{"id":167809,"date":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167809"},"modified":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:35:45","slug":"recuperar-a-identidade-depois-da-maternidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/recuperar-a-identidade-depois-da-maternidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Como recuperei o meu verdadeiro eu depois de me ter perdido no papel de m\u00e3e"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m sitting on the edge of the sofa, cradling Miles, my newborn son in one hand while Jamie, my 2-year-old son clings to my leg. It\u2019s 8 am but I feel like I’ve lived a lifetime since dawn.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last night was tough \u2013 another sleepless struggle. The baby cried all night so I woke up a couple of times trying to soothe him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para ser sincera, vivo como uma m\u00e3e solteira. <\/strong>My husband and I are happily married but his work requires him to travel a lot and often he spends weeks on a business trip. Now he\u2019s in Japan for five days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m left to handle the kids on my own<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"m\u00e3e<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHungry\u2026\u201d<\/em> Jamie murmura, olhando para mim com os seus grandes olhos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sinto uma pontada de culpa. Eu queria ser a m\u00e3e perfeita, aquela que conseguia fazer malabarismos com tudo sem esfor\u00e7o, <\/strong>the one who could give both of her kids all the attention they deserve, but the reality is far from that. It\u2019s all so hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cOkay sweetie.\u201d <\/em>Eu digo, segurando Miles nos meus bra\u00e7os. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I go to the kitchen and make a simple breakfast for Jamie while trying to keep Miles calm. I try to overlook the remains of last night\u2019s dinner lying on the counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jamie toma o pequeno-almo\u00e7o e eu ponho Miles na cadeira de seguran\u00e7a por um momento. Respiro fundo para tentar desfrutar de uma pequena pausa. <\/strong>Poucos minutos depois, o Jamie quer que eu brinque com ele e o Miles come\u00e7a a fazer barulho outra vez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m so focused on my kids that I neglect my own needs and desires. Then, one day I get\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A chamada de aten\u00e7\u00e3o no espelho<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"mulher<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

O meu reflexo no espelho do outro lado da sala mostra uma mulher desconhecida a olhar para mim.<\/strong> Mal me reconhe\u00e7o: as olheiras emolduram os meus olhos cansados e o meu cabelo parece uma confus\u00e3o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gostava de ter um momento s\u00f3 para mim, sem o peso da exaust\u00e3o a pressionar-me.<\/strong> Se ao menos pudesse descansar um pouco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I feel like crying, but I don\u2019t have time for that. <\/strong>Por isso, pestanejo para afastar as l\u00e1grimas. Tenho de continuar. Pelo Jamie. Pelo Miles. Por mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cMommy needs a quick shower, okay?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jamie nods and continues playing with his toys. I leave Miles in a bouncer, rush to the bathroom, leaving the door open so I can hear the kids. The warm shower feels so good, but it doesn\u2019t wash the fatigue away. I have to hurry. Miles\u2019s cry got louder.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enrolando uma toalha \u00e0 minha volta, corri para a sala de estar. Jamie est\u00e1 a tentar confortar Miles, dando-lhe palmadinhas na cabe\u00e7a. A vis\u00e3o faz-me sorrir e d\u00e1-me um pequeno impulso de for\u00e7a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cThank you Jamie.\u201d I say picking up Miles. I sit down with both of them, holding them close. Sinto-me exausta e sobrecarregada, mas continuo a dar o meu melhor.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This has to change. I can\u2019t continue like this. I had lost touch with who I am outside of being a mom. As minhas paix\u00f5es, os meus passatempos e at\u00e9 as minhas aspira\u00e7\u00f5es profissionais parecem mem\u00f3rias distantes.<\/strong> Estou a ouvir a voz na minha cabe\u00e7a:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou need to reconnect with yourself\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"rapaz<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Tenho de encontrar uma forma de fazer com que tudo isto resulte. Tenho de me lembrar de quem eu era antes de ser m\u00e3e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Um passo de cada vez, um momento de cada vez. <\/strong>\u201cI can do this.\u201d <\/em>Estou sempre a dizer a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como designer, Sempre tive um olho para a composi\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> e sempre me senti naturalmente atra\u00edda pela organiza\u00e7\u00e3o de elementos de uma forma visualmente agrad\u00e1vel. Mas depois tive filhos e as minhas capacidades ficaram no banco de tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI might be a great photographer.\u201d <\/em>Penso para mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sempre gostei de fotografia, mas nunca tive tempo para aperfei\u00e7oar as minhas capacidades. Now it\u2019s the right time to give it a try.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ao passear com os mi\u00fados, come\u00e7o tirar fotografias dos arredores. <\/strong>Partilho-os nas redes sociais e recebo muitos coment\u00e1rios de apoio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Primeiro, tenho de reorganizar a minha vida. Contrato uma babysitter dois ou tr\u00eas dias por semana<\/strong> para ter tempo de seguir a minha paix\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agora a fotografia d\u00e1 sentido \u00e0 minha vida e traz alegria aos meus dias.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have to tell you that becoming a professional photographer wasn\u2019t an overnight process. It required small steps. I had to carve out time for reading about photography, took courses, and improved my skills in many other ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tive de aprender a dar prioridade ao meu bem-estar sem me sentir culpada<\/strong> sobre n\u00e3o estar dispon\u00edvel 24 horas por dia para a minha fam\u00edlia. Estabeleci pequenos objectivos para mim pr\u00f3pria que me deram um prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando comecei a dar prioridade a mim pr\u00f3pria e \u00e0s minhas paix\u00f5es, notei uma transforma\u00e7\u00e3o. Senti-me mais energizado, confiante e realizado. <\/strong>This positive change didn\u2019t just benefit me, it also had an impact on my family. I became a happier and more present mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To all the moms out there who may feel lost or overwhelmed \u2013 it\u2019s okay to take time for yourself. Recuperar o seu verdadeiro eu n\u00e3o \u00e9 um ato ego\u00edsta,<\/strong> it\u2019s an essential part of being the best version of yourself for you and your family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember, you are more than just a mom \u2013 \u00e9s uma pessoa \u00fanica com muito para oferecer ao mundo. <\/strong>Para ser a melhor m\u00e3e, primeiro precisa de estar bem. O autocuidado \u00e9 crucial, mulher!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por isso, d\u00ea o primeiro passo. Abrace o seu verdadeiro eu e desfrute da viagem da maternidade. Merece-o.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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