{"id":168146,"date":"2024-07-11T14:47:55","date_gmt":"2024-07-11T14:47:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=168146"},"modified":"2024-07-11T15:11:13","modified_gmt":"2024-07-11T15:11:13","slug":"a-solidao-da-maternidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-solidao-da-maternidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Mulher chora dizendo que a maternidade nunca foi feita para uma pessoa s\u00f3"},"content":{"rendered":"

You can\u2019t really understand the full meaning of the old proverb \u201cIt takes a village to raise a child\u201d <\/em><\/strong>until you become a mom. Then you get the picture of how parenting is a very tough job and you’re surprised by how many things you have to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Navegar motherhood in today\u2019s world includes a whole set of struggles.<\/strong> You need to take care of the kids, cook, and maintain the household. Then there\u2019s a mental load \u2013 an overwhelming list of tasks that moms keep track of daily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re a working mom then it gets even harder. You\u2019re under constant stress, conciliar as responsabilidades profissionais com as necessidades familiares, <\/strong>and there\u2019s little time for self-care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As redes sociais servem-no com glimpses of someone else\u2019s life and creates pressure to be perfect.<\/strong> Sente-se inadequado e culpado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mas uma das lutas mais ignoradas da maternidade \u00e9 que As m\u00e3es enfrentam frequentemente sentimentos de isolamento e solid\u00e3o. <\/strong>Em parte porque o seu novo hor\u00e1rio n\u00e3o deixa tempo para socializar, e em parte porque os seus amigos sem filhos se tornam subitamente distantes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma mulher em l\u00e1grimas falou sobre este assunto numa v\u00eddeo<\/a> no TikTok:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMothers and children are like a forgotten species in our modern-day society\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Cr\u00e9dito: @wearemanenough<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Woman explains that when you become a mother people start treating you like you\u2019re not the same person anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cLike you become a mom and then suddenly you\u2019re like pushed out, \u2018go find your mommy and me group\u2019, \u2018go figure it out on your own\u2019, and \u2018we\u2019ll see you when you can be productive again.\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Em seguida, apresenta uma perspetiva reveladora, falando sobre a ideia essencial da maternidade tradicional.<\/strong> Algo de que nos esquecemos:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe job of being a mother, it feels a lot for one person, because it was never meant to be for one person. It was meant for a village.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Ela quer sublinhar a import\u00e2ncia de <\/strong>cuidados que s\u00e3o cruciais para as m\u00e3es modernas, porque normalmente n\u00e3o t\u00eam qualquer apoio e carregam um fardo muito pesado.<\/strong> Also, there is tremendous change happening in women\u2019s lives and they need help to adjust to it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThey need rest, they need proper nutrition. They need help, they need love, they need loving touch. They, you know, to just help them through this transition from woman to mother.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Outros TikTokers (do sexo feminino, claro) concordaram e partilharam as suas experi\u00eancias em como \u00e9 solit\u00e1rio ser m\u00e3e.<\/strong> Algu\u00e9m escreveu que at\u00e9 os amigos deixam de o convidar para eventos ou reuni\u00f5es porque:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe didn\u2019t think you\u2019d want to come because of the baby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Os coment\u00e1rios mostraram como as mulheres sentem-se de facto exclu\u00eddas e isoladas quando se tornam m\u00e3es. <\/strong>A maioria concordou com a sua afirma\u00e7\u00e3o e acrescentou que a sociedade imp\u00f5e grandes expectativas \u00e0s mulheres.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI feel like motherhood meant for us but we weren\u2019t meant to do all the other things society expects from us.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Depois, quando se \u00e9 m\u00e3e, as pessoas comportam-se como se a maternidade tivesse feito com que se perdesse a intelig\u00eancia:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @wearemanenough<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

A met\u00e1fora da aldeia adquire ent\u00e3o um verdadeiro significado:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cRight?! I always wondered what people were talking about, but now I\u2019m a mother I totally get what they mean by a \u2018village\u2019.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Existe sem apoio e empatia<\/strong> porque as pessoas acreditam que ser pai ou m\u00e3e \u00e9 uma escolha pessoal e que ningu\u00e9m se deve preocupar com isso:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @wearemanenough<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Sometimes you have to make your own \u201csociety\u201d as the one you are coming from is doing everything to make it hard for you. Friends and coworkers often perceive women who use maternity leave as unsuccessful and lazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cit’s true, I’ve returned to work and I feel like I’m being shamed for having been off work, and potentially wanting more children.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Quando as mulheres optam por ser m\u00e3es que ficam em casa, as pessoas come\u00e7am a faz\u00ea-las sentir-se in\u00fateis:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @wearemanenough<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Societal pressure is causing women to feel bad because they\u2019re not contributing financially while they are stay-at-home moms. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, it\u2019s quite common: you\u2019ve been there for everyone, and now when you\u2019re in need they disappear in thin air:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI was everyones village. Now that i have my own i have no one.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

However, we shouldn\u2019t forget what it\u2019s like for those women who don’t plan on having kids.<\/strong> Society requires women to be moms if they want to be accepted and perceived as a part of the group. Those who don\u2019t have children are looked down upon even by women:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Cr\u00e9dito: @wearemanenough<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

At\u00e9 eles recebem o tratamento de isolamento:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cthe opposite has happened to me. i don\u2019t want children and all my friends have had them, i no longer get included.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Ser mulher hoje em dia inclui tantos desafios diferentes. Com filhos ou sem eles, the feeling of exclusion is something you\u2019ll probably face one way or another.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mas pode encontrar o seu aldeia<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Procure grupos locais de pais, comunidades em linha ou comunidades nas redes sociais onde possa contactar com outras m\u00e3es. Construir um \u00e9 essencial para partilhar experi\u00eancias, conselhos e apoio emocional.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will help you understand that you\u2019re doing an amazing job, help you with your doubts, and remind you to celebrate your accomplishments!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You can\u2019t really understand the full meaning of the old proverb \u201cIt takes a village to raise a child\u201d until you become a mom. Then you get the picture of how parenting is a very tough job and you’re surprised by how many things you have to do. Navigating motherhood in today\u2019s world includes a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":168147,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-168146","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Woman-Cries-Saying-Motherhood-Was-Never-Meant-To-Be-For-One-Person-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":242,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":242,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168146","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=168146"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168146\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":168157,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168146\/revisions\/168157"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/168147"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=168146"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=168146"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=168146"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}