So as any couple who doesn\u2019t want to divorce does, we went to a counselor. Oh, he really slapped us in the face with a reality check. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWait, you think what media and those couples on IG show is real?\u201d<\/em>perguntou-nos o conselheiro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWell, they said they never argue, and they also seem pretty much perfect,\u201d<\/em> dissemos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDo you go around telling people about negative things in your marriage? I don\u2019t think so. You can\u2019t trust these unrealistic expectations! No one\u2019s marriage is perfect, and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that,\u201d<\/em> respondeu ele, deixando-nos chocados. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Depois desta verifica\u00e7\u00e3o da realidade, partilhou coisas que todos n\u00f3s podemos fazer para que o nosso casamento prospere <\/strong>while not worrying about being perfect since that\u2019s not possible anyway. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Every person is unique and even two identical twins aren\u2019t 100% the same. So considering the differences we have, it\u2019s impossible to agree on every little thing. <\/strong>Couples in movies made it seem so easy but my partner and I soon realized that our marriage isn\u2019t scripted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our counselor\u2019s advice was like a wake-up call: \u201cIf you want to make it work you need to celebrate your differences, not hide them.\u201d <\/em>Depois, finalmente, apercebemo-nos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Aprender a celebrar as coisas que nos tornam \u00fanicos<\/strong> wasn\u2019t just about accepting the differences we have, it was about changing our whole mindset and learning that they actually make us stronger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you and your spouse have different cultural or religious backgrounds and different personalities, that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not compatible. Basta encontrar uma forma de chegar a um compromisso <\/strong>quando t\u00eam opini\u00f5es opostas, mas tamb\u00e9m se abrem para aprender mais sobre o outro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the beginning of our marriage, we used to have a lot of unnecessary conflicts over stupid misunderstandings. If we only knew how to communicate effectively with one another we would\u2019ve avoided a lot of fights. <\/p>\n\n\n\n O mais importante aqui \u00e9 deixar o ego e o orgulho de lado.<\/strong> S\u00f3 assim \u00e9 poss\u00edvel comunicar corretamente e ver as coisas com clareza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Assim que mud\u00e1mos isso, as nossas discuss\u00f5es acaloradas transformaram-se em discuss\u00f5es calmas em que est\u00e1vamos open to understanding each other\u2019s perspectives.<\/strong> We realized that a perfect marriage doesn\u2019t exist in real life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n No entanto, pode certamente esfor\u00e7ar-se por ter um, tentando resolver os desacordos pacificamente em vez de fazer de uma mosca um elefante.<\/strong> Also, bottling up your emotions won\u2019t lead you anywhere good, so remember to always speak your mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Once you learn how to communicate and actively listen to your spouse, you\u2019ll see there\u2019ll suddenly be more understanding and empathy in your marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You can\u2019t be supportive of one another if you don\u2019t even try to understand their point of view and their feelings. Being supportive isn\u2019t only important when they\u2019re winning in life. It\u2019s actually more important when things go south. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether it\u2019s work issues, family drama, or any life crisis, you need to stand by each other\u2019s side. <\/strong>When there\u2019s a problem you might want to offer them a solution and think you\u2019re done but sometimes your partner just wants you to be present emotionally. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Isto ir\u00e1 certamente refor\u00e7ar os vossos la\u00e7os e tornar o vosso casamento mais resistente. Once you realize that the myth of the perfect marriage is false, you\u2019ll feel liberated. <\/strong>There\u2019s no point in trying to meet an unrealistic standard that no one is close to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sweeping problems under the carpet won\u2019t make others think your marriage is perfect. It will only create more opportunities for issues even your counselor might not be able to resolve. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pare de comparar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o que v\u00ea \u00e0 sua volta e lembre-se que um casamento n\u00e3o \u00e9 para ser perfeito. It\u2019s supposed to be constantly evolving and changing<\/strong> and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I was always excited about marriage, even when I was a kid. And who wouldn\u2019t be excited when all the movies I\u2019ve watched, and books I\u2019ve read presented marriage as this perfect union of two people? But then I got married and things weren\u2019t exactly perfect. 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Tudo se resume a uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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