{"id":165675,"date":"2025-03-17T23:26:00","date_gmt":"2025-03-17T22:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165675"},"modified":"2025-03-17T22:18:31","modified_gmt":"2025-03-17T21:18:31","slug":"como-fazer-com-que-ele-a-ajude-nas-tarefas-domesticas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-fazer-com-que-ele-a-ajude-nas-tarefas-domesticas\/","title":{"rendered":"Se ele n\u00e3o te ajuda nas tarefas dom\u00e9sticas, talvez queiras experimentar isto"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e3o sou de todo uma pessoa rabugenta. Na minha vida passada (a que tive antes do casamento) era conhecida pela minha natureza alegre e por estar sempre bem-disposta. Os meus amigos diziam os meus superpoderes eram um otimismo contagiante e muita energia positiva. <\/strong>O meu copo estava sempre meio cheio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then I got married to James. Don\u2019t get me wrong he\u2019s a great dude and Amo-o para al\u00e9m das palavras, mas ele sabe como me irritar. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Discut\u00edamos quase todos os dias!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"casal<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

A principal causa das nossas discuss\u00f5es foi o facto de I always felt he doesn’t help enough around the house.<\/strong> Est\u00e1vamos sempre a discutir sobre o mesmo assunto, mas nunca consegu\u00edamos resolv\u00ea-lo, o que era muito frustrante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois de dez anos juntos, os meus n\u00edveis de irrita\u00e7\u00e3o subiram em flecha e eu ficava furiosa sempre que tinha de apanhar as meias sujas dele<\/strong> ou deitar fora um tubo de pasta de dentes vazio que tinha deixado no lava-loi\u00e7a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talvez eu estivesse a exagerar \u00e0s vezes, mas Consegues imaginar-te a limpar algu\u00e9m durante dez anos inteiros? <\/strong>Eu juro, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algumas vezes apeteceu-me sufoc\u00e1-lo!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Eu fazia muitas vezes coment\u00e1rios sarc\u00e1sticos enquanto limpava a porcaria que ele tinha deixado para tr\u00e1s, ele fingia que n\u00e3o ouvia e a vida continuava. Ent\u00e3o, um dia, cheguei a casa depois de um longo dia de trabalho e Vi o lava-loi\u00e7a cheio de pratos sujos <\/strong>e um caixote do lixo t\u00e3o cheio que o lixo estava a cair e depois fiz um SNAPPED!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI\u2019m so sick of this!\u201d<\/em> Eu gritei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cAll you need is ask, and I would help you.\u201d<\/em> disse ele e olhou para mim sem saber o que fazer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fiquei ainda mais irritado e inundei-o com uma torrente de palavras sobre o meu ressentimento. Ele respondeu-me num tom muito zangado, servindo-me de um monte de disparates em sua defesa. Continu\u00e1mos a discutir e depois a situa\u00e7\u00e3o agravou-se.<\/strong> In the end, it didn\u2019t get resolved and we repeated the same pattern the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois aprendi a quebrar o padr\u00e3o<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"casal<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Demorei muito tempo a perceber que est\u00e1vamos a cometer um grande erro quando discutir quest\u00f5es pol\u00e9micas no calor do momento.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I needed to reach the breaking point to be able to see it’s necessary to ter uma conversa s\u00e9ria s\u00f3 quando os dois se acalmarem <\/strong>e ent\u00e3o podemos falar sem necessidade de levantar a voz. Os fins-de-semana s\u00e3o a altura ideal para isso, pois a vida \u00e9 mais calma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you remain calm and respectful you can get him to hear what you\u2019re saying, MAYBE UNDERSTAND how you feel and get the picture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como \u00e9 que o fiz ouvir?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3 come\u00e7ava a abordar os assuntos quando est\u00e1vamos ambos tranquilos, alegres e contentes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I told him we\u2019re a team and we need to play to win. Then I explained in detail what exactly he needed to do regarding the house chores and how he could help me out with the kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu disse que agradecia que ele limpasse a cozinha depois de fazer o jantar.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"homem<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

\u201cDishes in the sink won\u2019t bite you, it\u2019s all safe, just put them in the dishwasher. Also, you can unload the dishwasher from time to time, please don\u2019t wait for me to tell you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois continuei a partilhar imagens v\u00edvidas de todos os est\u00edmulos com que me deparei quando entrei em nossa casa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWhen you see a trash bin overflowing, it\u2019s time to take the trash out!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

\u201cFeel free to buy new clothes or toys for kids, you don\u2019t need to wait for a special occasion.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen you notice the laundry box is full, move the dirty laundry into the washing machine and turn it on.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I hand you the groceries list, please try to search through the supermarket on your own, don\u2019t call me in two-minute intervals to ask for help.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYou can iron your shirts yourself, I have a pile of kids\u2019 clothes to defeat.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt won\u2019t kill you if you pick up the toys and put them in a box occasionally!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSometimes YOU can attend the school event instead of me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHelp the kids brush their teeth and read them a goodnight story.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t say it\u2019s all perfect now, but I see improvements every day. So try to talk to your hubby when you\u2019re not mad. You\u2019ll be amazed at how effective it can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, dear husbands, we often feel as if YOU DON\u2019T NOTICE or appreciate any of our efforts. We need more acknowledgment, help, and more obrigado<\/em>!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m not a grumpy person at all. In my past life (the one I had before marriage) I was known for a cheerful nature and always being in a good mood. My friends would say my superpowers were contagious optimism and loads of positive energy. My glass was always half full. Then I got married…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":165679,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165675","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/If-He-Doesnt-Help-You-With-The-Housework-You-May-Wanna-Try-This_-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165675"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":212017,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165675\/revisions\/212017"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165679"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165675"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165675"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165675"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}