Sim, algumas pessoas t\u00eam medo de rela\u00e7\u00f5es de compromisso.<\/strong> Mas o que \u00e9 que isso significa?<\/p>\n Sim, todos n\u00f3s sabemos que as pessoas t\u00eam quest\u00f5es de empenhamento <\/a>ou ansiedade na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> mas at\u00e9 onde \u00e9 que eles v\u00e3o realmente?<\/p>\n Let me tell you, they can go really far. They can go as far as to completely affect the person’s ability to make decisions when it comes to making choices in their life.<\/strong><\/p>\n They experience love and life just like any other person, but when it comes to making decisions \u2013 especially those that require them to commit in any way \u2013 they freeze.<\/p>\n That\u2019s not to say that new relationships don\u2019t interest them \u2013 in fact, they are at their best when they meet their new potential partners.<\/p>\n Infelizmente, \u00e0 medida que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o avan\u00e7a e a outra pessoa come\u00e7a a esperar um maior empenhamento, come\u00e7am a procurar uma sa\u00edda.<\/p>\n It’s not that they don’t like the other person \u2013 they often do \u2013 but their feelings of anxiety that arise when they think about truly committing to someone are way too high.<\/p>\n It’s hard for them to develop a healthy relationship with anyone, even when they find the right person for themselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mas h\u00e1 diferentes tipos de fobias de compromisso.<\/p>\n Some won’t even try dating, but instead pursue super short flings, while some will pursue short relationships or even relationships that are months long The panic sets in when they start to believe they have to commit more deeply.<\/p>\n Por conseguinte, pode n\u00e3o haver rela\u00e7\u00f5es no seu passado, ou pode haver muitas rela\u00e7\u00f5es falhadas.<\/p>\n Este problema espec\u00edfico, embora possa afetar tanto homens como mulheres, \u00e9 tradicionalmente considerado como um problema masculino.<\/p>\n Ouvimos falar mais de homens com fobia ao compromisso do que de mulheres com fobia ao compromisso.<\/p>\n The truth is, commitment phobia applies to different things in a person’s life, not only romantic relationships.<\/p>\n Pode afetar a forma como a pessoa com fobia ao compromisso vive a sua vida em muitos aspectos, como na escolha dos estudos, da cidade onde viver ou, basicamente, em qualquer escolha na vida.<\/p>\n Now that we have some basic information about what commitment phobia is, let’s investigate it a bit further.<\/p>\n The most common causes of commitment phobia usually come from the person\u2019s fam\u00edlia de origem<\/strong>e apresentam-se de muitas formas diferentes. Eis alguns exemplos:<\/p>\n \u2022 The person’s childhood emotions and needs weren’t completely satisfied<\/p>\n \u2022 The person felt abandoned as a child or an adolescent one way or another<\/p>\n \u2022 The person saw that their parent’s relationship was completely dysfunctional<\/p>\n \u2022 The person witnessed their parent’s divorce (sometimes messy, sometimes not)<\/p>\n \u2022 The person had severe childhood trauma (such as family violence)<\/p>\n \u2022 The person’s parent or caregiver had a personality disorder (such as narcissism)<\/p>\n Sometimes, problems don’t lie in the person’s family though, but rather lie in their poor judgment which leads them to choose toxic partners.<\/p>\n Para outros, os seus problemas t\u00eam origem em coisas m\u00e1s que lhes aconteceram no passado. rela\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Estas causas incluem:<\/p>\n \u2022 The person has been in a serious relationship that ended with their partner abandoning them<\/p>\n \u2022 The person has been hurt by a loved one and now has trust issues<\/p>\n \u2022 The person has been in a relationship involving abuse, infidelity, abandonment etc.<\/p>\n Again, there are some other causes, and some of them can be connected to the person’s overall mental health.<\/p>\n Uma pessoa que sofre de perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de ansiedade pode ser mais sens\u00edvel \u00e0s coisas que acontecem na sua vida, o que pode lev\u00e1-la a desenvolver tamb\u00e9m ansiedade nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n A commitment-phobe’s 5 relationship fears:<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n T\u00eam medo de se deixarem amar. Sabes o que se diz sobre como \u00a0<\/span>as pessoas s\u00f3 aceitam o amor que acham que merecem<\/span><\/a>?<\/p>\n Bem, isto \u00e9 algo do g\u00e9nero.<\/p>\n Algumas pessoas com fobia ao compromisso pensam que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o dignas de amor. Tal como qualquer outro ser humano, anseiam por amor mas t\u00eam simultaneamente medo de o receber.<\/p>\n They might take a nice thing their partner does and turn it into something bad. They might say things like ”Oh, she’s way to caring, it’s too much” or something similar.<\/p>\n If this person is a girl, she might have been with men who can’t love her in the past and so isn’t used to being loved.<\/p>\n A sua autoestima \u00e9 baixa por uma raz\u00e3o ou outra, e isso leva-os a pensar que ser amado \u00e9 uma coisa muito assustadora.<\/p>\n Provavelmente viram coisas desagrad\u00e1veis enquanto cresciam ou eram demasiado jovens e alguns acontecimentos normais, como o div\u00f3rcio dos pais, afectaram-nos profundamente porque eram vulner\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n They don’t want to repeat the things their parents (or other people) did, thus they prefer not to pursue committed relationships at all, in order to make sure these patterns don\u2019t develop.<\/p>\n Certain things they saw people doing in their relationships caused them a lot of pain and they don’t want to recreate these patterns of toxic behavior in their own life.<\/p>\n Relacionadas: 15 sinais claros de que uma pessoa que n\u00e3o gosta de compromissos te ama<\/a><\/p>\n Um dos maiores medos que as pessoas com sentimentos de ansiedade em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00eam \u00e9 o medo de que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabe.<\/p>\n Nunca conseguem comprometer-se totalmente porque a ideia de a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabar um dia assusta-os.<\/p>\n A verdade \u00e9 que cada pessoa corre um risco quando se apaixona por algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n The more we get attached, either to our romantic partner or anything in our life, the bigger the risk of getting hurt once it’s gone.<\/p>\n People with commitment phobia are constantly afraid that the person they are with isn’t right for them.<\/p>\n Even when things are going perfectly, they keep thinking that there might be someone better for them out there, someone they still haven’t met.<\/p>\n T\u00eam medo de que o compromisso com este parceiro rom\u00e2ntico em particular arru\u00edne as suas hip\u00f3teses de encontrar essa pessoa perfeita imagin\u00e1ria que s\u00f3 talvez exista.<\/p>\n Pode parecer um medo de compatibilidade, mas na verdade est\u00e1 relacionado com a forma como encaramos o compromisso.<\/p>\n This might seem contradictory, but it’s really not. The relationship-avoidant person will constantly find flaws in their current relationship and their current partner.<\/p>\n Committing to someone means accepting those flaws as a part of your life, and this is something they can’t deal with.<\/p>\n They don’t like to think that their partner, or better yet their partner’s flaws, will remain forever.<\/p>\n They hope that some things about their partner can be changed, and at the same time they’re afraid they won’t change.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, sentem que precisam de mudar coisas sobre si pr\u00f3prios, o que pode causar problemas na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t give you the chance to enjoy life, even though you think you\u2019re living it to the fullest. I know this because I was a commitment-phobe myself.<\/p>\n Saltava de homem para homem, de rela\u00e7\u00e3o para rela\u00e7\u00e3o, de uma cidade para outra e nunca conseguia manter um emprego por mais de seis meses.<\/p>\n Fiz todas estas coisas at\u00e9 ao ponto em que come\u00e7ou a significar algo para mim. Eu desistia e ia-me embora, sem deixar rasto.<\/p>\n I broke many hearts and I stopped taking risks simply because I didn\u2019t want my heart to break.<\/p>\n As raz\u00f5es da sua <\/span>medo do compromisso<\/span><\/a> can be many and they don\u2019t have to be the same as mine. I\u2019m simply here to tell you that there is a way you can cure yourself of it.<\/p>\n We stop digging the moment we see that it\u2019s going to get too deep for us, because it feels like we will drown. But no. Let\u2019s be honest.<\/p>\n Ter profundidade significa ver significado nas coisas e dar-lhes permiss\u00e3o para fazerem parte das nossas vidas.<\/p>\n This is something we can\u2019t really run away from and we shouldn\u2019t want to run away from.<\/p>\n O problema, no meu caso, era que aprendia uma coisa nova at\u00e9 que a novidade passasse e me aborrecesse instantaneamente.<\/p>\n This was also the case with men, because the moment I saw that they weren\u2019t a \u2018new thing\u2019 in my life anymore \u00a0<\/span>Eu ia-me embora.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n O que aconteceu foi que me forcei a ir mais fundo nas coisas e o que vi foi interessante e deu-me prazer e felicidade.<\/p>\n Simplesmente por me permitir encontrar profundidade nas coisas, comecei a empenhar-me nelas.<\/p>\n Devido a traumas nos nossos primeiros anos de vida, temos agora gatilhos para as nossas fobias, que \u00e9 sobretudo a fobia das consequ\u00eancias.<\/p>\n So what happens is that you leave. You\u2019re afraid that you might hurt someone or that someone is going to hurt you and your internal instinct is to run away.<\/p>\n But that\u2019s not what life is about, right? We can\u2019t spend our entire lives running from feelings but we need to face them in order to conquer them.<\/p>\n O que todos n\u00f3s precisamos de fazer \u00e9 elaborar uma lista de valores fundamentais que nos possam guiar nos momentos em que nos apetece fugir de um determinado problema.<\/p>\n You probably look at couples who\u2019ve been together for years and see their happiness, and want that same thing in your life.<\/p>\n Essa felicidade, essa intimidade e que o amor s\u00f3 se constr\u00f3i com o tempo.<\/span><\/a> You don\u2019t get that by running away.<\/p>\n Committing to something or someone doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ll miss out on a better opportunity.<\/p>\n Committing to something isn\u2019t about giving up on everything else in life but rather dedicating your time and energy to something that you find value in.<\/p>\n Isto aplica-se tamb\u00e9m aos locais onde vive, aos seus amigos e \u00e0s suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es amorosas.<\/p>\n There will never be a \u2018perfect\u2019 way to do a certain thing but your commitment to it can make it more than enough.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why it\u2019s very important to learn how to say \u2018no\u2019.<\/p>\n At first, everything seems to be so attractive and perfect but when you dig deeper you see that it can only bring problems (problems that you don\u2019t enjoy solving) so that it isn\u2019t worth trying.<\/p>\n Instead, say \u2018yes\u2019 to one thing that\u2019s flawed but that you\u2019d love to make perfect.<\/p>\n It\u2019s the same with relationships. Don\u2019t say \u2018yes\u2019 to guys simply because you want to try out how it\u2019s going to go, but rather find one man you can say \u2018yes\u2019 to and work on your relationship so it can be the best one ever.<\/p>\n Pensar demais tamb\u00e9m pode levar a m\u00e1s escolhas de vida, porque evitamos situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que nos podemos envolver emocionalmente em coisas que nos podem magoar.<\/p>\n We overthink certain outcomes that we can\u2019t control and that\u2019s what makes us jump to the next thing because it\u2019s easier than sticking to something that we need to put the effort into.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why you simply need to parar de pensar demais<\/span><\/a> things that you can\u2019t control.<\/p>\n They say that people who have anxiety live in the future, and I guess in a way that’s true.<\/p>\n Stop worrying about the future so much and for the first time in your life you’ll feel light, and able to just live without fears.<\/p>\n How to know you’re in love with a commitment-phobe: 5 sinais de aviso<\/b><\/a>:<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Dar-lhe o privil\u00e9gio de se chamar assim \u00e9 um compromisso demasiado grande para ele, pois implica que est\u00e3o a caminhar na dire\u00e7\u00e3o de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo.<\/p>\n Esta \u00e9 provavelmente uma das maiores bandeiras vermelhas<\/span> he’ll have – <\/span>quest\u00f5es de empenhamento<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll start to think that it will never happen, because not only don’t they say it now, it feels like they aren\u2019t even thinking about saying it at all.<\/p>\n You can feel their love, and keep telling yourself they’re shy or insecure, but the truth is they probably still aren’t certain you’re the right person for them and telling you they love you would be way too much.<\/p>\n They aren’t willing to make plans for dates or meetings of any kind that are more than a couple of days away.<\/p>\n No entanto, isto s\u00f3 se aplica aos maiores f\u00f3bicos de compromissos.<\/p>\nO que \u00e9 a fobia de compromisso?<\/h2>\n
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\nEstar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, especialmente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo, \u00e9 um desafio incr\u00edvel para quem tem fobia de compromissos.<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/worried-woman-biting-her-nails.jpg\")
<\/p>\nCausas mais comuns da fobia de compromisso:<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. T\u00eam medo de ser amados<\/h2>\n
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\nPerhaps they weren\u2019t loved in their childhood, or they feel like any time someone says they love them they are going to end up hurt.<\/p>\n2. T\u00eam medo de recriar outros padr\u00f5es de relacionamento<\/h2>\n
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\nSe a pessoa viu os seus pais ou outras pessoas pr\u00f3ximas a viverem rela\u00e7\u00f5es disfuncionais ou com padr\u00f5es problem\u00e1ticos, pode sentir-se obrigada a libertar-se deste ciclo de dor.<\/p>\n3. T\u00eam medo que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabe<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. They are afraid they didn’t choose the right person<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. T\u00eam medo que uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o se mantenha sempre na mesma<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5 maneiras de superar a fobia de compromisso:<\/h2>\n
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\nThe fear of commitment won\u2019t let you find safety.<\/p>\n1. Determinar a profundidade<\/h2>\n
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\nAs pessoas com problemas de compromisso t\u00eam a tend\u00eancia para apenas arranhar a superf\u00edcie das coisas.<\/p>\n2. Perceber que a intimidade s\u00f3 pode ser constru\u00edda com o tempo<\/h2>\n
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\nTrue intimacy and a loving relationship toward all aspects of your life (mostly romantic) can only be built if you\u2019re very persistent and patient.<\/p>\n3. You\u2019re not missing out on anything<\/h2>\n
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\nSo, you, as a commitment-phobic person, might also constantly be thinking that if you don\u2019t move to another town or city every few years you are going to miss out on something.<\/p>\n4. Learn how to say \u2018no\u2019<\/h2>\n
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\nWhen you have a fear of commitment, what happens is that you try to do so many things at once that you spread yourself too thin on things that most of the time don\u2019t even bring you that much joy in life.<\/p>\n5. Evitar pensar demasiado<\/h2>\n
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\n\u00c9 mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer, certo? Demasiadas vezes, as pessoas que t\u00eam medo do compromisso pensam demasiado nas coisas, ao ponto de verem o fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o antes mesmo de ela come\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n1. They don’t like using ‘girlfriend’ (or ‘boyfriend’)<\/h2>\n
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\nWhen you meet his friends while walking down the street (because he obviously hasn\u2019t introduced you to them on purpose) he doesn\u2019t call you his girlfriend.<\/p>\n2. Nunca usam a palavra L<\/h2>\n
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\nNunca, mas nunca usam a palavra \u00a0<\/span>AMOR<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n3. S\u00e3o completamente imprevis\u00edveis<\/h2>\n
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\nThey won’t commit to anything! If you have a party they don’t RSVP, they either show up or they don’t.<\/p>\n
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