{"id":166562,"date":"2024-06-28T10:49:56","date_gmt":"2024-06-28T10:49:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=166562"},"modified":"2024-06-28T10:49:56","modified_gmt":"2024-06-28T10:49:56","slug":"ultima-mensagem-enviada-a-um-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ultima-mensagem-enviada-a-um-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"O que leva as pessoas a enviar textos como estes quando a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acaba"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Normalmente, quando se decide terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o por qualquer raz\u00e3o, <strong>h\u00e1 sempre o receio de deixar coisas por dizer. <\/strong>Mesmo quando terminas o namoro impulsivamente porque ele fez algo imperdo\u00e1vel, tens de ter a \u00faltima palavra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tenho uma forte<strong> desejo de usar as palavras como um golpe final numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o que est\u00e1 a terminar. <\/strong>Maybe I\u2019m afraid if I keep it to myself it\u2019ll become poisonous and destroy my insides.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes you\u2019re not even aware that it will be the last text exchange as he suddenly decides to ghost you. Or if YOU leave without saying anything \u2013 that is a message too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anyway, I asked my friends to share some of the hilarious last texts they\u2019ve sent or received and I promise you\u2019ll be amused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. <em>\u201cWas he any good?\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Senti-o algumas semanas antes e, um dia, vi a colega de trabalho dela a sair sorrateiramente de casa enquanto eu estava a estacionar o carro (voltei do trabalho mais cedo). Quando entrei <strong>Olhei para o seu rosto corado e para a sua cabe\u00e7a de cama e percebi que ela tinha acabado de dormir com ele.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I didn\u2019t tell her anything, I started packing my things. She was following me around and kept asking <em>\u201cWhat are you doing? What\u2019s wrong?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tinha de ir a algum lado, <strong>I couldn\u2019t stand being in that house for another second.<\/strong> I drove to my parent\u2019s place and texted her when I got there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Brian (29)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. <em>\u201cYou made me feel like a hostage. You\u2019re sick.\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text.jpg\" alt=\"texto zangado\" class=\"wp-image-166568\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-text-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>He couldn\u2019t stop it. He was so possessive and pathologically jealous. I had to answer his calls immediately otherwise he would continue calling until the battery would die. Once<strong> Peguei no telefone e havia 27 chamadas n\u00e3o atendidas dele. <\/strong>Psycho, I\u2019m telling you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eu tinha <strong>n\u00e3o tem outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o desaparecer no ar.<\/strong> Acabei de lhe enviar uma mensagem, aconselhei-o a procurar ajuda profissional e bloqueei-o para sempre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Emma (40)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. <em>\u201cDon\u2019t ever text me again!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve sent this and then blocked him on social media. He cheated on me and when I found out about it, <strong>he said it all happened accidentally and he didn\u2019t mean to be unfaithful.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Que idiota!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Janet (22)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. <em>\u201cYou\u2019ll never find someone as good as I was\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>O meu ex mandou-me uma mensagem quando o deixei depois de sete anos de namoro. Havia <strong>n\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais fa\u00edsca entre n\u00f3s,<\/strong> n\u00e3o estava disposto a esfor\u00e7ar-se na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e tomava-me por garantida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quando me apercebi <strong>\u00e9ramos basicamente apenas amigos que viviam juntos <\/strong>I couldn\u2019t take it anymore. I thought I deserved more than that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hannah (30)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. <em>\u201cYou&#8217;re a heartless bastard!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text.jpg\" alt=\"texto de despedida m\u00e9dio\" class=\"wp-image-166569\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/mean-breakup-text-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Escrevi isto depois de uma grande discuss\u00e3o <strong>Regressei a um apartamento vazio.<\/strong> Levou tudo o que p\u00f4de, at\u00e9 alguns dos meus objectos pessoais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sarrah (34)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. <em>\u201cI could never forgive you! I never wanna see you again!!!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Enviei esta mensagem quando ela me implorou que lhe desse uma segunda oportunidade depois de me ter tra\u00eddo com o meu melhor amigo. Fiquei de rastos, <strong>perdi de imediato um amigo e a mulher que amava.<\/strong> Mas eu tinha a certeza de que nunca mais a queria ver. Nunca mais!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Josu\u00e9 (43)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. <em>\u201cI hope she will cheat on you!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text.jpg\" alt=\"texto de separa\u00e7\u00e3o zangado\" class=\"wp-image-166570\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/angry-breakup-text-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>We met during master\u2019s studies and started seeing each other three weeks before the end. Then he had to go back to his hometown but the plan was to continue a long-distance relationship. But <strong>ele simplesmente deixou de responder. <\/strong>A \u00faltima vez que ouvi falar dele foi no aeroporto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depois, a minha amiga teve uma viagem de neg\u00f3cios \u00e0 sua cidade natal e viu-o de m\u00e3os dadas com uma mulher. <strong>Ela tirou uma fotografia e enviou-ma imediatamente e eu reconheci a ex dele.<\/strong> I couldn\u2019t believe he was such a liar!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Alice (24)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. <em>\u201cI\u2019m sorry I ever loved you!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ele utilizou alguns <strong>detalhes embara\u00e7osos sobre a minha vida passada contra mim durante as audi\u00eancias do tribunal de div\u00f3rcio.<\/strong> Que idiota!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mandei-lhe uma mensagem depois de ele ter terminado a sua tirada a tentar humilhar-me perante o juiz e os nossos advogados.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jada (51)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. <em>\u201cCan I come up?\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Mandei-lhe uma mensagem depois do nosso primeiro encontro. N\u00e3o consegui beij\u00e1-la \u00e0 porta e fiquei ali parado durante alguns minutos a pensar no que fazer. Claro que sim, <strong>Estava \u00e0 espera de lhe dar mais do que um beijo se ela dissesse que sim.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No dia seguinte, n\u00e3o respondeu \u00e0 minha mensagem nem aos meus telefonemas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jason (32)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. <em>\u201cI miss you.\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Acab\u00e1mos depois de estarmos juntos durante 8 meses e eu sabia que era a coisa certa a fazer, pois <strong>est\u00e1vamos sempre a discutir e n\u00e3o \u00e9ramos adequados um para o outro.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the next weekend I got drunk and texted him at 4 am. He didn&#8217;t reply, luckily.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maeve (19)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11. <em>\u201cAre you out of your mind?! I can\u2019t be your friend.\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message.jpg\" alt=\"mensagem de texto perturbada\" class=\"wp-image-166571\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/upset-text-message-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Eu ainda sentia algo por ele e estava a sofrer muito. Era uma ideia louca e <strong>I didn\u2019t want any contact after he dumped me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nunca mais ouvi falar dele depois desta mensagem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aaliyah (20)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">12. <em>\u201cLeave me alone, you psycho!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>He wouldn\u2019t stop stalking me in real life and virtually. Then I waited across the street until he came out of his apartment building. I started <strong>gritando o seu nome e dizendo que era uma pessoa doente que estava sempre a assediar-me. <\/strong>As pessoas abriam as janelas e olhavam para ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depois fui-me embora e mandei-lhe esta mensagem. Ele finalmente parou de me perseguir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jessica (46)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">13. <em>\u201cDamn it! Stop ignoring me!\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve sent her a mini novel made of <strong>dezanove mensagens a explicar o quanto ela me magoou<\/strong> quando ela saiu para passar f\u00e9rias com raparigas. Fiquei muito zangado e tentei faz\u00ea-la mudar de ideias e voltar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ela nunca respondeu<\/strong> and obviously blocked me. I ran into her on the street after a few months and she pretended she didn&#8217;t know who I was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;Owen (23)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">14. <em>\u201cLife is so much better without you. Goodbye forever.\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"1200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message.jpg\" alt=\"mensagem de despedida\" class=\"wp-image-166572\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-728x728.jpg 728w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-960x960.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/goodbye-message-1080x1080.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Depois de <strong>Libertei-me de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/strong> I finally felt what it is like to live without constant pressure. Life was good. I couldn\u2019t believe I tortured myself for such a long time by being with someone who was so mean to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Finalmente, consegui respirar <\/strong>e tive de partilhar o qu\u00e3o feliz estava sem ela por perto.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jake (39)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">15. <em>\u201cAre you happy now?\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ele queria que eu fosse uma m\u00e3e que ficasse em casa e <strong>discut\u00edamos todas as manh\u00e3s antes de eu ir para o trabalho.<\/strong> Chegava sempre atrasado por causa dele e um dia despediram-me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>I\u2019ve emailed him the termination of my employment contract <\/strong>juntamente com os documentos de div\u00f3rcio, com o seguinte assunto <em>\u201cAre you happy now\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Shania (40)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Huh, tantas hist\u00f3rias assustadoras! Qual foi o teu \u00faltimo dardo venenoso dirigido ao teu ex?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Usually, when you decide to break up your relationship for whatever reason, there is always a fear of leaving things unsaid. Even when you end it impulsively because he did something unforgivable, you have to have the final word. 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