Ele foi o primeiro a seguir em frente, encontrou uma namorada passados alguns meses e depois mandou-me uma mensagem:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u201cCan we stay friends?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019ve broken up recently, you probably feel the same, torn between a plausible idea of keeping him in your life and the urge to forget about the past and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Depois de se separarem, o primeiro desafio \u00e9 habituarem-se a n\u00e3o o ver nem ouvir todos os dias. Someone who had a very important role in your life suddenly isn\u2019t there anymore,<\/strong> e sente-se muito a falta dele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s like an addiction and you need to detoxify yourself from it, or a chemical attraction that needs to fade to allow you to get rid of the habit. There is an um enorme buraco na sua vida que precisa de ser preenchido com um novo significado.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sinto-me desesperado, quer manter o sentimento de seguran\u00e7a emocional<\/strong> que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o lhe tem dado, e acha que a amizade \u00e9 uma \u00f3ptima maneira de o fazer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But why can’t we be friends after the breakup?<\/em> you’ll probably ask. Well, to tell you the truth, you can, but not right after the separation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Primeiro, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio um desfasamento temporal. After a dark night of the soul, you\u2019ll need to reclaim yourself<\/strong>, put together your broken pieces, meet new people, and find new joys. When you fill the emptiness you\u2019ll feel better and then it might be the right time to give it a try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por vezes, a amizade pode ser uma forma de encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o, mas \u00e9 preciso ter cuidado. Ambos precisam de estar na mesma p\u00e1gina e querem genuinamente manter rela\u00e7\u00f5es amig\u00e1veis entre si sem qualquer bagagem emocional.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, make sure you\u2019re not trying to stay friends hoping you\u2019ll get him back. No secret agenda please, when it\u2019s over it\u2019s over.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Se tentar ser amiga dele logo ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o, sem deixar os seus sentimentos arrefecerem, you may fool yourself into thinking that it\u2019s not over yet.<\/strong> You\u2019ll live in a false hope and that will prevent you from moving on and giving a chance to someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n O meu ex explicou a ideia:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2013 \u201cI still can\u2019t see you only as a friend but I hope you can stay in my life in some way. If you want that too! I care to know you\u2019re well. We might never see each other again but we can keep in touch even when we have different lives.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I couldn\u2019t decide if I wanted to stay in touch. I was afraid it would be even more painful to recover and impossible to forget him. On the other hand, I couldn\u2019t let us become strangers. Precisava de saber como \u00e9 que ele estava.<\/strong> Eu preocupava-me com a vida dele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Continu\u00e1mos a trocar mensagens de texto ocasionalmente, mas Com o passar do tempo, torn\u00e1mo-nos mais distantes.<\/strong> Ultrapassei-o, conheci outra pessoa e voltei a apaixonar-me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mesmo assim manter a amizade com o meu ex ajudou-me a amortizar a dor<\/strong> and allowed us to reinvent our relationship in a new platonic way, I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s always a good choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por isso, pode ser uma boa ideia manter a amizade com o seu ex quando decidirem honesta e mutuamente que sim, e quando j\u00e1 tiver passado tempo suficiente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll also need to be honest with yourself. Why do you really want to keep him in your life as a friend? Are you emotionally capable of handling his new role?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Porque esta amizade ser\u00e1 muito diferente da que tinham como casal. <\/strong>You\u2019ll tell yourself you just want to know how he’s doing, but some news might upset you. When he told me he had a girlfriend I was devastated and had a hard time accepting it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re fully recovered and if he\u2019s open to it, try nurturing friendship. Don\u2019t start a friendship before you\u2019re done putting back all the pieces of your broken heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Certifique-se de que estabelece limites e tra\u00e7a as linhas que n\u00e3o devem ser ultrapassadas. Just friends. Without \u201cthe benefits.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E se ele te tivesse magoado muito? Porque quererias ser amiga de algu\u00e9m que foi mau para ti? Don\u2019t stay friends with a toxic man who abused you in some way. <\/strong>Al\u00e9m disso, se ele foi infiel e desleal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Manter a amizade quando ainda sente algo por ele tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 uma m\u00e1 ideia. Don\u2019t hope a friendship will help you get him back. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t try to assure him you\u2019re well off without him. Vire a p\u00e1gina e comece um novo cap\u00edtulo na sua vida. <\/strong>Ele pode estar l\u00e1 para a apoiar, como um verdadeiro amigo deve fazer, mas a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o deve centrar-se em futuras oportunidades de relacionamento. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" He was my lover, my best friend, my home, and the whole world to me. Then he moved to California for work and the long-distance relationship took a toll on us so we broke up. At first, I was completely shattered, as if a huge piece of tissue was violently removed from my body. 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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nA amizade depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o ajudou-me a amortizar a dor<\/h2>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nWhen is friendship a good idea and when isn\u2019t?<\/h2>\n\n\n
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