{"id":164980,"date":"2024-05-30T08:33:09","date_gmt":"2024-05-30T08:33:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164980"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:12:31","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:12:31","slug":"porque-e-que-o-casamento-e-tao-dificil","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-o-casamento-e-tao-dificil\/","title":{"rendered":"O casamento \u00e9 dif\u00edcil porque esperamos que seja f\u00e1cil"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cI\u2019m getting married!\u201d<\/em><\/strong> Nesses dias, gritei com toda a gente e mostrei o meu anel de noivado em \u00eaxtase. Passados alguns meses, chegou o grande dia e eu estava t\u00e3o entusiasmada e aliviada ao mesmo tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Um jogo intermin\u00e1vel de amor tinha finalmente terminado, e eu ganhei. Apaguei todas as aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros e fiquei muito contente por ter terminado de conhecer novas pessoas e de namorar arduamente. Tendo tamb\u00e9m uma carreira de sucesso na \u00e1rea financeira, pensei Eu tinha tudo planeado <\/em><\/strong>(E enganei-me!).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conto de fadas<\/strong> <\/em><\/strong>influ\u00eancias coloriram a minha vis\u00e3o do futuro<\/strong> (\u2026<\/strong>e viveram felizes para sempre<\/em><\/strong>r <\/strong>\ud83d\ude00), and did not prepare me for the stark reality. You’ll be amused to hear about the first two weeks of my marriage after the honeymoon!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWho are you and what have you done to my hubby!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

I couldn\u2019t recognize the grumpy face on a Monday morning<\/strong> apressava-me a sair da casa de banho para que ele pudesse tomar um duche. Fic\u00e1vamos facilmente irritados e discut\u00edamos por causa das mais pequenas coisas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por exemplo: Eu ficava acordada at\u00e9 tarde e at\u00e9 o mais pequeno ru\u00eddo, como servir um copo de \u00e1gua, atrapalhava o sono dele. Tamb\u00e9m discut\u00edamos sobre comida: eu gostava de br\u00f3colos, ele detestava, e assim por diante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que \u00e9 que aconteceu ao homem calmo e compreensivo que eu costumava namorar?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para resumir a hist\u00f3ria, direi apenas que telefonei \u00e0 minha amiga que era advogada e pedi-lhe que me aconselhasse sobre como posso anular o meu casamento se assim o desejar.<\/strong> Hahaha, esses dias parecem t\u00e3o engra\u00e7ados agora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois de muito pensar, continuava a n\u00e3o fazer ideia de como o fazer funcionar. Por isso, pedi conselhos a alguns casais experientes da minha fam\u00edlia e eles disseram-me que qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o exige esfor\u00e7o e empenhamento<\/strong>especialmente aquele a que chamamos casamento.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI need a marriage manual\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I still believe new couples really need a marriage manual. Yeah, and the exam too \u2013 it should be part of the ceremony: everyone would first have para mostrar os seus dotes matrimoniais<\/strong>. They would be allowed to proceed with the vows only if they passed the \u201cexam\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m just kidding! On the other hand, I wouldn\u2019t complain if someone handed me some useful instructions at the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That way, I would know how to communicate our disagreements properly. I would convince my husband to stop leaving dirty socks all over the place. He would be able to unpack the toothpaste properly \u2013 a caixa iria para o caixote do lixo em vez de ser deixada no lava-loi\u00e7a.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Al\u00e9m disso, seria capaz de o treinar para lavar a loi\u00e7a depois do jantar sozinho, sem eu ter de gritar para o lembrar. Para al\u00e9m disso, ele saberia conviver com os meus defeitos e os meus lados bons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt has to age well!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Casal<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Everyone\u2019s personality is quite complex and he might have some funny habits you\u2019re unable to spot before you spend several years living together. Then you\u2019ll need to learn to accept some and talk openly about others. \u00c9 preciso ter paci\u00eancia e muito trabalho, minha querida!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Estar pronto para embrace all sides of his unique personality, and learn to live with those you can\u2019t change.<\/strong> As long as your relationship is based on solid foundations, mutual respect, and love, you\u2019ll overcome the challenges, grow together, and evolve into compatible life partners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O casamento deve sentir-se como um porto tranquilo ou um santu\u00e1rio contra as preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es, o stress e as lutas di\u00e1rias<\/strong>. That kind of support is not easy to achieve \u2013 it requires time, effort, and huge commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acreditem ou n\u00e3o, com o tempo, o meu marido e eu adapt\u00e1mo-nos bem \u00e0 nossa vida em comum <\/strong>(it wasn\u2019t easy, trust me).<\/strong> Por vezes, fechava os olhos quando ele deixava a loi\u00e7a suja na bancada da cozinha. Ele comprou tamp\u00f5es para os ouvidos para que eu pudesse desfrutar descuidadamente das tardes de tempo para mim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recentemente, encontrei um artigo perspicaz posto<\/a> no Quora, no t\u00f3pico \u201cYou don’t truly know a person until they don’t get what they want?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher chamada Tesrallyn partilhou a sua opini\u00e3o sobre o que significa conhecer verdadeiramente algu\u00e9m. Tenho de admitir que fiquei espantado com a vis\u00e3o que deveria ser t\u00e3o \u00f3bvia: as pessoas tendem a ter uma face p\u00fablica e uma face privada.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So we all behave in one way when interacting with coworkers or people on the street \u2013 that\u2019s the public face. Then there\u2019s the private face shown only to close people and family. To my surprise there is the third type as well \u2013 the lover’s face revealed only to your significant other<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois da minha experi\u00eancia de casar sem viverem juntos primeiro, tenho de concordar plenamente com o seu conselho:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBefore you marry anyone, I recommend living with them for at least a year, before you go through with the wedding. Why? To make sure that you can stand living with them the rest of your life. To see if there\u2019s red flags you may have missed before, because you were too busy being in love to see them (how does he treat animals? children? etc.)\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Pelo menos para evitar a surpresa desagrad\u00e1vel, acrescentaria eu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gostaria muito de saber a vossa opini\u00e3o. Por isso, n\u00e3o hesitem em comentar o nosso P\u00e1gina do Facebook<\/a>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cI\u2019m getting married!\u201d I screamed to everyone on those days and showed off my engagement ring ecstatically. Fast forward a few months and the big day was there, I was so excited and relieved at the same time. An endless game of love was finally over, and I won. I deleted all the dating apps…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":164984,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-164980","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Marriage-Is-Hard-Because-We-Expect-It-To-Be-A-Breeze-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164980","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=164980"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164980\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":164985,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164980\/revisions\/164985"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164984"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=164980"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=164980"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=164980"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}