{"id":164791,"date":"2024-05-27T08:26:53","date_gmt":"2024-05-27T08:26:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164791"},"modified":"2024-05-27T08:26:54","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T08:26:54","slug":"a-ciencia-vai-ajudar-te-a-sobreviver-a-uma-separacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-ciencia-vai-ajudar-te-a-sobreviver-a-uma-separacao\/","title":{"rendered":"Quanto tempo levar\u00e1 para se recuperar de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, segundo a ci\u00eancia"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Oh, separa\u00e7\u00f5es, <strong>o feio final de um <\/strong><strong><em>liga\u00e7\u00e3o<\/em><\/strong><strong> que parecia t\u00e3o prometedor<\/strong>. One day he\u2019s my whole world and then, before I know it, he becomes a complete stranger, literally overnight. Or I missed noticing how both of us changed over time and all that drew us to each other, suddenly disappeared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dou por mim a sofrer muito e a pensar como juntar os meus peda\u00e7os. Pelos vistos, somos todos diferentes. <strong>A minha irm\u00e3 consegue p\u00f4r-se de p\u00e9 depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o num piscar de olhos. <\/strong>I\u2019m usually drowning my soul in sorrow and self-pity for months.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Isto depende, naturalmente, de <strong>a sua profundidade e qualidade, bem como a quantidade de significado da rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> trouxe para a minha vida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A minha amiga, Melissa, acredita que <strong>it takes half the time you\u2019ve spent in a relationship to recover <\/strong>after it\u2019s been over, but I strongly disagree as her rule can not be applied to every breakup and every person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Trust me, there\u2019s <strong>n\u00e3o existe uma receita geral para uma recupera\u00e7\u00e3o nem uma resposta absoluta sobre a sua dura\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> It\u2019s all relative and varies from person to person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Com base na minha experi\u00eancia, \u00e9 preciso permitir-se <strong>recover at your own speed, however\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Os estudos estimam que s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rias 10 a 15 semanas para ficar bom<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"mulher preocupada no sof\u00e1\" class=\"wp-image-164792\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-the-couch-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Deparei-me com um <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0022103107000960\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">inqu\u00e9rito<\/a> of the breakup recovery process, and you\u2019ll be interested to hear the results.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Os cientistas perguntaram a 69 <strong>estudantes do primeiro ano de licenciatura<\/strong> da Northwestern University, que estiveram envolvidos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o durante pelo menos 2 meses, para preencherem <strong>question\u00e1rios de duas em duas semanas<\/strong> durante 38 semanas.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ao longo do estudo, 26 deles terminaram as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es e classificaram os seus n\u00edveis de ang\u00fastia. Os <strong>o relat\u00f3rio provou que o n\u00edvel de ang\u00fastia diminui com o tempo <\/strong>e mostrou <strong>s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rias cerca de 10 semanas para se sentir melhor<\/strong> ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Poor students, as if dealing with the pain alone wasn\u2019t enough! They even had to answer some scientists\u2019 questions about it!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Por outro lado, a vota\u00e7\u00e3o em linha <a href=\"http:\/\/www.onepoll.com\/in-the-media\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">resultados<\/a> na OnePoll mostrou que <strong>a cura ap\u00f3s uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o pode durar 3,5 meses<\/strong> e a recupera\u00e7\u00e3o ap\u00f3s um div\u00f3rcio demora at\u00e9 18 meses.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tenha em conta que tanto um estudo cient\u00edfico como uma sondagem em linha utilizaram um per\u00edodo de tempo m\u00e9dio. O seu processo pode durar mais tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A qualidade e o n\u00edvel de empenhamento s\u00e3o factores importantes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair.jpg\" alt=\"mulher preocupada numa cadeira\" class=\"wp-image-164793\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/worried-woman-on-chair-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Provavelmente, o ritmo do processo de cura entre n\u00f3s ser\u00e1 totalmente diferente, <strong>mas a forma como termin\u00e1mos as nossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es pode ter um impacto enorme no caminho para a recupera\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>. Se gritasse e lhe atirasse coisas, <em>menina <\/em>se calhar s\u00f3 precisa de se livrar da raiva primeiro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Uma vez terminei uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o porque o meu namorado da altura era infiel. <em>Auch<\/em>A minha experi\u00eancia com o meu filho foi muito dolorosa, pois tratava-se de dois sentimentos diferentes:<strong> Sentia muito a sua falta, mas ao mesmo tempo desprezava-o<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Por outro lado, depois de ter sa\u00eddo de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o muito t\u00f3xica, consegui voltar ao bom caminho mais cedo do que pensava. Fiquei surpreendida com o facto de me ter sentido imediatamente mais leve e aliviada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As separa\u00e7\u00f5es depois de viverem juntos podem tornar-se insuportavelmente dif\u00edceis. Lembro-me que quando deixei o meu namorado traidor o meu mundo desmoronou-se completamente. <strong>N\u00e3o estava apenas a deix\u00e1-lo, mas tamb\u00e9m a um lugar que foi a minha casa durante algum tempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o era uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel baseada na amizade e no respeito m\u00fatuo e terminou por raz\u00f5es insignificantes ou triviais, <strong>pode gastar um <\/strong><strong><em>longo<\/em><\/strong><strong> tempo a lamber as feridas. <\/strong>(J\u00e1 l\u00e1 estive, j\u00e1 fiz isso!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quem disse<em> it\u2019s over<\/em>? Quando levei com os p\u00e9s, doeu imenso. Mas eu<strong>Foi sobretudo o meu ego que ficou ferido. <\/strong>If YOU dumped him for unforgivable mistakes he has made, you\u2019ll probably forget about him in a few days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mas o que esperar quando dois adultos maduros concordam mutuamente em terminar a sua parceria e desejam tudo de bom um ao outro? Eu tive uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o assim e <strong>A cura foi uma experi\u00eancia complexa e de longo prazo.<\/strong> Mas, pelo menos, n\u00e3o houve sentimentos negativos envolvidos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Estas 5 dicas v\u00e3o ajud\u00e1-lo a ultrapassar mais facilmente a sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de olhos fechados a respirar profundamente\" class=\"wp-image-164794\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/woman-with-closed-eyes-breathing-deeply-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re probably thinking, <em>what tips? What\u2019s there to add, you\u2019ve covered every aspect of the breakup, haven&#8217;t you?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quando <strong>a tua vis\u00e3o fica turva com a agonia de sentir tanto a falta dele<\/strong>, you\u2019ll grab these 6 tips and find them very useful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Vai ter com os teus amigos e familiares<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Rodeie-se dos seus <strong>entes queridos<\/strong> e tentar concentrar-se um pouco nas suas vidas. Falar com eles distrai-lo-\u00e1 da sua dor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Cortar todos os la\u00e7os<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>No calls, no friendship promises, no texts, nothing. I mean it! It will be hard at the beginning but it\u2019s very helpful in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Cuidar de si<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Em vez de se isolar do mundo, tente passar o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel <strong>rodeado de pessoas<\/strong>. Ir ao teatro ou a um concerto. Investir dinheiro num gin\u00e1sio ou numa inscri\u00e7\u00e3o no ioga. Pode at\u00e9 participar em alguns projectos de voluntariado.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Abra\u00e7a a tua dor<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Deixe-se dominar por ela e ceda.<\/strong> You\u2019ll feel as if an evil force is destroying your soul and whole being, but the intensity of the feeling will shorten its lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Reinventar-se<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Recordar e regressar a <strong>o seu eu aut\u00eantico <\/strong>e recordar tudo o que o torna \u00fanico. Desfruta trazendo a tua verdadeira face \u00e0 superf\u00edcie. Isso dar\u00e1 cor aos seus dias tristes e acabar\u00e1 com os tempos dif\u00edceis mais cedo do que pensa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Como \u00e9 que eu sobrevivi?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying.jpg\" alt=\"jovem mulher sorridente a divertir-se\" class=\"wp-image-164796\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/smiling-young-woman-enjoying-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I wish I\u2019d taken these tips more seriously, way sooner. Learn from my mistakes and try them right away!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Acreditem em mim,<\/em> Passei por um inferno ao recuperar de duas separa\u00e7\u00f5es. Parecia que o mundo ia acabar. <strong>S\u00f3 me rodeava uma dor terr\u00edvel.<\/strong> I thought I\u2019d never get over it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I <strong>sentiu vontade de lhe telefonar in\u00fameras vezes <\/strong>mas mantive-me firme na minha decis\u00e3o de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o limpa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Assim que me distra\u00ed<\/strong> by talking about my brother\u2019s college choice, or watching photos of my mom\u2019s vacation in Florida, instead of mourning over my ex, <strong>Comecei a sentir-me um pouco melhor. <\/strong>Depois entrei numa aula de terapia art\u00edstica e conheci pessoas fant\u00e1sticas que ainda hoje s\u00e3o minhas amigas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tamb\u00e9m, <strong>Esforcei-me por experimentar plenamente a intensidade do luto. <\/strong>Quando inundou todo o meu ser, fui capaz de o controlar a partir do interior e finalmente libertar a dor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depois <strong>Deixei a minha pele, pus-me de p\u00e9 e comecei a encontrar pequenas alegrias na vida quotidiana. <\/strong>I\u2019ve also rediscovered long-forgotten nuances of my personality and loved <em>o novo-velho eu<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vai melhorar, confia em mim! <strong><em>Pode estar a chover a c\u00e2ntaros, mas depois de cada tempestade vem o sol!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Oh breakups, the ugly finale of a liaison which seemed so promising. One day he\u2019s my whole world and then, before I know it, he becomes a complete stranger, literally overnight. Or I missed noticing how both of us changed over time and all that drew us to each other, suddenly disappeared. I find myself&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":164795,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164791","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/How-Long-Itll-Take-You-To-Recover-From-Breakup-According-To-Science-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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