{"id":167069,"date":"2024-07-03T11:27:38","date_gmt":"2024-07-03T11:27:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167069"},"modified":"2024-09-14T15:58:59","modified_gmt":"2024-09-14T15:58:59","slug":"quando-nao-se-sente-apreciado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/quando-nao-se-sente-apreciado\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele estava a passar por ela como se ela fosse uma pe\u00e7a de mobili\u00e1rio at\u00e9 ela dizer basta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Relationships can be full of ups and downs but it\u2019s just the way they are. You know how they say: sometimes it feels like smooth sailing, and sometimes it feels as if you\u2019re on a boat in a storm.<\/strong> <\/em>You must know when to pull through the storm and when it\u2019s time to flee the boat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Na semana passada, estava no Target e bumped into Lucy, my school friend, whom I hadn\u2019t seen in years.<\/strong> Combin\u00e1mos jantar e p\u00f4r a conversa em dia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We were at a nice Italian restaurant and just after we ordered, she opened up and told me about her relationship that seemed\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nada mais que um desgra\u00e7a e tristeza<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI don\u2019t know how we got here. Not so long ago,<\/em> olhava para mim com amor e admira\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/em><\/strong>Eu via nos seus olhos que ele gostava mesmo de mim. Ele era t\u00e3o atencioso. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I came home from work feeling low, he would instantly notice it and ask me: \u2018Honey, are you feeling okay?\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois, contava-lhe um mal-entendido com um colega de trabalho que me tinha feito sentir triste, e <\/em>levava-me a jantar fora ou a ir ao cinema para me animar. <\/em><\/strong>Eram os bons tempos.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lately, we\u2019re just passing by, without even looking at each other. I can\u2019t take it anymore. I\u2019m so disappointed. <\/em>That\u2019s not the man I know. <\/em><\/strong>A minha frustra\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 a acumular-se todos os dias.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Uma vez, quando tentei ter uma conversa s\u00e9ria com ele, parecia que fal\u00e1vamos l\u00ednguas diferentes. Tudo o que ele dizia era um completo disparate. Cheguei a pensar que era uma forma de o iludir. <\/em>Confundir tanto a parceira que ela acaba por perder a cabe\u00e7a.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Other times, he just kept staring at his phone without even listening to what I said. He said he\u2019s busy, doesn\u2019t understand what I\u2019m trying to say, can I be more clear, and stuff like that.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I\u2019m so tired of trying to talk to him. It\u2019s all useless, and I am just exhausted. We live like roommates. No spark is left between us.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m wondering why he doesn\u2019t break up with me. <\/em><\/strong>Or maybe he\u2019s waiting for me to end it?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What made him change so much? Or he didn\u2019t change? Maybe he was always like this. Maybe I was deluded for all these years.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He doesn\u2019t openly criticize me but<\/em> faz com que eu me sinta mal comigo mesmo.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3 fala (se \u00e9 que fala) de si pr\u00f3prio: do seu sucesso, de como foi promovido e de como finalmente come comida saborosa que ele pr\u00f3prio fez.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Est\u00e1 muitas vezes em frente ao espelho com uma autoconfian\u00e7a colossal, observando-se a si pr\u00f3prio. Nota-se que ele gosta de ver o reflexo da sua bela apar\u00eancia.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Maybe he\u2019s cheating on me. That would explain everything.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yesterday, he said I don\u2019t iron his shirts properly so he will continue doing it. Now, even my ironing is not good enough for him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Na semana passada, disse que ia dormir num sof\u00e1. <\/em>He said I\u2019m snoring and it annoys him.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know what to do! Should I just leave him?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tinha de ser eu a diz\u00ea-lo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Estiveram juntos durante cinco anos, e obviously, the love was gone \u2013 at least for him.<\/strong> Ele tinha demasiado medo de sair da sua zona de conforto ou tinha medo de voltar a ser solteiro, quem sabe?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Disse-lhe que n\u00e3o perdesse mais do seu precioso tempo, que fizesse as malas e se fosse embora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u2013 \u201cJust admit yourself, it\u2019s not working and never will. He won\u2019t change back to a loving and caring boyfriend. You did everything you could, but now it\u2019s time to let it go. I\u2019m sorry, your relationship is over. It\u2019s just not declared yet.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Lucy parecia desapontada, como se esperasse que eu lhe desse um conselho m\u00e1gico que resolveria todos os seus problemas de relacionamento <\/strong>e fazer com que as coisas voltassem a ser como eram. Mas, em vez disso, tudo o que ela recebeu foi a feia verdade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e1 alturas em que temos de parar de tentar e abrir-nos a novas oportunidades, <\/strong>novas pessoas e novas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After a couple of months, I bumped into Lucy again. She really looked happy, and then\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ela mostrou-me o seu anel de noivado!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Conheceu o seu novo namorado nas f\u00e9rias. Tiveram uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia durante dois meses. Depois, ele mudou-se para a nossa cidade, Come\u00e7aram a viver juntos e, pouco depois, ele pediu-a em casamento.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Em apenas alguns meses, Lucy foi de se sentir desvalorizado e infeliz a ser amado <\/strong>e toda entusiasmada com o seu casamento.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por vezes, s\u00f3 precisamos de dizer \u201cNO\u201d<\/em> ou \u201cThat\u2019s enough\u201d <\/em>e fechar essa porta para que outra se abra.<\/strong> Primeiro temos de sair de um lugar onde nos sentimos infelizes e libertarmo-nos da energia da desilus\u00e3o, e s\u00f3 depois podemos chegar a um lugar mais feliz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Woman, I\u2019m telling you he\u2019s not worth it. H\u00e1 outra pessoa \u00e0 tua espera l\u00e1 fora. <\/strong>Don\u2019t let him wait too long.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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