{"id":165123,"date":"2024-06-04T12:38:57","date_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:38:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165123"},"modified":"2024-06-04T12:38:58","modified_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:38:58","slug":"porque-e-que-os-casamentos-estao-a-acabar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-os-casamentos-estao-a-acabar\/","title":{"rendered":"Mulher exp\u00f5e condi\u00e7\u00e3o masculina que pode sabotar o casamento e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 humor que resolva"},"content":{"rendered":"

That day I got furious because he had forgotten to stop by Target AGAIN, and get the ingredients for my cake. It was for our son\u2019s birthday and I planned to make a cake the day before. I gritava e chamava-lhe nomes, e reparou que a sua cara estava toda enrugada<\/strong> but he didn\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After a few weeks, his colleague\u2019s wife told me they had a very upsetting situation at work. He was stressed out and disappointed but wouldn’t say a word about it<\/strong>. Se ao menos ele me tivesse contado o que aconteceu. Eu compreenderia e apoi\u00e1-lo-ia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a well-known fact: men are incapable of speaking about their emotions. A male vocabulary doesn\u2019t contain words that describe their inner impressions<\/strong> e sentimentos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gurl, pay attention \u2013 lack of verbal exchange creates a crack in your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o uma eterna dan\u00e7a f\u00edsica, verbal e emocional (s\u00e3o precisos dois para dan\u00e7ar o tango!)<\/strong> Pelo menos, \u00e9 assim que deve ser. Quando h\u00e1 um desequil\u00edbrio na troca, pode fazer com que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o se torne pouco saud\u00e1vel, onde um lado sofre em sil\u00eancio e o outro age com dureza.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher, chamada Katie Hanlon, abriu-me os olhos. Num v\u00eddeo no TikTok, ela destaca alguns factores, provavelmente pouco \u00f3bvios, que podem causar a rutura de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Refere-se a investiga\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> sobre “normative male alexithymia”<\/em>, and explains it\u2019s a termo psicol\u00f3gico para <\/strong>“not being able to name or talk about your emotions.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In short, men do have feelings but they’re unable to name them and verbally express them. As if they are emotionally illiterate, I would add. Katie is quite convinced that men\u2019s<\/strong> restri\u00e7\u00f5es para articular emo\u00e7\u00f5es <\/strong>s\u00e3o a raz\u00e3o pela qual as rela\u00e7\u00f5es flutuam por vezes em mares agitados.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMen feel the emotion and they just don\u2019t know how to talk about it, or how to garner empathy from each other about said emotion.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Salienta ainda que o problema n\u00e3o desaparecer\u00e1 com o tempo e que os casais n\u00e3o devem ignorar nem subestimar o perigo que lhe est\u00e1 subjacente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, men who are prone to holding in emotions tend to pass on this habit to their spouses too. That\u2019s why algumas mulheres optam por suportar a tempestade <\/strong>and hide the emotional grief as they can\u2019t expect any understanding or dialogue with their partners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAll the couple\u2019s humor in the world does not take away from the fact that you’re just not interested in us.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

This sounds like she believes men are actually not really interested in women and that\u2019s the reason why they rather make jokes instead of having serious talk about what bothers them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parece-lhe familiar? Eu sei que quando tento falar com o meu marido sobre o que ele sente, ele come\u00e7a logo a brincar ou muda de assunto. Ele n\u00e3o se sentir\u00e1 \u00e0 vontade para falar de emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/strong>nem me dizer se o magoei (acidentalmente) com uma m\u00e1 escolha de palavras.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He won\u2019t communicate the emotion and I\u2019m unfortunately not a mind reader. That creates a que se torna maior cada vez que ele guarda tudo para si<\/strong>. Com o tempo, tornamo-nos mais distantes e a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o sofre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What he won’t admit is this: destr\u00f3i a sua auto-confian\u00e7a masculina. <\/strong>We know well, that it\u2019s all rooted in the patriarchy and traditional masculinity. While at the same time:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI know for a fact there are wives all over the world who regularly cry themselves to sleep over their marriages\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

My husband thinks he needs to withhold his feelings and be tough, and it\u2019s forbidden to show any \u201cfemale-like\u201d traits such as sensitivity or crying, etc. A auto-censura ou a oculta\u00e7\u00e3o de qualquer fraqueza impede os homens de estabelecerem rela\u00e7\u00f5es significativas<\/strong> e sufoca qualquer troca emocional no seu interior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Katie acredita que se os homens n\u00e3o est\u00e3o dispostos a falar sobre as suas necessidades emocionais, ent\u00e3o couples can\u2019t start resolving some other common issues<\/strong> such as unequal involvement in child care or housework, and mental workload (project manager of all family activities!) that\u2019s usually more of a woman\u2019s burden in marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A public opinion on TikTok strongly agrees with Katie\u2019s assumptions, and one of the commenters, a woman, named Anu, shared her story: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI left a 25 year marriage because of this. I cried on the regular and was always sick. It\u2019s been 6 years and I\u2019ve never been better.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Um utilizador whoisandrewblack<\/em> sublinhou o problema das normas sociais que levam os homens a comportarem-se como se comportam:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Not only are these things not taught\/modeled to men, but they are also actively repressed by our society. Each man is completely on his own in this struggle.” <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Another person, jpickle3, made a comment about how men usually don\u2019t start talking about emotions first, but they do react to woman\u2019s emotions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“When they do talk about emotions it’s when you talk about yours first and they’re upset and express how bad that makes them feel about themselves.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

In the end, I will say that men really need to become friends with their emotions and understand their masculinity will not be compromised by showing vulnerability. You are humans, for God\u2019s sake!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

That day I got furious because he had forgotten to stop by Target AGAIN, and get the ingredients for my cake. It was for our son\u2019s birthday and I planned to make a cake the day before. I shouted and called him names, and noticed his face was all shriveled but he didn\u2019t say anything….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":165124,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165123","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Woman-Exposes-Male-Condition-That-May-Sabotage-Marriage-And-No-Humor-Can-Fix-It-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":244,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":244,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165123"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165125,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165123\/revisions\/165125"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165124"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165123"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165123"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165123"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}