confident woman shining in her forties. She wasn\u2019t always like this, though. I\u2019ve witnessed awfully rough times concerning her love life \u2013 just a few ups and bountiful downs. \u2013 \u201cWhile I was young I imagined myself in my forties as married with two kids&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":164734,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164725","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/How-To-Finally-Win-The-Love-Game-After-Countless-Failures-According-To-My-Divorced-Friend-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164725","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164725"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164725\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":164738,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164725\/revisions\/164738"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164734"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164725"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164725"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164725"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}