{"id":167457,"date":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167457"},"modified":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","slug":"o-parceiro-nao-responde-as-suas-necessidades","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-parceiro-nao-responde-as-suas-necessidades\/","title":{"rendered":"Voc\u00ea \u00e9 carente ou o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a falhar?\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Having a partner that\u2019s not meeting your needs and always letting you down can be frustrating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s completely normal to be confused and not know in which direction to go. Ser honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio e com o seu parceiro \u00e9 sempre um bom come\u00e7o. <\/strong>If you\u2019re not sure what to do, don\u2019t worry! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O terapeuta Jeff Guenther voltou a encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o perfeita e publicou um v\u00eddeo<\/a> com 12 perguntas que pode fazer a si pr\u00f3prio para autorreflex\u00e3o<\/strong> that will surely help you and give you some clarity! So sit down, prepare yourself to be honest, and let\u2019s start!<\/p>\n\n\n

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1. \u201cHas anyone ever been able to meet this need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

O Jeff come\u00e7ou em for\u00e7a com esta pergunta! Pode ser dif\u00edcil perguntar-se isto a si pr\u00f3prio e dar uma resposta honesta e objetiva, mas isso vai ajud\u00e1-lo a esclarecer as coisas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A autorreflex\u00e3o \u00e9 realmente importante e poderosa <\/strong>e pode revelar se o problema est\u00e1 em si ou no seu parceiro. Claro que a coisa mais f\u00e1cil a fazer \u00e9 culpar outra pessoa, mas temos de ser verdadeiros connosco pr\u00f3prios. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.  \u201cHave you clearly told them multiple times what the need is and how they can meet it?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You probably heard this a million times but I\u2019m going to say it anyway \u2013 good communication is the key to successful relationships! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 um leitor de mentes, por isso you can\u2019t expect your partner to know what you want if you don\u2019t make it clear.<\/strong> I remember when I got upset because my boyfriend wasn\u2019t helping me enough with household chores but I never said it bothered me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois de ter tido uma conversa aberta sobre o assunto, as coisas melhoraram muito porque agora ele sabe o quanto a sua ajuda significa para mim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cDoes your partner acknowledge that they aren\u2019t meeting your need and do they want to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you openly discuss your needs with your partner and they are fully aware of them but still don\u2019t do anything to meet them, the problem might be in them. Ignoring your needs while knowing exactly what you want just means they don\u2019t respect you enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to know if they even want to meet your needs at all or if that\u2019s simply something they can\u2019t or won\u2019t do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De qualquer forma, sermos honestos um com o outro pode rapidamente dizer-nos tudo o que precisamos de saber<\/strong> para tomar uma decis\u00e3o importante relativamente \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cDo you have weekly check-ins regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I started implementing weekly check-ins with my boyfriend and our relationship has never been stronger! It\u2019s an extremely useful and simple way of making sure you\u2019re on the same page all the time. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

O \u00fanico requisito \u00e9 criar um espa\u00e7o seguro onde possam expressar claramente as vossas opini\u00f5es e ser honestos um com o outro sem se zangarem ou ferirem os sentimentos um do outro. Isto far\u00e1 com que ambos se sintam ouvidos e valorizados. <\/p>\n\n\n

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5.  \u201cDo they have an unmet need that you can work on meeting so there\u2019s an equal exchange of energies?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is another example of a question you need to answer while being real with yourself. If you expect everything from them but don\u2019t give anything in return, then that\u2019s not really fair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tens de ser capaz de retribuir a mesma energia que recebes.<\/strong> Eles merecem que as suas expectativas sejam satisfeitas da mesma forma que as suas. Construir uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o feliz e saud\u00e1vel \u00e9 um trabalho para duas pessoas!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cWhat steps have they taken to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you haven\u2019t seen any change in their behavior since your conversation, that might be an issue. However, sometimes we can\u2019t see small improvements someone is making<\/strong> porque esperamos e aguardamos com expetativa o resultado final que solicit\u00e1mos inicialmente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nesse caso, pode ser bom perguntar-lhes sobre os seus progressos.<\/strong> Seeing the steps they\u2019ve taken to meet your needs can reassure you they haven\u2019t forgotten about you and are actively striving to make you happy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cEven if it’s slow all in all, are they making forward progress towards meeting that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Enquanto algumas coisas podem ser mudadas de um dia para o outro, outras requerem mais tempo. Tudo depende da natureza das nossas expectativas e necessidades. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9 por isso que a paci\u00eancia \u00e9 vital para construir a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e crescerem juntos. <\/strong>Lembro-me de querer que o meu parceiro fosse menos ciumento e mais confiante em si pr\u00f3prio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I was frustrated he didn\u2019t manage to change this immediately after our conversation. But I realized I was too harsh and he was actually putting in effort to change that even though building confidence is not so easy and requires time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cHave you given them positive reinforcement as they\u2019ve made forward progress?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Esquecemo-nos muitas vezes que temos de apreciar tudo o que os nossos parceiros fazem por n\u00f3s. O mesmo se aplica \u00e0 satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o das nossas necessidades. Penso que toda a narrativa de \u201cdoing the bare minimum\u201d<\/em> became a bit toxic because people now think they shouldn\u2019t appreciate the small gestures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O refor\u00e7o positivo pode ser motivador e incentiv\u00e1-los a esfor\u00e7arem-se ainda mais.<\/strong> Being thankful is important and shows our partner we notice their hard work and value it. At the end of the day, they\u2019re doing it to make us happy and satisfied so we should acknowledge it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cIs it a dealbreaker if they never meet that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Algumas expectativas ou necessidades s\u00e3o \u00f3bvias e obrigat\u00f3rias numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio se seria infeliz se nada mudasse e se a pessoa continuasse a ser a mesma que \u00e9 agora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9 preciso ter uma conversa honesta consigo mesmo e decidir se vale mesmo a pena estar nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, caso eles nunca satisfa\u00e7am essa necessidade.<\/strong> This can be a painful and hard decision to make but it\u2019s important you put your well-being first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cCan you get that need met outside of your relationship?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I always loved reading books and wanted to discuss them and have deep conversations about certain topics with my partner but he\u2019s more of a movie guy. I realized I also wouldn\u2019t like him to pressure me into loving sports all of a sudden and talking about football with him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Juntei-me a um clube de leitura e satisfiz esta necessidade sem o chatear e sem causar um drama desnecess\u00e1rio. Sometimes friends or some hobbies are all you need to get satisfaction your partner can\u2019t provide.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Pode seguir o meu exemplo e fazer o mesmo se a sua necessidade espec\u00edfica puder ser satisfeita fora de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cAre you satisfied with all the other needs that they meet for you?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Take a moment to think about other needs your partner is meeting for you. We often focus so much on the negatives and what we\u2019re missing that esquecemo-nos das coisas positivas que gostamos neles e que dev\u00edamos apreciar mais. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe your partner doesn\u2019t have what it takes to be spontaneous and plan some unexpected trip but he\u2019s really reliable and you can always trust him with important things and that\u2019s also important to you. We can\u2019t let one tiny thing ruin a whole view of our relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cHave you developed anger and resentment that needs to be processed with them regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This can be tricky. If you\u2019ve been nagging them about something for a long time and they still haven\u2019t changed anything, you\u2019ve probably built up resentment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enxugar pensamentos e emo\u00e7\u00f5es para debaixo do tapete pode transformar-se num enorme problema. Certifique-se de que n\u00e3o ignora as suas frustra\u00e7\u00f5es e diga-lhes como se sente.<\/strong> If they don\u2019t validate your feelings and just ignore what you said, it might be time to say goodbye once and for all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having standards is as important as making sure you\u2019re not too needy or unrealistic. So before making any big decisions, sit alone with your thoughts, ask yourself these questions, and then decide on your next move.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Having a partner that\u2019s not meeting your needs and always letting you down can be frustrating.  It\u2019s completely normal to be confused and not know in which direction to go. Being honest with yourself and your partner is always a good start. If you\u2019re not sure what to do, don\u2019t worry!  Therapist Jeff Guenther has…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167458,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167457","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Are-You-Needy-Or-Is-Your-Partner-Falling-Short-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":242,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":242,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167457","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167457"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167457\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167462,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167457\/revisions\/167462"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167458"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167457"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167457"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167457"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}