\n\u201cMy husband worked hard to unlearn the values he saw replicated at home. He (often more than) pulled his weight at home, was an engaged and present father and a genuine partner.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
She explains how they had a nanny when the kids were small and a housekeeper who would take care of their home. When the housekeeper isn\u2019t available cada um trata da sua pr\u00f3pria confus\u00e3o<\/strong> e ningu\u00e9m tem problemas com isso.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHowever, since her husband lost his job and savings they weren\u2019t able to afford the help they usually had so dividiram igualmente a carga de trabalho.<\/strong> Todos os dias, ela tomava o pequeno-almo\u00e7o e ele preparava o jantar. Isto funcionava na perfei\u00e7\u00e3o at\u00e9 a fam\u00edlia dele vir de visita.<\/p>\n\n\n\nUma visita dos sogros mudou tudo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Her in-laws never liked the fact their son doesn\u2019t have a traditional family and they made sure to make that clear multiple times. However, they crossed the boundary when they recently visited and started a discussion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The woman came home from work tired and wanted to set up everything for dinner just to find out her husband didn\u2019t prepare anything. When she asked him about it sentou-se calmamente enquanto a m\u00e3e lhe dizia que cozinhar era algo que ela devia fazer.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nOh, isso irritar-me-ia, mas ela lidou com isso melhor do que eu, simplesmente afastando-se e pedindo comida para todos. Quando se sentaram para comer, a sogra come\u00e7ou a sua conversa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cMy MIL was still going on about what was wrong with me and why I was a failure. I asked my husband if he had anything to say. He said his mother had a point and it wouldn’t hurt if I acted ‘more like a proper woman’ and ‘took better care of my home and children’. He said tradition was tradition for a reason and it was kind of insulting that I thought I was too good for how he was raised.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Imagine you hear that and your husband doesn\u2019t do anything about it! Enquanto era suposto defender a sua mulher, apenas acrescentou \u00f3leo ao fogo.<\/strong> Parece que a m\u00e3e dele lhe fez uma lavagem cerebral completa!<\/p>\n\n\n\nIsto aborreceu a sua mulher por uma boa raz\u00e3o, pelo que ela se afastou completamente:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cThis is where I might be the a**hole. I told him tradition won’t allow a man on 35k to support a family of 5 and he was too broke to be so sexist. He looked hurt and I saw tears welling in his eyes. He excused himself from the table. I regret saying this in front of our children, but him saying that to me after I’m busting my a** to clean up his mess on top of having to deal with his parents was too much for me.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Quero dizer, ela tem raz\u00e3o. O marido dela nunca pareceu ter problemas em viver da forma como viviam, mas Assim que a m\u00e3e chegou, ele mudou de opini\u00e3o. <\/strong>Hmm, I wonder why\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\nDoes it really make sense to expect a woman to be a housewife when you can\u2019t afford to live off a single income?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Traditional families can\u2019t have a wife as the main breadwinner<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Reddit users were clearly on the woman\u2019s side supporting what she said to her husband even though it might have sounded harsh. Someone wrote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cFrankly, he needed to hear it! How can he think you should be MORE OR BETTER with all that you’re already doing? Does he think it’s really a valid option for you to just drop your work and career to be a homemaker, and how does he think that’s gonna go for your family?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Defender-se a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 muito importante.<\/strong> Ningu\u00e9m quer magoar o seu parceiro, mas quando ultrapassa os limites, deve saber o seu lugar.<\/p>\n\n\n\nToo many times we choose to stay silent to please others but that doesn\u2019t solve the problem. If anything, we only create opportunities for more disrespect by letting everything slide. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ela arrepende-se de o ter dito \u00e0 frente dos filhos, mas penso que as suas palavras eram muito piores. <\/strong>Saying that his income alone can\u2019t support their family isn\u2019t an insult, it\u2019s a reality!<\/p>\n\n\n\nAlso, isn\u2019t teaching children that a woman should only be a housewife creating narrow-minded opinions they\u2019ll think are completely fine? As one user wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cSo it was fine for him to humiliate you in front of your children? Do you have a daughter that just saw how he allowed his mother to put you down and devalue your contribution? Tonight might have undone all of the hard work that you guys have put into teaching your kids that each partner has equal value.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Viver nesse tipo de ambiente pode ser dif\u00edcil para todas as partes, incluindo as crian\u00e7as. Having different opinions and values doesn\u2019t have to be a problem<\/strong> if there\u2019s mutual respect and understanding. <\/p>\n\n\n\nIn-laws are sometimes too nosy and want to be a part of discussions that don\u2019t have anything to do with them. So, set your boundaries straight, and don\u2019t let anyone put their fingers in your marriage!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Some people still want traditional gender roles in their homes, and that\u2019s completely fine. The moment it becomes a problem is when that narrative is pushed over someone who doesn\u2019t want to live like that. Some women prefer to go to work and some enjoy being homemakers. This is largely affected by the way we…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":165574,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165573","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Woman-Told-Her-Husband-Hes-Too-Broke-To-Be-Misogynistic-After-He-Said-He-Wants-A-Traditional-Wife-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165573","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165573"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165573\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165575,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165573\/revisions\/165575"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165574"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165573"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165573"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165573"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}