{"id":164800,"date":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","date_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164800"},"modified":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","slug":"viagem-ao-amor-proprio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/viagem-ao-amor-proprio\/","title":{"rendered":"Depois de anos a ser alvo de cr\u00edticas, voltei finalmente a gostar de mim!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I haven\u2019t felt like I was attractive enough for the last, I don\u2019t even know how many years. De alguma forma, nunca fui capaz de me enquadrar no padr\u00e3o de beleza<\/strong> que toda a gente nos est\u00e1 a enfiar pela garganta abaixo. N\u00e3o importa o que eu fizesse ou o quanto eu mudasse, nunca era bom o suficiente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although at first, I didn\u2019t seem to notice something was so awfully wrong (it wasn\u2019t) with my body, others often made sure to let me know that loud and clear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This caused me to question my sanity. I wasn\u2019t even sure if I loved myself anymore?! My mental health took a toll on me and years of struggling were in front of me. However, this also marked the beginning of my long journey to self-love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu n\u00e3o passava de pele e ossos para as outras pessoas<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Ever since elementary school kids would pick on me because of my weight. It didn\u2019t help that I was the tallest girl in my class, even taller than all the boys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teasing from my peers didn\u2019t really surprise me, unlike grown-up people who would <\/strong>comment on my body all the time! And yeah, they didn\u2019t have many positive things to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ao longo dos anos, ouvi muitos coment\u00e1rios diferentes, na maioria das vezes os que tentavam ser disfar\u00e7ado de engra\u00e7ado e prejudicial<\/strong>. \u201cDo you have anything to eat?\u201d<\/em> Sim, Karen, eu como muita comida. Por vezes, at\u00e9 comia mais do que o meu pai. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tudo isto tornava-me muito consciente e insegura<\/strong>. I always wondered how the world praises models like Bella Hadid and does everything to look like her, while they treat me like I\u2019m some kind of a skeleton. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day I checked her height and weight, and all her proportions, only to find out that the only difference between us is that I have wider hips. (Sure, I\u2019m also not a billionaire, but you know what I think.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que tamb\u00e9m me incomodou muito foi o facto de ningu\u00e9m entendia a s\u00e9rio a minha dor<\/strong>. H\u00e1 quem ache piada ao facto de eu ser consciente de mim pr\u00f3pria por ser magra. \u201cI wish that was my problem!\u201d, <\/em>costumavam dizer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People can\u2019t understand that someone dizer que se \u00e9 demasiado magro \u00e9 igualmente insultuoso e ofensivo<\/strong> como algu\u00e9m que nos chama de obesos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The worst thing wasn\u2019t even the fact that random people would give themselves permission to speak about meu<\/em> corpo. A verdadeira queda da minha confian\u00e7a come\u00e7ou quando comecei a namorar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Worst of all, my partner\u2019s hate exceeded everyone else\u2019s<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Sempre que est\u00e1vamos juntos, o seu olhar intenso deixava-me quase nua. Enquanto os seus olhos percorriam o meu corpo, as pontas dos seus dedos pintavam o meu corpo como se fosse uma tela. Esperava com o desejo de ver onde nos levaria o seu pr\u00f3ximo toque.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enquanto os seus olhos continuavam a percorrer cada cent\u00edmetro de mim, quase parecia que ele estava \u00e0 procura de alguma coisa. Eu tinha raz\u00e3o. Ele estava \u00e0 procura de formas de destruir a minha confian\u00e7a, j\u00e1 de si quebrada<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que eu pensava ser um momento de pura satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o para ambos, acabou por ser nada mais do que ele tentando encontrar os meus defeitos<\/strong>. I didn\u2019t realize how much words can hurt until I heard them from someone I deeply loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cReal women have curves. You would look better with more meat on your bones. It\u2019s like you\u2019re almost invisible,\u201d<\/em> dizia ele. Cada palavra cortava mais fundo na minha mente<\/strong>A dor \u00e9 t\u00e3o grande como nunca tinha sentido. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve gone through this hell for a couple of months thinking that he\u2019ll change and fall in love with my body. When I realized that wouldn\u2019t happen, it was like something just switched in my head and I started thinking differently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O meu amor-pr\u00f3prio ultrapassou tudo<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Depois de muito tempo a duvidar de mim pr\u00f3pria e a tentar perceber qual era o meu problema, apercebi-me de que o problema nunca esteve em mim<\/strong>. O tempo todo, estava nas outras pessoas, nas suas inseguran\u00e7as escondidas e no reflexo da sua confian\u00e7a inst\u00e1vel em mim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I realized that a person who is primarily fulfilled with themselves and happy in their skin would never act purposely in a way that would hurt someone. They are busy with their life and don\u2019t want to waste their energy on such negative things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those people are also aware they won\u2019t gain anything from hurting someone\u2019s feelings (besides good old karma), while as pessoas infelizes obt\u00eam uma dose r\u00e1pida de satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o ao deitarem os outros abaixo <\/strong>at\u00e9 voltarem \u00e0s suas vidas tristes e miser\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Escolhi a minha felicidade em vez das inseguran\u00e7as<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Quando me distanciei das pessoas negativas e me rodeei de pessoas am\u00e1veis, Reencontrei a confian\u00e7a e o amor por mim pr\u00f3pria h\u00e1 muito perdidos<\/strong>. Agora penso que o meu corpo \u00e9 perfeito tal como \u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone\u2019s body is beyond perfect even though we don\u2019t realize it. Your body keeps you alive, your legs take you wherever you want, your brain helps you create amazing things and every cell in your body has some function which it tirelessly performs every second. Our bodies truly are a miracle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You should never lose hope because what isn\u2019t attractive to one man, another one will happily praise! At the end of the day, the most important thing is up to us. How can we expect others to love us if we don\u2019t love ourselves? <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I haven\u2019t felt like I was attractive enough for the last, I don\u2019t even know how many years. I was somehow never able to fit into the beauty standard everyone is shoving down our throats. No matter what I did or how much I changed, it was never good enough. Although at first, I didn\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":164803,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164800","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/After-Years-Of-Body-Shaming-I-Finally-Love-Myself-Again-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164800"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":164808,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164800\/revisions\/164808"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164803"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}