{"id":165533,"date":"2024-06-12T12:59:05","date_gmt":"2024-06-12T12:59:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165533"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:15:00","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:15:00","slug":"sacrificios-na-parentalidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sacrificios-na-parentalidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Homem recusa-se a sacrificar uma noite por semana para ajudar a sua mulher com um rec\u00e9m-nascido"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ladies, be honest. Who does more work around the baby, you or your partner? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este novo cap\u00edtulo \u00e9 fant\u00e1stico e cheio de alegria, mas tamb\u00e9m cheio de noites sem dormir e muitos desafios. Everything\u2019s easier when you have a devoted man<\/strong> by your side who\u2019s not afraid of dirty diapers and a little screaming creature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Infelizmente, continuamos a viver num mundo em que people think that a man\u2019s only obligation ends with making a baby.<\/strong> Quando a realidade lhes bate na cara e se apercebem que ser pai ou m\u00e3e \u00e9 um trabalho a tempo inteiro, querem fugir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As mulheres, por outro lado, s\u00e3o diferentes tipos de her\u00f3is e conseguem aguentar muito. Mas esta m\u00e3e chegou finalmente ao seu ponto de rutura.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma m\u00e3e exausta queixa-se no Reddit<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher contou a sua hist\u00f3ria no Reddit<\/a> hoping other people would confirm her expectations weren\u2019t unreasonable. She recently gave birth to a baby girl and was stunned by her husband’s behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come\u00e7ou por explicar a sua rotina habitual antes da chegada do beb\u00e9:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBefore I was pregnant, he used to go to his soccer games (and, more importantly, the drinking afterward) twice per week, and he went running on Sunday and\/or on his day off for hours on end. There used to be weeks when we would only see\/talk to each other for a few minutes in bed.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Por isso, como seria de esperar, a sua mulher queria que ele passasse mais tempo com ela e com o rec\u00e9m-nascido. Ela escreveu:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSince I got pregnant, I asked him to scale back his soccer\/drinking to once a week and to plan his runs closer to home so that he\u2019s not gone an entire day. He reluctantly agreed after lots of fighting and drama.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Um dia, quando chegou a casa do trabalho, saiu apenas duas horas depois. O churrasco com os amigos era mais importante para ele do que passar tempo com a fam\u00edlia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since he didn\u2019t come back until 11 p.m., she texted him saying to sleep downstairs so he wouldn\u2019t wake her and the baby up. Um pedido aparentemente pequeno tornou-se numa grande discuss\u00e3o.<\/strong> Foi nessa altura que come\u00e7ou a queixar-se de tudo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy husband says I\u2019m taking away his freedom\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

O marido achava que as expectativas que ela tinha eram injustas. Ela explicou:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cApparently, he believes I take away his freedom when I ask him to let me know when he will be home. He needs to \u2018feel the atmosphere of the night\u2019 before he can decide when to come home. I ask him so I at least know something so I can plan my night accordingly, but to him, that is unfair.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

But it didn\u2019t end there. He continued complaining about how sacrificar uma noite por semana tem sido dif\u00edcil para ele.<\/strong> The baby\u2019s only been with them for one week, and he\u2019s already tired? Poor guy. She continued by writing:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cHe has also said that taking care of my needs during pregnancy (so basically giving up one night of soccer and drinking) has pushed him to the edge of burnout. During pregnancy, he threatened to leave me if he would not be allowed to do whatever he wanted once the baby arrived.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Imaginem a aud\u00e1cia! Acho que o pai se comporta mais como um beb\u00e9 do que como o pr\u00f3prio filho! Oh, que surpresa, temos de abdicar do nosso tempo livre quando temos filhos. Quem \u00e9 que estaria \u00e0 espera disso?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People also agreed he\u2019s acting selfish and is not setting his priorities straight. One person commented:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cHe’s behaving like this with a 3-week-old child? I’m all for parents finding a way to make both solo and couple social time happen, but the ink on that baby’s birth certificate isn’t even dry yet. Home needs to be his first priority 100% of the time right now.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I couldn\u2019t agree more! At this point, divorcing him now wouldn\u2019t change anything since she\u2019s living like a single parent either way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, nem toda a gente pensa que o pai \u00e9 o \u00fanico errado.<\/strong> Some say that he deserves to have his free time since he\u2019s the one working. Someone wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIN MY OPINION, you’re both wrong. He seems to work quite a bit, and he needs to take a break from that as well. However, the same courtesy needs to be applied to BOTH of you. If you are a SAHM, and\/or you don’t have your own friends, you are relying on HIS interaction with you to be your social fill and that is asking for a lot from a person. He needs to do his part as a parent too, but, realistically, if you both do your part and give each other grace, you both will get your needs taken care of.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Acham que isto \u00e9 justo? Porque working shouldn\u2019t be an excuse for not taking care of your family<\/strong>, especially in these important moments. No one wants to be tired but that\u2019s just life. Women are often exhausted but still, no one bothers to ask them if they need a break.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As m\u00e3es d\u00e3o tudo de si e sacrificam o corpo, a mente e a alma <\/strong>during 9 months of pregnancy and even after. And dads can\u2019t let go of one night with the boys. Talk about disrespect! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enquanto alguns pais fazem tudo o que podem pelas suas fam\u00edlias, outros os homens precisam de ser lembrados de que tamb\u00e9m devem cuidar dos seus filhos<\/strong> (chocante, n\u00e3o \u00e9?). Tudo \u00e9 mais f\u00e1cil e mais divertido quando feito em equipa. E a paternidade n\u00e3o \u00e9 exce\u00e7\u00e3o. No final do dia, o trabalho de equipa faz o sonho funcionar.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por isso, da pr\u00f3xima vez que decidirem ter filhos, ter uma conversa aberta e honesta com o seu parceiro<\/strong> sobre as suas expectativas. Pode surpreender-se com o que algu\u00e9m considera normal e razo\u00e1vel. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ladies, be honest. Who does more work around the baby, you or your partner? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought. This new chapter is amazing and filled with joy but also full of sleepless nights and many challenges. Everything\u2019s easier when you have a devoted man by your side who\u2019s not afraid of dirty diapers and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":165534,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165533","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Man-Refuses-To-Sacrifice-One-Night-A-Week-To-Help-His-Wife-With-A-Newborn-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165533"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165533\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165538,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165533\/revisions\/165538"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165534"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}