{"id":168158,"date":"2024-07-11T15:00:40","date_gmt":"2024-07-11T15:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=168158"},"modified":"2024-07-11T15:10:55","modified_gmt":"2024-07-11T15:10:55","slug":"7-razoes-para-a-culpa-da-mae","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-razoes-para-a-culpa-da-mae\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Situa\u00e7\u00f5es que podem ser relatadas quando as mulheres sentem culpa da m\u00e3e (e como lidar com isso)"},"content":{"rendered":"

My life tremendously changed when I became a mom. Suddenly I didn’t have time for anything and estava numa montanha russa de emo\u00e7\u00f5es a toda a hora. <\/strong>Al\u00e9m disso, estava a enfrentar muitos desafios. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu sentia alegria por passar tempo com o meu beb\u00e9 e ver os seus progressos, mas ao mesmo tempo I was bothered by a pervasive feeling known as \u201cmom guilt\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When things didn’t go as planned \u2013 whether it was a messy house, a failed school project, or a missed milestone \u2013 guilt would quickly set in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A luta emocional que as m\u00e3es atravessam pode ter v\u00e1rias origens e manifestar-se de diferentes formas, mas h\u00e1 algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es comuns que levam as m\u00e3es a sentirem-se culpadas.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you look for relatable stories on TikTok, you\u2019ll find a bunch of videos and reels where women share their own experiences about mom guilt. So let’s dig in: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. \u201cI should have handled the situation a lot better\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Leah Rae<\/a> fala de momentos na maternidade em que damos o nosso melhor, mas depois apercebemo-nos de que dev\u00edamos ter lidado muito melhor com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e sentimo-nos culpados por isso.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come\u00e7a por explicar como acha que a culpa da m\u00e3e \u00e9 quando se decide leave kids at your parent\u2019s house to go out and have fun, <\/strong>e depois sentir-se culpada por isso. Mas depois ela percebeu:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Era ing\u00e9nuo pensar que a culpa das m\u00e3es s\u00f3 est\u00e1 presente em momentos muito espec\u00edficos, e Leah come\u00e7a a partilhar algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es muito comuns em que as m\u00e3es se sentem culpadas:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMom guilt is having a hard day and feeling guilty that you were frustrated. Mom guilt is wishing the time away and then wishing that they were small again.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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Mom guilt is wanting a different life for you and your baby and then feeling guilty for working. Mom guilt is when I feel like I\u2019m not doing enough for my child.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

There is an enormous love you feel for your child but you\u2019re also very tired and o teu corpo grita por descanso.<\/strong> No entanto, quando se descansa um pouco, a culpa come\u00e7a a comer-nos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se optar por continuar a trabalhar, you feel like you\u2019re disappointing your child.<\/strong> No matter how devoted mom you may be, you\u2019ll always feel you should do more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. \u201cI feel guilty for taking alone time\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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As moms, we often put our family’s needs above our own, and we feel guilty when we take time off. Whether it’s a night out with friends, a solo vacation, or even just a quiet bath, a ideia de cuidar de si pode parecer ego\u00edsta para muitas m\u00e3es. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lisa P<\/a> afirma que o tempo a s\u00f3s \u00e9 uma necessidade humana b\u00e1sica:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAlone time is a need. And when you don\u2019t get it for long enough you start to crack.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Ser m\u00e3e significa ser constantemente sobre-estimulado e sobrecarregado. <\/strong>So don\u2019t be hard on yourself for taking some time for yourself. You need it to be a better mom. Take a break woman!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cI feel bad for using technology more than I \u2018should\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Entre outras coisas que a fazem sentir-se culpada pela m\u00e3e, Ang\u00e9lica<\/a> sublinha a culpa pela utiliza\u00e7\u00e3o da tecnologia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know, we are all aware how screens can be dangerous for our kids’ development. I always try to assegurar a exist\u00eancia de actividades l\u00fadicas ao ar livre e de ar fresco suficientes,<\/strong> mas \u00e0s vezes deixo os meus filhos verem televis\u00e3o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O equil\u00edbrio \u00e9 a chave, para que possa fazer uma pausa ou fazer algo enquanto est\u00e3o entretidos com os ecr\u00e3s,<\/strong> mas depois de 30 minutos a ver passivamente desenhos animados, certifique-se de que os seus filhos se envolvem em boas e velhas brincadeiras interactivas durante pelo menos uma hora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cI hate myself for losing my temper and raising my voice\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We are human beings and it\u2019s not easy to handle all the burden and emotional flood. Por vezes, passamo-nos.<\/strong> Then you feel SO BAD because you\u2019re afraid you\u2019ll traumatize your kids with outbursts of anger. I feel you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t forget that todos os pais perdem a calma de vez em quando, <\/strong>it’s part of parenthood. It\u2019s normal. Try to give your kids as much love as you can, try to be more calm and it will all balance out. Remember, you\u2019re not a monster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll recognize yourself in Katie\u2019s<\/a> reel \u2013 sometimes you\u2019re annoyed by the fact you can\u2019t have lunch like a normal person <\/strong>e depois o teu filho abra\u00e7a-te, e a culpa est\u00e1 l\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n

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5. \u201cI feel like a bad mother for not breastfeeding<\/em>\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

As escolhas parentais s\u00e3o um campo minado de potenciais factores de culpa.<\/strong> Mas quando se tem dificuldades em amamentar e n\u00e3o se tem outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o complementar com leite em p\u00f3, \u00e9 uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o horr\u00edvel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este mulher<\/a> foi aconselhada por um pediatra a complementar com leite em p\u00f3 e continua a sentir-se mal.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Like you\u2019ve failed as a mom. Like you\u2019re letting your baby down.<\/strong> Then you watch all those moms on TikTok talking about breastfeeding like it\u2019s duck soup and you feel horrible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Listen to me, breastfeeding or formula, both ways are fine. As long as your baby is healthy and gains weight it\u2019s ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cI feel guilty for getting back to work\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Deciding to pursue your career or being a stay-at-home mom, either way, you\u2019ll feel guilt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Os anos mais produtivos no trabalho coincidem com as que s\u00e3o biologicamente mais eficientes para ter beb\u00e9s. <\/strong>E temos tend\u00eancia para criar grandes expectativas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prias. As mulheres precisam de fazer tudo: ser boas esposas, m\u00e3es e empregadas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u200b\u200bBalancing work and family life is another source of mom guilt. Many working mothers sentem-se culpados por n\u00e3o passarem tempo suficiente com os seus filhos. <\/strong>It\u2019s exhausting and often leaves you feeling like you\u2019re not doing enough in any of your roles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando as pessoas lhe perguntam \u201cWhat\u2019s the hardest part of being a working mom?\u201d <\/em>Nikkole<\/a> respostas:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Por outro lado, as m\u00e3es que ficam em casa sentem-se culpadas por n\u00e3o contribu\u00edrem financeiramente<\/strong> para as suas fam\u00edlias. Al\u00e9m disso, s\u00e3o por vezes vistos pelas outras pessoas como pregui\u00e7osos e pouco ambiciosos, pelo que a sua auto-confian\u00e7a \u00e9 afetada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cI\u2019m such a bad parent\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Quando os filhos se comportam mal ou enfrentam problemas de desenvolvimento, as m\u00e3es culpam-se muitas vezes a si pr\u00f3prias. Pode sentir que lhe faltam compet\u00eancias parentais <\/strong>or that they are somehow responsible for your child’s struggles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jord\u00e2nia<\/a> admite como ela se sente depois de o beb\u00e9 adormecer ap\u00f3s um dia dif\u00edcil:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Al\u00e9m disso, as m\u00e3es sentem-se muitas vezes julgadas pelos outros e as pessoas s\u00e3o r\u00e1pidas a questionar as suas decis\u00f5es. <\/strong>Isso pode levar a sentimentos de ansiedade e auto-d\u00favida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ter consci\u00eancia de que ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 perfeito. All parents make mistakes, even when they\u2019re trying their best.<\/strong> Os pais tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o humanos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para navegar mais facilmente na parentalidade tentar ler livros sobre psicologia infantil<\/strong> and ask for parenting tips from other more experienced parents.Motherhood is a real struggle I know. Remember you\u2019re not alone. Every mom has her low moments and self-doubts. Never forget a import\u00e2ncia dos cuidados pessoais e a necessidade de estar sozinho. <\/strong>It\u2019s your right and responsibility. Your kids deserve a happy mom.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My life tremendously changed when I became a mom. Suddenly I didn’t have time for anything and was on a rollercoaster of emotions round-the-clock. Also, I was facing many challenges.  I DID feel joy for spending time with my baby and watching his milestones but at the same time I was bothered by a pervasive…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":168159,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-168158","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/7-Relatable-Situations-When-Women-Feel-Mom-Guilt-And-How-To-Cope-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168158","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=168158"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168158\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":168167,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168158\/revisions\/168167"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/168159"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=168158"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=168158"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=168158"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}