{"id":165346,"date":"2024-06-07T08:47:16","date_gmt":"2024-06-07T08:47:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165346"},"modified":"2024-06-07T08:47:16","modified_gmt":"2024-06-07T08:47:16","slug":"o-que-as-mulheres-podem-perdoar-mas-nao-podem-esquecer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-as-mulheres-podem-perdoar-mas-nao-podem-esquecer\/","title":{"rendered":"Como mulheres, perdoamos tanto os nossos maridos, mas ser\u00e1 que podemos realmente esquecer?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Marriage is sometimes smooth sailing and sometimes it\u2019s a boat in a storm\u2026 If you’ve ever been married, you know this. Good times come and they go\u2026 and the bad ones too. <\/strong>A vida est\u00e1 cheia de altos e baixos, e o mesmo se aplica aos casamentos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De vez em quando Fico t\u00e3o furiosa com o meu marido que tenho um forte impulso de me mudar imediatamente.<\/strong> Depois, passo a noite a folhear an\u00fancios de apartamentos. Algumas horas de navega\u00e7\u00e3o ajudam-me a acalmar e as coisas voltam ao normal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I wonder if it\u2019s right to forgive him. I noticed every so often, <\/strong>que I do forgive but can\u2019t make myself forget. <\/strong>Estava curiosa para saber o que as outras mulheres tinham a dizer sobre perdoar sem esquecer. Por isso, pedi a todas as mulheres que conhe\u00e7o que participassem num inqu\u00e9rito an\u00f3nimo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pegavam num peda\u00e7o de papel e escrever pequenas anedotas sobre coisas que perdoaram <\/strong>to keep their relationships or marriages, but couldn\u2019t forget. Then they would insert the piece of paper in my survey box.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve made a compilation of 20 most hilarious and unforgettable micro-stories about MEN\u2019s wrongdoings that WOMEN had to forgive to save their relationships:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cHis mom and dad were his primary family\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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2. \u201cWork was more important than me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A few weeks after we started dating, he got a new job. It was UX\/UI design \u2013 his dream job. As it was all quite new for him (earlier he was a graphic designer) he\u2019d spend nights learning and improving his skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He didn\u2019t have time to see me, except for the weekends.<\/strong> I don\u2019t remember why we broke up after all, as things got better in time, but I still remember how I felt awful when he would rather work than spend time with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cHe had to watch the game\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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4. \u201cTold me I\u2019m overdramatizing\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A nossa filha de seis meses caiu da cama quando eu estava a mudar-lhe as fraldas e eu estava em p\u00e2nico enquanto tentava acalm\u00e1-la. Eu estava a tremer de medo e n\u00e3o parava de repetir que precis\u00e1vamos de ir ao m\u00e9dico.<\/strong> Ele disse que eu estava a ser demasiado dram\u00e1tica e que tudo ia correr bem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u201cForgot about me\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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6. \u201cI\u2019ve been told I was passing on negative vibes\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ele acusou-me de ser sempre negativo em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a tudo e disse que eu impossibilitou-o de desfrutar dos seus tempos livres.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This was when my mom was very sick and I was worried we haven’t got much time together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cMissed our anniversary\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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8. \u201cLeft me alone to handle the colic\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Enquanto eu estava a recuperar de uma cesariana, ele deixou-me alone with a newborn who had horrifying colic and wouldn\u2019t stop screaming.<\/strong> He thought going out with his friends to celebrate our son\u2019s birth was a good idea. I wanted to strangle him when he came back home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cWas late for our son\u2019s school play\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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10. \u201cNo sympathy when my granny died\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I was devastated when my grandma died. As he wasn\u2019t very close to his grandparents he couldn\u2019t sympathize with my grief. So he was minding his own business and didn\u2019t even try to hug me<\/strong> ou dizer algo para me confortar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cBaby fell under his watch\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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12. \u201cHe gambled away our vacation money\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

And\u00e1mos a poupar durante meses para passar as f\u00e9rias em Bali. Depois de um primeiro trimestre muito dif\u00edcil no trabalho, Precisava mesmo de descansar num local t\u00e3o ex\u00f3tico.<\/strong> Eu sabia que ele tinha problemas ligeiros de depend\u00eancia do jogo, mas nunca pensei que fosse fazer uma coisa t\u00e3o horr\u00edvel a n\u00f3s os dois.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. \u201cHe was texting his ex-girlfriend\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Eu n\u00e3o estava a verificar o telem\u00f3vel dele nem nada, mas o aparelho estava ali, em cima da mesa, e o som da notifica\u00e7\u00e3o levou-me a olhar para ele. Quando vi o nome dela no ecr\u00e3, fiquei louco.<\/strong> Pedi para ver todas as mensagens e ele deu-me o telem\u00f3vel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allegedly, she only asked for some old friend\u2019s phone number, but I couldn\u2019t be convinced it was the main reason she texted him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. \u201cTurned down my dinner invitation\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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15. \u201cTold bad things about me in his sleep\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ele falava sempre durante o sono, mas uma vez apanhei algumas coisas muito m\u00e1s que ele disse sobre mim. Acho que ele estava a sonhar com a beber uma cerveja com o seu melhor amigo e queixou-se de como eu o tratava.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wasn\u2019t speaking to him for two weeks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. \u201cIgnored my call to \u2018bedroom action\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Era uma sexta-feira \u00e0 noite e pensei que pod\u00edamos celebrate the weekend with some \u201cfireworks in bed\u201d<\/strong>. Coloquei a minha lingerie sedutora, maquilhagem pesada e pus o meu cabelo em grande estilo. Entrei com entusiasmo no quarto e encontrei-o a ressonar alto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu tinha a certeza que ele estava a fingir que estava a dormir, mas feeling so miserable and rejected while standing next to our bed all dressed up for \u201cthe action\u201d<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t humiliate myself more by trying to \u201cwake\u201d him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I only forgave him because tomorrow he swore he was really sleeping and repaired the damage next evening when he was the one initiating \u201cthe call\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. \u201cWas secretly purchasing video games\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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18. \u201cRead my private emails\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A minha melhor amiga, Lisa, vive na Costa Oeste e gostamos de nos enviar um e-mail uma vez por semana. Os nossos e-mails s\u00e3o como ensaios onde partilhamos os nossos pensamentos e sentimentos mais profundos sobre a vida e as situa\u00e7\u00f5es do quotidiano<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He mentioned something that was part of my latest email exchange and that\u2019s how I realized he went through my inbox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perdoei-o, mas desde esse dia que mudo regularmente de palavra-passe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. \u201cMade our home look like a warehouse\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

He is a huge fan of comic books, and he\u2019s been collecting them since he was a kid. Besides collecting, precisava de as conservar em caixas, ao abrigo do p\u00f3 e da luz.<\/strong> Alguns meses depois de nos casarmos, a nossa casa foi transformada num armaz\u00e9m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I forgave him when he moved his precious collection to his parent\u2019s house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. \u201cLying about his childhood\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While talking to his mom on Thanksgiving, I realized he\u2019s been heavily embellishing his childhood memories. I forgave him and many years later, I realized he wasn\u2019t really lying. Our a mem\u00f3ria \u00e9, de facto, um processo muito criativo<\/strong> e, por vezes, guardamos vers\u00f5es imagin\u00e1rias de acontecimentos que vivemos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como \u00e9 que perdoamos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the end, we\u2019ll agree forgiving means different things to different women. Some of us will really forgive and move on, but not gonna forget ever. Others will forget it as if it never happened. I know a minha irm\u00e3 gosta de lembrar o marido de todos os seus erros<\/strong>. Honestly, I think she\u2019s a bit mean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9 claro que deve nunca perdoar algo t\u00e3o grave como uma trai\u00e7\u00e3o ou um abuso<\/strong>, but as you could notice, there’s a whole spectrum of ways our partners can hurt us, sometimes unintentionally. Find a way to understand what really made him act in that way and try to forgive.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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