{"id":165274,"date":"2024-06-05T09:08:48","date_gmt":"2024-06-05T09:08:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165274"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:14:25","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:14:25","slug":"expectativas-irrealistas-arruinam-as-relacoes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/expectativas-irrealistas-arruinam-as-relacoes\/","title":{"rendered":"Estes mitos sobre relacionamentos s\u00e3o a raz\u00e3o pela qual voc\u00ea espera o imposs\u00edvel"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se viu demasiadas com\u00e9dias rom\u00e2nticas, as suas expectativas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 rela\u00e7\u00e3o podem ser surrealista<\/em>. But I\u2019m just a romantic person<\/em> \u2013 you\u2019ll say in your defense. I\u2019m not saying you should stop enjoying your favorite movie genre, but be aware \u2013 a vida n\u00e3o \u00e9 chocolates e flores.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algumas vezes fiquei t\u00e3o desesperado porque my boyfriend\u2019s personality or looks didn\u2019t match my desired qualities checklist.<\/strong> Some of them were too short, some were not interested in my tirades about astrology, others were not holding my hands the way I liked\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para dizer a verdade a minha lista era longa, ningu\u00e9m era assim t\u00e3o perfeito.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acredita em mim, o as expectativas elevadas v\u00e3o deix\u00e1-lo t\u00e3o frustrado que pode tornar-se t\u00f3xico.<\/strong> Not that you\u2019ll want to, of course, it\u2019s just the way it goes. So make sure you don\u2019t forget you\u2019re dating a human, not a movie character. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cHe\u2019s a man so HE must make a first move\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re not living in the Middle Ages gurl! It doesn\u2019t matter who makes the first move as long you find things in common<\/strong> e continuar a conversar ou a enviar mensagens de texto. Direitos iguais, lembras-te? Tens o direito de dar o primeiro passo como uma mulher moderna e feroz!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A couple of times I made the first move and I\u2019m glad I did, otherwise I would miss out on some great guys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cThat could never happen to me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Nunca diga nunca, a vida \u00e9 cheia de surpresas e esteja preparado para enfrentar diferentes obst\u00e1culos no seu caminho. Se acreditas you\u2019d never let him see you crying even when you feel so broken inside, it can happen.<\/strong> That\u2019s normal, that\u2019s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I said I could never be with someone who doesn\u2019t like dogs and guess what happened?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cI will make him jealous so he\u2019ll crave for me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Oh, don\u2019t play the nasty games!<\/strong> He might be traumatized by pathological jealousy in the previous relationship so much that he\u2019ll avoid showing even the slightest clue of the jealousy. Besides, he might see through your intentions and that\u2019ll just push him away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acreditem, aprendi isto da maneira mais dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cChemistry must be very strong otherwise it\u2019s not a real thing\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s just a good starting point, but your relationship can\u2019t be based simply on chemistry. If you don\u2019t share the same views and can\u2019t openly talk to each other<\/strong>, girl, you\u2019re not in a proper relationship. It might be just a hook-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I mistook chemistry for love several times and it didn\u2019t work out well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u201cHe must take care of me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Tomar conta de ti? You\u2019re not a pet, woman! <\/strong>You can take care and provide for yourself, this is the 21st century. You need a partner, someone to share your life with. Don\u2019t rely on his income!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I prefer to be independent and self-sufficient. That way, if we ever break up, at least I\u2019m safe from being financially broken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cHe must be tall, handsome, and successful\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Oh, ent\u00e3o andas \u00e0 procura do Sr. Perfeito? Tens a certeza de que a sua altura, apar\u00eancia e sucesso te podem fazer feliz?<\/strong> Ele pode ter um aspeto deslumbrante e uma carreira impressionante, mas ao mesmo tempo ser um completo idiota por dentro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve dated Mr. Perfect and believe me, under the surface he wasn\u2019t that perfect at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cIt\u2019s just one of his flaws, no one is perfect\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Esteja atento se notar sinais de patologia no seu comportamento. Isto tamb\u00e9m se aplica \u00e0s depend\u00eancias. Os defeitos s\u00e3o uma coisa, os problemas graves s\u00e3o coisas completamente diferentes. <\/strong>So try not to be too \u201copen-minded\u201d and tolerant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma vez tentei justificar o facto de ele ter bebido demais nessa noite, partindo do princ\u00edpio que tinha tido um dia mau no trabalho. Demorei algum tempo a aperceber-me que ele tinha um problema com a bebida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cI will change him\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s a grown man and no, you can\u2019t change him. You can talk about some of his actions and make him realize how they affect you, so he will or won\u2019t adjust them. If you can\u2019t live with his habits or awkward traits, move on<\/strong>, he\u2019s not for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lembro-me de quando pensava que podia fazer com que o meu namorado deixasse de comer comida de pl\u00e1stico. Ele esperava que eu adormecesse e fazia uma sandu\u00edche suculenta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t waste your time. You\u2019ll thank me later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cI will not let him change me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Of course not, and you shouldn\u2019t. Mant\u00e9m-te fiel a quem eras antes de o conheceres. <\/strong>However, small adjustments are necessary, you\u2019ll expect the same from him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I stopped partying every weekend because I wanted to spend time with my man. Surely, I didn\u2019t give up on time with my besties, it was just not as often as before. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cHalf a loaf is better than none\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t settle for mediocre options just to avoid being single. Estar com algu\u00e9m at\u00e9 \u00e0 pr\u00f3xima oportunidade melhor n\u00e3o \u00e9 bom<\/strong> (or mature). You can hurt someone who might be genuinely interested in you, and you won\u2019t feel good either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every time I tried to go on a date with someone I didn\u2019t really like, I would end up in anguish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cIf this doesn\u2019t work, I\u2019ll find a new boyfriend\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

People are not shoes. So it\u2019s not like \u201cThese won\u2019t fit so I\u2019ll get myself a new ones.\u201d<\/em> H\u00e1 uma raz\u00e3o para teres escolhido sair com ele. He might have a unique personality or a very good sense of humor, he\u2019s nice to your friends<\/strong>, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was delusional when I thought I\u2019d easily replace him with the next man behind the corner. Another man was just\u2026 very different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cHe treats me badly but helps me with the money\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Isso significa que se tornou dependente dele e que vai fechar os olhos. Primeiro, tente ver o quadro geral, desligue-se de todos os seus favores e verifique se ele est\u00e1 a comportar-se de forma pouco saud\u00e1vel.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is he prone to abusive behavior? If your answer is yes, I have only one piece of advice: run girl, and don\u2019t look back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. \u201cI hate rugby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

T\u00eam o direito de odiar o r\u00e2guebi, mas tentem tamb\u00e9m imaginar como se sentiriam se ele cuspisse: \u201cNatal chart is just a bunch of nonsense\u201d<\/em>. You would feel insulted, wouldn\u2019t you? So my dear, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de mostrar compreens\u00e3o pelo seu grande amor pelo r\u00e2guebi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I watched the game with my SO a few times, and I kind of liked it. Try it, maybe you’ll change your mind too. At least, be supportive of his interests. You expect the same from him, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. \u201cThe past stays in the past\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Not necessarily. If you have some unresolved issues with your ex-boyfriend or still have feelings for him, that will influence your present relationship. You may look for substitution and it usually doesn’t work well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tente deixar o passado para tr\u00e1s e concentre-se no presente com ele<\/strong>. The man I\u2019m currently seeing is different from anyone I\u2019ve dated before, and I really enjoy getting to know him. I don\u2019t compare him to my exes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t allow shadows of the past to blur your view, use your \u201cpresent eyes\u201d to look at him.<\/strong> Trust me it\u2019s the best thing to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. \u201cI\u2019ll be a spoiled princess and he will do what I want\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Alguns homens talvez o fa\u00e7am. Outros v\u00e3o simplesmente fugir de si. Quem \u00e9 que quer namorar com um fedelho mimado? <\/strong>E tu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So be an adult and don\u2019t play childish games. Learn to communicate your needs and try to explain your views well. It always surprises me how a simple open talk can be so effective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. \u201cThings will get better if we have a baby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e3o, n\u00e3o, n\u00e3o! Tentar resolver a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o engravidando dele \u00e9 uma p\u00e9ssima ideia. <\/strong>Not to say it’s a bit selfish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esse beb\u00e9 merece nascer numa fam\u00edlia saud\u00e1vel e n\u00e3o ser um instrumento que o ajude a reparar os defeitos da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu pr\u00f3prio fui criado num ambiente acolhedor e solid\u00e1rio, Aconselho sempre os meus amigos a terem muito cuidado com quem escolhem para constituir fam\u00edlia.<\/strong> Don\u2019t rush, wait for the right person!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. \u201cWe never argue, our relationship is perfect\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A falta de desacordo n\u00e3o \u00e9 normal e normalmente esconde quest\u00f5es mais profundas que podem n\u00e3o ser \u00f3bvias. Talvez um de v\u00f3s tem medo dos conflitos e tende a evit\u00e1-los<\/strong>. It doesn\u2019t mean you two are the perfect match, you\u2019re maybe just acting like everything is fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My sister got married way too fast, after dating John for only two months. They were that kind of \u201cwe don\u2019t argue\u201d couple and it ended up with a very ugly divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can’t imagine myself in a relationship without the occasional fights. I looove that makeup allure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. \u201cMen and women can\u2019t be friends! There\u2019s always a hidden agenda\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Again I\u2019ll remind you we live in the 21st century and essa cren\u00e7a est\u00e1 simplesmente desactualizada, para dizer o m\u00ednimo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had male friends in school and college, and I have work buddies. If he thinks they secretly desire me, he just might be a toxic person. That\u2019s what Mark, my ex, used to think. See why he\u2019s my ex?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. \u201cHe needs to devote all his time to me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"casal<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Get real, you\u2019re not the Siamese twins. His zone of interest goes way beyond you. He has friends, hobbies, and a family. Se o meu namorado preferisse passar todo o seu tempo livre comigo, eu ficaria preocupada.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As pessoas que n\u00e3o t\u00eam amigos ou que t\u00eam uma m\u00e1 rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a fam\u00edlia n\u00e3o s\u00e3o um bom material para encontros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. \u201cHe has to be there for me every time I need him\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Acho que imaginamos isto como se assobi\u00e1ssemos e ele viesse a correr. Queres um homem ou um c\u00e3o?<\/strong> Este tipo de expetativa \u00e9 um grande repelente de homens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seria poss\u00edvel amar verdadeiramente algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o tem dignidade e respeito por si pr\u00f3prio?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ll appreciate it if he’s there to wipe away my tears when my dog dies, but if he\u2019s busy, it\u2019s fine. I have friends too. It\u2019s the same the other way around \u2013 we can\u2019t be there for each other 24\/7, and that\u2019s fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did you recognize yourself in any of these relationship myths? If you did, it\u2019s time to reconsider your views and ground yourself. Healthy relationships are based on respect, support, and open talk. If you want your relationship to succeed, no manipulative games, pretty please!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you watched way too many rom-coms, your relationship expectations might be surreal. But I\u2019m just a romantic person \u2013 you\u2019ll say in your defense. I\u2019m not saying you should stop enjoying your favorite movie genre, but be aware \u2013 life is not chocolates and flowers. A couple of times I was so desperate because…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":165283,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165274","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/These-Relationship-Myths-Are-The-Reason-Why-You-Expect-The-Impossible-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165274","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165274"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165274\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165284,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165274\/revisions\/165284"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165283"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165274"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165274"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165274"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}