{"id":167953,"date":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167953"},"modified":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","slug":"beneficios-de-se-manter-firme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/beneficios-de-se-manter-firme\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que acabar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode n\u00e3o ser a melhor solu\u00e7\u00e3o, mesmo que pare\u00e7a correto"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s completely normal that every relationship has its ups and downs. After all, they aren\u2019t all sunshine and rainbows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know you sometimes feel like you\u2019re enemies and not lovers. How do I know it? Well, I experienced the exact same thing. Every little thing he did started to annoy me. We\u2019ve been fighting nonstop and problems were just piling up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nessas situa\u00e7\u00f5es, it\u2019s natural to think the best thing you can do is break up<\/strong> e continuem com as vossas vidas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, seguir em frente assim que as coisas se tornam dif\u00edceis nem sempre \u00e9 a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o, porque you\u2019re avoiding an opportunity to work on yourself <\/strong>e resolver os problemas enterrados no seu interior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joe Kort (@drjoekort<\/a>), um psicoterapeuta, explicou isto t\u00e3o bem num TikTok que certamente o far\u00e1 repensar tudo o que sabe sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A segunda fase \u00e9 o ponto cr\u00edtico de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe, the psychotherapist started a video talking about the first stage of every relationship. That is inevitably the best part which everyone enjoys. Why? Well because that\u2019s when we\u2019re still getting to know each other and there\u2019s no build-up resentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Criar la\u00e7os e estabelecer uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a sua prioridade no in\u00edcio.<\/strong> It\u2019s all about the things that make you similar and interests you share. You also still try pretty hard to make the other person fall for you even more. Some people call this a fase de lua de mel.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que vem a seguir n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim t\u00e3o doce e \u00e9 por isso que a maioria dos casais rompe a rela\u00e7\u00e3o durante a segunda fase.<\/strong> Joe descreveu-o como um luta pelo poder<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe power struggle which is the second stage is all about differences and conflict arises and people start arguing and people start highlighting the differences between each other to the point if they don\u2019t know what they\u2019re doing breaking up is the best solution because it feels better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @drjoekort<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Faz sentido que as pessoas queiram partir durante esses tempos dif\u00edceis, porque ningu\u00e9m gosta de ser desafiado e de descobrir que as pessoas s\u00e3o diferentes das vers\u00f5es ideais que imagin\u00e1mos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, this is not ideal because we\u2019re running away from confronting them and even ourselves alone<\/strong> quando se trata de quest\u00f5es que temos. <\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @drjoekort<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

O psicoterapeuta disse que esta \u00e9 a fase em que todas as nossas quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o resolvidas v\u00eam \u00e0 superf\u00edcie. <\/strong>It\u2019s also not rare we\u2019re triggering some old traumas which is normal because we\u2019re still getting to know each other and learning about our boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talvez valha a pena tentar<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe salienta a import\u00e2ncia de permanecermos e trabalharmos juntos nas nossas quest\u00f5es:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSo you want to make sure that you\u2019re working through the power struggle and not abandoning yourself and the relationship just to feel better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

He also said it\u2019s important to note that this advice is not applicable to every relationship:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIf it\u2019s untreated addiction or somebody who\u2019s a narcissist and unwilling to work with you, that\u2019s different. But most other relationships, the power struggle is exactly what you need to heal and grow as individuals and as a couple.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Pode ser muito dif\u00edcil ultrapassar os nossos traumas e diferen\u00e7as, mas se nos amarmos realmente, isso torna-se apenas um pequeno obst\u00e1culo que temos de ultrapassar. Mesmo que nos separemos e sigamos em frente, h\u00e1 uma grande probabilidade de que a mesma coisa volte a acontecer na nossa pr\u00f3xima rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Temos de compreender que, embora trabalhar sobre n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios n\u00e3o \u00e9 a coisa mais f\u00e1cil de fazer<\/strong>, it\u2019s absolutely required if we want to live fulfilled lives and have successful relationships with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como disse o Joe, que nos permita crescer individualmente e como casal<\/strong> o que \u00e9 muito importante para construir uma base s\u00f3lida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Muitas pessoas nos coment\u00e1rios disseram que eram os \u00fanicos que estavam a fazer o trabalho. Claro que sim, some people are not ready or simply don\u2019t want to do the work<\/strong> and that\u2019s also fine. You don\u2019t deserve someone who won\u2019t fight for your love anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some said it\u2019s also important to know what the differences between you are because some things can\u2019t be worked through if you\u2019re simply not compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n

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In my case, my boyfriend and I realized we had differences but they weren\u2019t something that could keep us apart because our love was stronger. We were ready to find common ground and make it work and that\u2019s what we did!So if you\u2019re in the same situation don\u2019t give up easily, try to talk to your partner and see where they\u2019re standing.<\/strong> If it\u2019s clear they\u2019re pulling back and want to give up, don\u2019t waste your time and energy!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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