{"id":167463,"date":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167463"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","slug":"conselhos-controversos-para-encontros-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/conselhos-controversos-para-encontros-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Conselhos impopulares de um terapeuta para encontros que est\u00e3o a provocar drama"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hoje em dia, namorar \u00e9 quase como um campo minado. Est\u00e1 a tentar aprender o m\u00e1ximo de dicas e truques que o possam ajudar, mas depara-se sempre com opini\u00f5es diferentes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pode ser bastante frustrante descobrir como navegar em encontros e relacionamentos<\/strong> when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While one person advises you to behave a certain way, the other is saying that\u2019s a major red flag. So who can I trust, damn it?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quer saber a resposta? Alguns dos melhores conselhos s\u00e3o, na verdade, considerados bastante controversos. <\/strong>E quem \u00e9 a melhor e mais fi\u00e1vel pessoa para falar sobre isto, se n\u00e3o um terapeuta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why I want to share with you the most unpopular (but effective) dating tips according to the therapist Jeff Guenther<\/a>. Ele come\u00e7ou a sua v\u00eddeo<\/a> com o conselho mais pol\u00e9mico!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. If it\u2019s meant to be, sleeping with them on a first date won\u2019t change anything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you never heard people saying you shouldn\u2019t sleep with someone on a first date you\u2019ve probably been living under a rock! This became like an unwritten rule but turns out it\u2019s complete nonsense!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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\"n\u00e3o
Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Jeff diz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cA relationship is gonna happen whether or not you bang the first time you go out together. Sleep with them or don\u2019t sleep with them, it makes no difference\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I think I agree with him. Sleeping with someone on a first date won\u2019t ruin your chances of developing a serious relationship as many believe. In the same way, not sleeping with them will not guarantee you\u2019ll end up having your happily ever after story. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, nem toda a gente concorda que este \u00e9 um bom conselho:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSleeping with someone on a first date has made me attach to people too quickly, in my experience.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Por outro lado, muitas pessoas admitiram nos coment\u00e1rios que o seu caso de uma noite se transformou numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura e, em alguns casos, at\u00e9 num casamento. Uma mulher comentou:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSlept with my partner on the 1st date and we\u2019ve been together now almost 13 years \ud83e\udd70\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E pronto! Saiba que se algu\u00e9m estiver genuinamente interessado em si e quiser comprometer-se, n\u00e3o tem nada com que se preocupar! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. It\u2019s okay to be direct and open about your needs early on<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Algumas pessoas pensam que podem assustar o seu parceiro se falarem sobre as vossas necessidades e expectativas demasiado cedo. Mas, na verdade, isso \u00e9 a great way to see if they\u2019re the right person for you. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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\"diz
Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

explica Jeff:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBeing direct about your expectations allows your date to either show that they can step up or they can\u2019t. Great data to gather right from the start!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher experimentou este conselho e resultou muito bem:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cTrue! the moment I told this guy what I want, he delivers. so, I know now this is going somewhere.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t say this isn\u2019t smart! It\u2019s absurd to expect that someone magically knows everything we want and need, so why not say it loud and clear? If they have a problem with it, then they\u2019re probably not a good match. <\/strong>So, let\u2019s not waste each other\u2019s time and see if we\u2019re on the same page!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Deixa-os conhecer os teus amigos assim que quiseres<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many say letting your date meet your friends is a serious big step you shouldn\u2019t make if you\u2019re not 100% sure about them.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"convidar
Cr\u00e9dito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Jeff explica porque \u00e9 que pode querer repensar isso:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cInvite them around your friends as soon as you want and ask your friends if they felt like you were acting like your authentic self around them.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher disse o seu par surpreendeu-a agradavelmente ao convidar o seu grupo de amigos <\/strong>no seu segundo encontro. Ela comentou:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI’m currently seeing a guy I met on Hinge and the second time we hung out, his entire friend group came! I thought it was sweet actually! It made me immediately cut off all of my other options!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Isn\u2019t this a really good idea? Others can sometimes see things more clearly than you can, especially if you have butterflies in your stomach. Have your friends observe the vibe and if you\u2019re acting how you normally would <\/strong>to find out if they\u2019re right for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cIf they wanted to, they would\u201d mindset is not the best <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While this is a motto some people live by, others agree with the therapist that it\u2019s just an unrealistic expectation. He thinks things are more complicated than that:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c\u2018If they wanted to, they would\u2019 is too simplistic and black and white, and doesn\u2019t allow for any nuance. Someone may really want you but not be super forward about it for a million reasons.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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\"d\u00ea-lhes
Cr\u00e9dito: Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to realize it takes time to build a connection and deserve someone to go above and beyond for you. \u00c9 preciso dar \u00e0s pessoas a oportunidade de mostrarem quem s\u00e3o e o que est\u00e3o dispostas a fazer por si. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Algumas pessoas nos coment\u00e1rios concordaram com este ponto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201c\u2018If they wanted to they would\u2019 but you\u2019ve never told them what you want\/need is soooo dumb.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Outra mulher acrescentou:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYes! I hate that \u201cif they wanted to they would\u201d I get why it\u2019s a saying. But, not always the case.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Seja sincero. Esta vis\u00e3o de um terapeuta provavelmente f\u00ea-lo repensar muitas coisas, certo? Esta \u00e9 apenas mais uma prova de que nunca se pode errar ao confiar no instinto<\/strong> e fazer o que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o te diz para fazer! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que pensa sobre estas opini\u00f5es? S\u00e3o v\u00e1lidas ou n\u00e3o?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dating nowadays feels almost like a minefield. You are trying to learn as many tips & tricks that will help you but you encounter different opinions every time! It can be quite frustrating to figure out how to navigate dating and relationships when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167468,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167463","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Unpopular-Dating-Advice-From-A-Therapist-That-Is-Stirring-Up-Drama-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":242,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":242,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167463"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167469,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions\/167469"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167468"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167463"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167463"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167463"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}