You know, when people don\u2019t take anything you say seriously. They expect you to shake everything off with a smile and a \u201cit\u2019s no big deal\u201d<\/em> attitude. If yes, you\u2019ve been the victim of toxic positivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Depois de ler isto, tente prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s coisas que o rodeiam, aos an\u00fancios de televis\u00e3o, aos outdoors, \u00e0s coisas que aparecem no seu telem\u00f3vel, a tudo! <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s crazy when you think about it but we\u2019re literally surrounded by this big cloud of positivity wherever we go. This sounds funny and harmless but in this way, a sociedade coloca-nos um grande peso em cima.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n J\u00e1 alguma vez viu um an\u00fancio realista de um penso ou de um tamp\u00e3o? Vemos estas raparigas felizes a correr despreocupadamente, a saltitar nas suas cal\u00e7as de ganga brancas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They look like they just won a jackpot and not like they\u2019re bleeding and feeling like their insides are shredding. And here you are \u2013 lying down in the fetal position, in excruciating pain cursing the day you were born as a woman. So yeah\u2026not really accurate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A mentalidade positiva \u00e9-nos sempre empurrada pela garganta abaixo. <\/strong>Os influenciadores est\u00e3o a pregar um estilo de vida f\u00e1cil, o \u201cgood vibes only\u201d<\/em> A cita\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 em tudo o que nos rodeia e os autoproclamados gurus est\u00e3o a vender-nos os seus livros e cursos! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n You can\u2019t even catch a break in the workplace! More and more often as empresas est\u00e3o a promover a positividade atrav\u00e9s das suas culturas no local de trabalho<\/strong> with the excuse of wanting to create a healthy environment when they\u2019re actually doing the exact opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Viver desta forma n\u00e3o \u00e9 normal e natural para os seres humanos, al\u00e9m de que, a longo prazo, cria um maior impacto negativo! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pressionar as pessoas para que coloquem um la\u00e7o bonito em tudo o que dizem apenas desvaloriza os seus sentimentos e faz com que sintam que as suas reac\u00e7\u00f5es e emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o exageradas. E este \u00e9 um caminho perigoso a seguir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Keeping an optimistic attitude is recommended as we shouldn\u2019t be pessimistic about everything but forcing ourselves to be happy even when that\u2019s not the case is not healthy at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n At\u00e9 a ci\u00eancia descobriu que reprimir as emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00f3 leva ao que eles chamam de \u201crebound effect\u201d<\/em>. Claro que pode optar por ignorar os seus sentimentos e s\u00f3 exprimir certas emo\u00e7\u00f5es durante algum tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n No entanto, mais cedo ou mais tarde, isso ir\u00e1 repercutir-se e criar apenas um efeito pior do que no in\u00edcio, quando opt\u00e1mos por n\u00e3o lidar com o problema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Trust me, I\u2019ve tried that and can confirm it. Dismissing my negative emotions and pushing myself to feel happy all the time gave me nothing except um colapso s\u00fabito e meses de terapia. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Alguns estudos demonstraram mesmo que evitar emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas durante per\u00edodos prolongados pode levar ao desenvolvimento de muitas doen\u00e7as, incluindo o cancro! Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que sa\u00edmos deste ciclo intermin\u00e1vel de toxicidade?<\/p>\n\n\n\n I remember how my psychologist gave me a really simple advice \u2013 you need to feel everything. Sure, feeling ugly emotions is not fun and easy but it\u2019s a must to keep our sanity<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t hide from anger, sadness, and frustration by scrolling on your phone or binge-watching some TV show. If you do, those negative emotions will find you when you least expect it and crush you down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Isto tamb\u00e9m se aplica ao relacionamento com outras pessoas. Se algu\u00e9m lhe der a sua alma, evite dizer coisas como:<\/p>\n\n\n\n I know it\u2019s in our human nature to help others and we often think the right way to do it is by cheering them up but sometimes that\u2019s not the case. It\u2019s completely fine to be upset<\/strong> e muitas vezes a melhor coisa que podemos oferecer a algu\u00e9m \u00e9 apenas um aceno silencioso e um ombro para chorar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Outra dica \u00fatil \u00e9 consumir sempre os media com um gr\u00e3o de sal.<\/strong> You don\u2019t post your worst life moments on Instagram, do you? So why do you think that an influencer and a friend from high school are living their best life every day? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever you think someone\u2019s life is perfect, just know that you\u2019re not seeing the full picture. You have to remember that there\u2019s more to life than what we show on social media. Toda a gente tem as suas pr\u00f3prias dificuldades<\/strong> and obviously, we won\u2019t share it all with the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But what we should do, is find ourselves friends we can share it with and not be attacked by a stream of toxic positivity but compassion and understanding. Don\u2019t forget to do the same for yourself too and remember that todos os sentimentos s\u00e3o v\u00e1lidos e n\u00e3o t\u00eam qualquer problema!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ever had one of those days where nothing goes according to plan or maybe you just heard some bad news that crushed your world? When that happens, we usually share it with someone close. I mean, it\u2019s much easier when we don\u2019t keep everything to ourselves, right? At least this is how it should be….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":165254,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165246","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Why-Is-Toxic-Positivity-Bad-For-Us-And-How-To-Deal-With-It-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165246"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165255,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246\/revisions\/165255"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165254"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165246"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165246"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165246"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Como \u00e9 que a sociedade nos convenceu de que a positividade t\u00f3xica \u00e9 normal<\/h2>\n\n\n
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