{"id":168217,"date":"2024-07-12T08:27:49","date_gmt":"2024-07-12T08:27:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=168217"},"modified":"2024-07-12T08:27:50","modified_gmt":"2024-07-12T08:27:50","slug":"estilo-de-vinculacao-ansioso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/estilo-de-vinculacao-ansioso\/","title":{"rendered":"Como reconhecer um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso antes que ele arru\u00edne seus relacionamentos\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Encontrou finalmente a sua pessoa e tudo parece estar bem. A \u00fanica coisa que o impede (e ao seu parceiro) de viver em paz \u00e9 que tiny little voice in your head always saying that something ain\u2019t right. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe they don\u2019t love me at all? Are they planning on leaving me? Why aren\u2019t they answering my texts, are they cheating? If this sounds familiar, pode estar a lidar com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, don\u2019t panic right away. The first step is to recognize you have a problem so you can work on it because pode prejudicar seriamente a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> And if I\u2019ve managed to do it, so can you! Here\u2019s what made me realize I have this toxic attachment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Sempre sens\u00edvel e em alerta m\u00e1ximo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Isto costumava irritar muito o meu parceiro e provavelmente tamb\u00e9m o seu. Mas eu compreendo, porque deve ser cansativo quando algu\u00e9m nos acusa de alguma coisa a toda a hora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be honest and ask yourself if you\u2019re always searching for some problem or feeling that something\u2019s not right. <\/strong>Talvez o seu parceiro esteja calado e, de repente, pense que ele perdeu o interesse e o acha aborrecido.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agir desta forma tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 cansativo para si e s\u00f3 conduz a conflitos desnecess\u00e1rios.<\/strong> Instead of immediately going for the worst possible outcome try to calm yourself and just ask them if everything\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Medo de ser abandonado<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"jovem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

This is the big one. I\u2019m guilty of it as well. I would often be worried about my partner leaving me and needed him to reassure me he wasn\u2019t going anywhere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O medo do abandono est\u00e1 muitas vezes na origem de um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso<\/strong> and it won\u2019t leave you alone until you seriously work on it. Nobody likes being constantly questioned and asked if they really love us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what\u2019s ironic is that acting this way can actually lead you closer to the outcome you\u2019re afraid of.<\/strong> Concentrei-me em construir a minha autoestima e em discutir abertamente os meus medos com o meu parceiro e isso ajudou-me imenso! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Ci\u00fame irracional<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Do you feel like everyone\u2019s after your partner and just looking how to sabotage your relationship? Does every little thing make you jealous? Yeah, these are all hallmarks of this attachment type. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To resolve an issue you first need to realize what\u2019s causing it. <\/strong>No caso do ci\u00fame, a inseguran\u00e7a \u00e9 a origem de tudo<\/strong>, and it often ruins relationships. It causes you to view everyone as a threat and makes your partner think you don\u2019t trust them at all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que me ajudou foi lembrar-me de que o meu parceiro est\u00e1 comigo por uma raz\u00e3o<\/strong> e se ele gostasse mais de outra pessoa, estaria com ela. Tamb\u00e9m trabalhei muito a minha confian\u00e7a e o facto de me sentir melhor comigo pr\u00f3pria. Isso mudou tudo para mim!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Quest\u00f5es de confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"mulher<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

You see how it\u2019s all connected? Every problem drags another one along with it. So, once you work on everything I mentioned by far, you will most probably get rid of trust issues as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu sei as dificuldades com a confian\u00e7a resultam frequentemente de experi\u00eancias negativas passadas <\/strong>so having a partner that\u2019s willing to work through it with you is crucial. It takes time and patience for you to realize every relationship is a new clear beginning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important you<\/strong> comunicar com o seu parceiro se tiver estes problemas<\/strong> para que possam estar atentos e ser mais compreensivos. <\/strong>You don\u2019t need to analyze every situation and overthink all the time. Take a deep breath and always remember that the person you\u2019re with isn\u2019t your ex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Necessidade de valida\u00e7\u00e3o constante<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I still sometimes struggle with this but it\u2019s much better than before! People with this attachment style need frequent validation and reassurance. It doesn\u2019t matter if it\u2019s through conversations or physical affection, you might find yourself always wanting reminders your partner loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embora isso seja bom e importante de vez em quando, pedir isso a cada segundo ao seu parceiro \u00e9 um problema. You can\u2019t allow yourself to be completely dependent on another person<\/strong> para se sentir feliz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What my therapist suggested is journaling and writing down all the things I want to hear from my partner, but in this case, I\u2019m saying it to myself. It\u2019s like a list of little reminders and positive affirmations I get back to whenever I feel insecure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu sei anxious attachment can feel like you\u2019re carrying an enormous burden with you <\/strong>all the time but it doesn\u2019t have to be that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reconhecendo-o atempadamente, compreendendo a sua ess\u00eancia e, finalmente, ultrapassando-o, pode libertar-se e ter uma vida mais feliz. <\/strong>Isto \u00e9 extremamente importante para construir rela\u00e7\u00f5es mais saud\u00e1veis e est\u00e1veis com os outros. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You finally found your person and everything seems fine. The only thing that keeps you (and your partner) from living peacefully is that tiny little voice in your head always saying that something ain\u2019t right.  Maybe they don\u2019t love me at all? Are they planning on leaving me? Why aren\u2019t they answering my texts, are…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":168223,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-168217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/How-To-Recognize-An-Anxious-Attachment-Style-Before-It-Ruins-Your-Relationships--1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168217","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=168217"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168217\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":168224,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/168217\/revisions\/168224"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/168223"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=168217"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=168217"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=168217"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}