No momento em que o meu marido e eu dissemos \u201cyes\u201d <\/em>no altar, as pessoas come\u00e7aram a chatear-nos. Foi a coisa mais irritante de sempre! Acho que esta \u00e9 uma experi\u00eancia universal para todos os rec\u00e9m-casados. E todos n\u00f3s odiamos isso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why are people so stuck on one way of doing things? I\u2019ve always wondered about that. Is it because os filmes retratam sempre esta experi\u00eancia universal de casar <\/strong>and how things should be going? Or because that\u2019s what they expect from us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sorry to disappoint you but things aren\u2019t exactly the same as they once were. Also, people are free to live how they want. Imagine that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aqui est\u00e3o algumas das suposi\u00e7\u00f5es mais comuns (e irritantes) que as pessoas costumam ter. Come\u00e7ar forte com:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Na verdade, ainda estamos longe das nossas f\u00e9rias de sonho! A realidade \u00e9 um pouco diferente, infelizmente, e cruel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember the laws in the USA? No paid vacation\u2026yeah. We spent tons of money on our wedding and precisamos de tempo para nos recompormos antes de irmos para qualquer lado. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, planning a wedding and honeymoon at the same time is quite exhausting! It\u2019s just a lot to do and we already had a couple of pretty chaotic months. So for now on, our honeymoon is still on hold, but we can\u2019t wait to travel! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Se algu\u00e9m esperasse at\u00e9 ao casamento, isso poderia ser verdade, mas mesmo assim as pessoas precisam de tempo para se adaptarem e explorarem as coisas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A maioria de n\u00f3s j\u00e1 tinha alguma a\u00e7\u00e3o em curso ou at\u00e9 viv\u00edamos juntos! Being married didn\u2019t magically change our <\/strong>rotina de quarto<\/em><\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, we have a more serious sense of commitment now but our worlds didn\u2019t turn upside down just because we got a paper saying we\u2019re official! <\/p>\n\n\n\n I don\u2019t know what it is about people asking newlyweds about having kids as soon as they get married. Firstly, it\u2019s an insanely inappropriate and awkward thing to ask, and secondly, that\u2019s not your business!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Alguns casais podem decidir que querem isso <\/strong>duplo rendimento, sem filhos<\/em><\/strong> vida<\/strong>, which is perfectly fine by the way and we shouldn\u2019t judge it! Others may really want babies but can\u2019t have them for some reason and this question can only be hurtful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E depois h\u00e1 pessoas que querem ter filhos, mas n\u00e3o imediatamente. <\/strong>Whatever the case, please for the love of God, never ask newlyweds if they\u2019re preparing for a new addition to the family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Percebo porque \u00e9 que as pessoas pensam assim, mas nem toda a gente odeia a vida na cidade. As novas gera\u00e7\u00f5es de os jovens gostam mesmo de viver numa grande cidade<\/strong> onde tudo est\u00e1 dispon\u00edvel num estalar de dedos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re craving pizza at 2 am? No problem, delivery will be there in seconds! You need something quickly from the store? There\u2019s one around the corner! It\u2019s simply more convenient <\/strong>e a grande cidade oferece in\u00fameras oportunidades que queremos agarrar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, maybe we\u2019ll appreciate the peace of the suburbs and the big green yard in front of the house when we get older. But for now, we\u2019re staying where we are!<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean we\u2019re feeling pretty good and happy about being married. However, we don\u2019t think we instantly became better than everyone else.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people might not be married and living better lives than us. They probably don\u2019t argue about things like who forgot to buy toilet paper this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Continuamos a respeitar toda a gente da mesma forma! Pensar que nos consideramos superiores s\u00f3 porque demos o n\u00f3 \u00e9 uma grande parvo\u00edce e definitivamente n\u00e3o \u00e9 verdade!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ohh, o bom e velho patriarcado! Sim, os tempos s\u00e3o definitivamente diferentes agora, tia Brenda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t get me wrong. We don\u2019t have anything against women who choose to have their husband’s last name or couples who get a completely new one, but like I said, everyone\u2019s different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If that\u2019s what you like, then go for it! Alguns de n\u00f3s gostam muito dos seus apelidos e querem mant\u00ea-los.<\/strong> Al\u00e9m disso, desta forma evitamos tanta papelada aborrecida e o inc\u00f3modo de atualizar todos os nossos documentos pessoais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ll probably never convince my husband to go to opera with me. He\u2019ll probably never convince me to watch war or sci-fi movies. And guess what? We\u2019re still happily married!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being married doesn\u2019t mean you suddenly have the same interests and hobbies<\/strong> e deitar fora a sua antiga personalidade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean sure, we have some things in common, that\u2019s why we got married in the first place but we\u2019re far away from morphing into one person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sim, agora vimos mesmo num pacote. Quando queres sair com um de n\u00f3s, ficas com os dois, desculpa! Por favor, sejam realistas. Isto \u00e9 uma parvo\u00edce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Continuamos a ter as nossas vidas separadas!<\/strong> Don\u2019t think I can\u2019t go on a brunch with you just because my husband\u2019s out of town. Actually, please call me, I\u2019m bored in the house!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Marriage is all about finding a balance between spending time together and having some time apart. If we were together 24\/7 we wouldn\u2019t have a chance to ever miss each other, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Poucos dias depois do meu casamento, as pessoas come\u00e7aram imediatamente a perguntar-me: \u201dSo, what\u2019s it like?\u201d<\/em>Esperam que eu lhes conte uma hist\u00f3ria louca sobre como as nossas vidas mudaram drasticamente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I say that everything\u2019s pretty much the same, I always disappoint them with that answer. I\u2019m not sure what could possibly change<\/strong>, apart from magically finding my husband\u2019s dirty socks everywhere except in the laundry basket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oh yeah, we also got a ton of kitchen appliances as wedding gifts and we\u2019re trying to figure out how to use them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n People often assume that there\u2019s simply no way we can live on our own and be happy. If we\u2019re not transforming our home into a tiny human factory, we will get ourselves something a bit easier to keep alive, like a pet!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Okay, I\u2019m not going to lie and say isto \u00e9 provavelmente verdade! <\/strong>I mean, I don\u2019t have to go through torture for 9 months, pets are always there for cuddles (not cats though) and my husband and I don\u2019t need to argue about who\u2019ll change the diapers this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So yeah, we\u2019re definitely getting a pet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There you have it. A free manual of things you shouldn\u2019t assume about newlyweds or ask them. Let\u2019s avoid awkward moments and leave stereotypical opinions behind us once and for all!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you know what the worst thing is when you get married? The pressure. Everyone has some expectations and assumptions you should blindly follow like there\u2019s only one right way of living. The moment my husband and I said \u201cyes\u201d at the altar, people started nagging us. It was the most annoying thing ever! 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Fomos diretamente do altar para a nossa lua de mel!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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2. We\u2019re so busy in bed, we don\u2019t even leave the bedroom!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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3. A nossa casa transformou-se numa pequena f\u00e1brica humana!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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4. Goodbye city life, we\u2019re moving to the suburbs!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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5. We pity the people who still haven\u2019t tied the knot!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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6. A mulher deve estar a adorar o seu novo apelido!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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7. Torn\u00e1mo-nos basicamente a mesma pessoa!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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8. We\u2019re glued to each other all the time!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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9. Things are so much different now that we\u2019re married!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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10. Since storks are not coming yet, we\u2019re adopting a pet!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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