{"id":165000,"date":"2024-05-31T11:22:47","date_gmt":"2024-05-31T11:22:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165000"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:13:15","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:13:15","slug":"deixou-o-por-causa-da-vergonha-de-ser-gorda-e-encontrou-a-felicidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixou-o-por-causa-da-vergonha-de-ser-gorda-e-encontrou-a-felicidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Deixei o meu namorado que me humilhava por causa da gordura e abracei o amor-pr\u00f3prio"},"content":{"rendered":"

O Alex estava a ajudar-me a limpar a mesa depois do jantar e, de repente, senti a sua m\u00e3o na minha cintura. Ele beliscou o meu top dos muffins e disse que eu ficaria muito mais sexy com uma barriga lisa.<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t say a word, we had been together for 5 years and I never thought he didn\u2019t like my body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Ele reparou que algo estava errado, mas depois tornou-o ainda pior<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 “Tight clothes won’t do you any good.<\/em>” and burst into laughter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Que idiota! Fiquei zangada, ele tentou pedir desculpa, mas eu continuava a sentir-me mal. Passado um bocado, ele fez outro coment\u00e1rio sobre o meu peso <\/strong>(\u00e0 frente dos nossos amigos!):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 “Look at my girl, she’s fat and she proudly wears it.”<\/em> Ele riu-se enquanto todos olhavam para a minha cara corada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn’t consider myself fat, I mean I’m not a model or anything but I always thought I was a bit chubby that’s all. <\/strong>I\u2019ve been like that ever since I was a child. My parents thought my healthy appetite and food enthusiasm were adorable, and let me eat as much as I wanted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois disso, comecei a analisar a minha figura em frente ao espelho but all I could see was his words all over my body “fat, fat, fat”.<\/strong> Depois lembrei-me de como os meus amigos da escola estavam sempre a gozar comigo por causa do meu peso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Tamb\u00e9m me lembrei do meu ex-namorado, Brian, que ap\u00f3s sete meses da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, disse de repente:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"You\u2019re too big<\/em>\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHow do you mean \u201ctoo big\u201d?! I\u2019m just plump!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cNo babe, I bet you would feel happier if you\u2019d skip that burger.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was upset and shocked. I couldn\u2019t believe he thought I needed to lose weight. And ele envergonhava-me pelo meu apetite!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No in\u00edcio, estava deprimida e alimentava a minha tristeza com mais comida. Passava as noites sozinho no meu apartamento, a ver televis\u00e3o com um balde de nuggets de frango e batatas fritas, e a recusar-se a responder aos seus telefonemas.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then one night I answered the phone, even though I was still so hurt and furious, and\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu tamb\u00e9m o envergonhei<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHi Brian. I\u2019ve been thinking about what you said about my size and eating habits. Maybe I\u2019m not that thin, but <\/em>h\u00e1 muitos homens que achar\u00e3o a minha forma curvil\u00ednea muito atraente.<\/em><\/strong> I don\u2019t know if you noticed, but your beer belly is not that cute either. You should really start going to the gym.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He hung up on me, but I didn\u2019t care. De qualquer forma, j\u00e1 tinha acabado.<\/strong> Peguei num saco de batatas fritas e continuei a ver o \u00faltimo epis\u00f3dio da minha s\u00e9rie de televis\u00e3o favorita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After rewinding the past fat-shaming experiences, I\u2019ve made a decision \u2013 I\u2019m gonna leave Alex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como passei a adorar o meu top dos muffins<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

O problema do fat shaming \u00e9 que faz com que as pessoas se sintam t\u00e3o mal que pode causar problemas de sa\u00fade mental muito graves. <\/strong>It can provoke eating disorders, depression, reduced self-esteem, increased cortisol levels, etc. Criticizing someone’s weight is really a bad approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve been fat-shamed, you must first find support within yourself. The first step is to start valuing the primary functions of your body (and aesthetics according to societal norms is not one of them) and agradecer o que ela pode fazer por si.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o, comecei a consultar uma terapeuta e ela ajudou-me a abra\u00e7ar o amor-pr\u00f3prio. Aprendi a gostar do meu corpo tal como ele era e comecei a sentir-me confort\u00e1vel com todas as minhas curvas e com o meu top de muffin. I <\/strong>gostava das minhas cal\u00e7as justas e wouldn\u2019t let anyone make me feel ashamed of my body.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pouco tempo depois, conheci o Jason e ele gostou muito de deslizar os dedos sobre as minhas bordas macias e redondas, e ainda gosta!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re feeling down as someone has fat-shamed you, always remember the quote from Comer, rezar, amar<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201c..so this is what I\u2019m gonna do, I\u2019m gonna finish this pizza and then we\u2019re gonna go watch the soccer game and tomorrow we\u2019re gonna go on a little date and buy ourselves some bigger jeans.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Veja a cena completa: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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