{"id":167551,"date":"2024-07-08T13:23:17","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T13:23:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167551"},"modified":"2024-07-08T13:23:17","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T13:23:17","slug":"de-quem-e-a-culpa-da-batota","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/de-quem-e-a-culpa-da-batota\/","title":{"rendered":"A culpa \u00e9 sua se o seu parceiro o trai?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all ignored some red flags at least once. When you really like someone, you want them to be the one even if deep down you know they\u2019re not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it\u2019s some minor red flags, but there are coisas como a batota que nunca devemos ignorar.<\/strong> No entanto, isto \u00e9 mais f\u00e1cil de dizer do que de fazer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019re over them you always quickly realize it was too obvious and you should have known. The reality is \u2013 recognizing red flags is not so simple when you\u2019re in love. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enquanto estava a percorrer o TikTok, deparei-me com um v\u00eddeo<\/a> of a podcast about cheating that left me with mixed feelings about it. I was both annoyed and intrigued by the statement of a woman who said that it\u2019s our fault when someone cheats on us.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who\u2019s to blame when cheating happens?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sadia Khan (@sadiapsicologia<\/a>), um treinador de rela\u00e7\u00f5es apareceu num podcast e deixou toda a gente sem palavras com a sua declara\u00e7\u00e3o ousada. <\/strong>O v\u00eddeo come\u00e7a com ela a dizer:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you ever get cheated on, I know people hate me for this, but it\u2019s usually your fault. And the reason I say that particularly with men a cheating woman shows you every red flag from day one. If you choose to ignore red flags, you\u2019ll pay the price.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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Fonte: TikTok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

If this ain\u2019s something you\u2019re gonna think about tonight when you go to sleep, I don\u2019t know what it is. I mean, it\u2019s something that gets you thinking about all the signs that might have been in front of you the whole time but you still didn\u2019t do anything about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, \u00e9 realmente justo culpar a pessoa que foi tra\u00edda? <\/strong>She definitely sparked some debate with that statement. One person didn\u2019t agree with her at all and commented:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIf someone cheats on you it\u2019s never your fault because there is no excuse for cheating, period.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Alguns, por outro lado, admitiram os seus erros e disseram que ela tinha raz\u00e3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIt\u2019s true. I didn\u2019t follow my gut and lied to myself. Never again.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

As pessoas tamb\u00e9m disseram it\u2019s not always the case that someone sees the red flags but stays anyway. <\/strong>Some people are new to the dating scene and actually don\u2019t realize they\u2019re being manipulated. As one user commented:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cTrue but if you\u2019re inexperienced you have no idea lmao.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

So the question that remains is, what are those red flags she\u2019s talking about so much? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como reconhecer um batoteiro?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sadia said that cheaters always show who they are and it\u2019s only up to us to see their true colors. You can\u2019t be a cheater and be moral at the same time, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Os batoteiros mostrar\u00e3o sempre os seus valores em algum momento<\/strong> and we shouldn\u2019t ignore them if they sound questionable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Asking about their past is also not a bad idea. It usually tells a lot about a person, although that\u2019s not always the case. But you know what people say, uma vez batoteiro, sempre batoteiro. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadia mentions she deals with a lot of clients who get cheated on, some even for years. She said they\u2019re basically consenting because there\u2019s no way they can\u2019t figure out some of the obvious signs.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Fonte: TikTok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Como ela explicou:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThere would have been late replies, there would have been days their phones are off, not telling you where they\u2019re going, their social media would have suggested something. There would have been signs you chose to ignore and the price you pay for that unfortunately is infidelity.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Depois de explicar a sua declara\u00e7\u00e3o, as pessoas aperceberam-se de que ela podia ter raz\u00e3o e que isto era apenas the ugly truth others don\u2019t want to face. <\/strong>Como admitiu uma mulher:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIt’s not nice to hear if you’ve been cheated on….but it is absolutely true \ud83d\udc4d\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Some people still don\u2019t agree because they think sometimes it\u2019s simply impossible to know and predict what someone is going to do. Someone wrote:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cNauuuur! He told me he was cheated by his recent one. I let my guard down and thought he wouldn’t cheat because he got cheated on already.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A Sadia come\u00e7ou realmente uma discuss\u00e3o acesa com esta opini\u00e3o! O que \u00e9 que voc\u00eas acham? Devemos culpar a pessoa que viveu a infidelidade ou a que a cometeu? <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all ignored some red flags at least once. When you really like someone, you want them to be the one even if deep down you know they\u2019re not. Sometimes it\u2019s some minor red flags, but there are things like cheating that we should never overlook. However, this is easier said than done. Once you\u2019re…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167554,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167551","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Is-It-Your-Fault-If-Your-Partner-Cheats-On-You-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167551","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167551"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167551\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167555,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167551\/revisions\/167555"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167554"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167551"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167551"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167551"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}