{"id":164763,"date":"2025-01-27T15:30:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-27T14:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164763"},"modified":"2025-01-24T20:22:33","modified_gmt":"2025-01-24T19:22:33","slug":"faca-isto-com-o-seu-parceiro-antes-do-casamento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/faca-isto-com-o-seu-parceiro-antes-do-casamento\/","title":{"rendered":"10 coisas que devem fazer juntos antes de dizerem \"EU FA\u00c7O"},"content":{"rendered":"

I never thought I would get married before I met John. It\u2019s like none of the guys were good enough or ticked all my boxes. The same questions would always repeat in my head like a broken record that never stops playing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9 mesmo com ele que quero criar filhos? Ficar com rugas e cabelos brancos? Fazer todas as coisas pirosas que s\u00f3 se fazem quando se est\u00e1 loucamente apaixonado?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow did you know he was the one?\u201d<\/em> \u2013 I asked all of my friends when they got married in the hope I would get some orienta\u00e7\u00f5es para tomar uma decis\u00e3o correcta<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They all had different answers but it all came down to one thing \u2013 certifiquem-se de que passam por estas coisas juntos antes do casamento<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dei \u00e0 minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o tempo suficiente para passar por todas as fases importantes e, pouco depois, subi ao altar! Ainda estou casada e feliz e agora sei finalmente o que \u00e9 preciso para ter a certeza se queremos casar com essa pessoa ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Sobreviver aos tempos sombrios<\/h2>\n\n\n
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It\u2019s all fun and games when things are perfect and go smoothly. What happens when a sudden thunderstorm appears and everything falls apart? Este \u00e9 um verdadeiro teste \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>N\u00e3o s\u00f3 com o seu parceiro, mas tamb\u00e9m com os seus amigos!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O seu parceiro deve ser como uma luz ao fundo do t\u00fanel<\/strong>e a ajudar-te a encontrar a sa\u00edda. Lembro-me dos momentos dif\u00edceis que passei, das m\u00e1s not\u00edcias que recebi e dos afrontamentos que me percorreram o corpo todo como se fosse ontem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, with John, everything was easier, even the worst problems didn\u2019t seem so scary. I always wish to have him by my side when things go south.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Don\u2019t run away from conflicts<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Toda a gente mostra as suas verdadeiras cores durante uma discuss\u00e3o. Esta \u00e9 uma momento perfeito para perceber o que algu\u00e9m sente por si<\/strong>. Prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o a <\/strong>como agem, as palavras que dizem e como nos fazem sentir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e3o evitar a discuss\u00e3o<\/strong> ou a ignorar-vos? Eles fazer com que se sinta ouvido <\/strong>e querem de facto compreender o seu ponto de vista<\/strong>? S\u00e3o defensivo e manipulador<\/strong>, making you think it\u2019s all your fault?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9 poss\u00edvel saber muito sobre uma pessoa s\u00f3 de ver como ela age durante uma discuss\u00e3o. \u00c9 bom que seja capaz de resolver os seus conflitos, caso contr\u00e1rio, uma pequena discuss\u00e3o no seu casamento pode levar diretamente a um advogado de div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Partilhar o mesmo teto<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Even if you can\u2019t live together for some reason, you should at least spend a longer period together under the same roof. It\u2019s like um c\u00f3digo de batota para espreitar o que muito provavelmente est\u00e1 \u00e0 sua espera<\/strong> para o resto da tua vida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will help you figure out their habits and discuss them on time. It\u2019s also a great opportunity to esclarecer as responsabilidades dom\u00e9sticas<\/strong>. If you don\u2019t want to do everything by yourself, be like Cardi B and tell them straight: \u201cI don\u2019t cook, I don\u2019t clean!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

My friend made a \u201cthree-month trial\u201d deal with her fianc\u00e9 to see how things would go once they were living together. After three months, they realized they were indeed a perfect match and got married! To be honest, I think she was onto something with this trick\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Explorar novos s\u00edtios em conjunto<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Num ver\u00e3o, fiz uma grande viagem \u00e0 \u00c1sia com o meu parceiro. Era uma verdadeira dor de cabe\u00e7a planear uma viagem bastante longa para o outro lado do mundo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am very organized but also start to panic when things don\u2019t go as planned. John on the other hand is laid back and pretty spontaneous. We missed our flight on the way back and while I was anxiously trying to stay calm, he already handled everything and made sure I didn\u2019t stress. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Viajar antes do casamento pode ajud\u00e1-lo a descobrir como lidam com o stress e enfrentam situa\u00e7\u00f5es dif\u00edceis<\/strong>. Se tudo correr bem, parab\u00e9ns, ganhou a lotaria!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Certificar-se de que est\u00e1 na mesma p\u00e1gina<\/h2>\n\n\n
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A lot of marriages fail because people forget they need to do the most basic thing \u2013 talk. Apressar o casamento sem discutir assuntos importantes nunca acaba bem<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imagine o seguinte. Sempre sonhou em ser uma dona de casa com 5 filhos e mudar-se para o campo na Europa. Ele, por outro lado, quer ficar na Am\u00e9rica, na sua grande cidade natal, e come\u00e7ar um neg\u00f3cio consigo, sem filhos \u00e0 vista. Acha mesmo que isto vai resultar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t even bother thinking you can change his mind and have it your way. Would you give up on your dreams to make his dreams come true? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Falar de dinheiro!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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A minha amiga e o seu marido cresceram em ambientes totalmente diferentes. Nunca falaram de finan\u00e7as antes do casamento. Adivinha qual foi o motivo da sua primeira grande discuss\u00e3o?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Soon after being at the altar, she was surprised by his crazy spending habits and he realized he couldn\u2019t be with someone who looked where every penny goes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all make mistakes but in this case, you don\u2019t have to, so discutir a forma como tenciona gerir as suas finan\u00e7as e contas banc\u00e1rias<\/strong>. N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de falar tamb\u00e9m sobre as suas expectativas no que diz respeito ao seu estilo de vida e aos seus planos para o futuro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Ter conversas inc\u00f3modas<\/h2>\n\n\n
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O conselho que dou sempre a toda a gente \u00e9 conhecer a pessoa com quem se vai casar por dentro e por fora<\/strong>O bom e o mau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reserve algum tempo para falar honestamente sobre o seu passado, inf\u00e2ncia, problemas familiares ou qualquer trauma que possa ter. Estes s\u00e3o temas complicados, mas depois destas conversas, conseguir\u00e1 compreender muito melhor o seu parceiro<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about your boundaries and triggers, your values and dreams. Don\u2019t limit yourself, the topics are countless and will help you immensely in construir uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o forte<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Saying \u2018yes\u2019 to your forever partner can sound intimidating especially when you\u2019re not sure if you are making the right decision. However, going through these life experiences together will help you know if they are the one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As long as you hide in your comfort zone and aren\u2019t open about everything, you probably aren\u2019t ready for the next big step. Assim<\/strong> n\u00e3o tenha pressa, aperte o cinto e desfrute da viagem<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Testar as \u00e1guas durante uma crise<\/h2>\n\n\n
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They say true character is revealed in difficult situations. Before getting married, it\u2019s essential to see how your partner handles a crisis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A vida \u00e9 imprevis\u00edvel, e you need to know if they\u2019ll be your rock when the ground beneath you shakes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember when John lost his job unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and we didn\u2019t know what was coming next. Instead of spiraling, he stayed calm and focused, making a plan and reassuring me that we\u2019d get through it together. Esse momento mostrou-me a sua for\u00e7a e resist\u00eancia.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your partner can\u2019t handle tough times or falls apart when things get messy, it\u2019s something to seriously think about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll want someone who can face the storms of life with you, not leave you standing in the rain alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Meet each other\u2019s people<\/h2>\n\n\n
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You\u2019re not just marrying your partner \u2013 you\u2019re marrying into their world. Meeting their family and friends is a non-negotiable step before walking down the aisle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Isto dar-lhe-\u00e1 informa\u00e7\u00f5es valiosas sobre quem s\u00e3o e o tipo de ambiente de que prov\u00eam.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I met my husband’s family, I instantly understood where his kindness and patience came from. Spending time with his friends showed me how he treats others and what kind of relationships he values. On the flip side, introducing him to my people gave him a deeper understanding of me and my world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se algo parecer estranho \u00e0s pessoas que lhe s\u00e3o mais pr\u00f3ximas, tome nota.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t have to love everyone in their circle, but you should feel comfortable and accepted in it. O casamento \u00e9 mais do que duas pessoas<\/strong> \u2013 it\u2019s the merging of lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Laugh together\u2026 a lot<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Pode parecer simples, mas o humor \u00e9 uma das bases mais fortes para um casamento feliz. Life will throw you curveballs, and if you can still find reasons to laugh together, you\u2019re on the right path.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

O John e eu temos as nossas pr\u00f3prias tradi\u00e7\u00f5es e piadas internas que nos mant\u00eam ligados mesmo quando as coisas se tornam dif\u00edceis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ainda me lembro perfeitamente de uma vez em que fomos apanhados pela chuva durante uma viagem, encharcados e frustrados, e ele transformou o momento num espet\u00e1culo de com\u00e9dia. Em vez de nos concentrarmos no inc\u00f3modo, acab\u00e1mos por nos rir tanto que at\u00e9 me doeu o est\u00f4mago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can\u2019t laugh together, even in the mundane or difficult moments, life will feel heavier than it needs to. Find someone who keeps you smiling, and you\u2019ll never run out of reasons to stay in love.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I never thought I would get married before I met John. It\u2019s like none of the guys were good enough or ticked all my boxes. The same questions would always repeat in my head like a broken record that never stops playing. Is he really the one I want to raise kids with? Get wrinkles…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":164771,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164763","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Dont-say-\u2018I-DO-Before-Youve-Done-These-Things-Together-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164763"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":192657,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164763\/revisions\/192657"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164771"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164763"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164763"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164763"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}