{"id":16838,"date":"2020-08-23T09:48:19","date_gmt":"2020-08-23T09:48:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16838"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:33:21","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:33:21","slug":"finalmente-aceitei-que-nao-passavas-de-uma-dura-licao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/finalmente-aceitei-que-nao-passavas-de-uma-dura-licao\/","title":{"rendered":"Finalmente aceitei que n\u00e3o eras mais do que uma li\u00e7\u00e3o dura"},"content":{"rendered":"

As li\u00e7\u00f5es mais dif\u00edceis da vida come\u00e7am de forma pac\u00edfica, sem qualquer sinal de perigo. \u00c9 por isso que nunca te reconheci como algu\u00e9m t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\n

Eras a coisa mais pr\u00f3xima da perfei\u00e7\u00e3o quando nos conhecemos. Moveste montanhas e andaste sobre a \u00e1gua s\u00f3 para me fazeres feliz.<\/p>\n

Parecia que era demasiado bom para ser verdade e, afinal, era mesmo.<\/p>\n

That perfect beginning was just a tool you used to keep me under your command. You were nothing more than an emotional manipulator that I couldn\u2019t recognize until it was too late.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I guess that\u2019s why manipula\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/a> is so powerful and destructive, as you don\u2019t know you are a victim.<\/p>\n

You think of it as something normal because you can\u2019t believe that someone would be capable of using your love against you.<\/p>\n

Agora que olho para tr\u00e1s, consigo ver claramente o padr\u00e3o.<\/strong> Agarraste-te a cada palavra que eu disse.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Ouviu-me com aten\u00e7\u00e3o e eu senti-me t\u00e3o sortuda por ter algu\u00e9m que se preocupava tanto que se interessava por todos os aspectos da minha vida. N\u00e3o fazia ideia de que as palavras eram a sua arma de elei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Sabias a maneira certa de distorcer todas as minhas palavras para que te servissem.<\/p>\n

Usaria palavras para provocar esse sentimento de culpa em mim.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every time I wanted some time for myself, when I wanted to hang out with my friends or go somewhere without you, you wouldn\u2019t say a word or you would act like that was OK with you and every time I had to pay my dues when I would come home because all I got from you was ignorance and the silent treatment.<\/p>\n

Algumas semanas depois, quando discut\u00edamos, esfregavas-me tudo na cara, dizendo-me que eras sempre o \u00faltimo e que todos os outros eram mais importantes do que eu.<\/p>\n

Pouco a pouco, afastei-me dos meus amigos sem sequer me aperceber.<\/strong> Querias toda a minha aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t stand that I could have fun without you. However, when it came to you, the rules were different.<\/p>\n

Podia-se sair sempre que se quisesse, onde se quisesse.<\/p>\n

Chegavas tarde a casa a cheirar a \u00e1lcool e, mesmo que eu quisesse dizer alguma coisa, era in\u00fatil, porque me calavas imediatamente.<\/p>\n

Sabia exatamente o que dizer e quando dizer para me fazer sentir como se fosse eu a culpada.<\/strong> N\u00e3o apenas uma vez, mas em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que estivemos.<\/p>\n

Eras t\u00e3o bom a fazer-se de v\u00edtima<\/a> que mesmo quando fazias algo indesculp\u00e1vel eu acabava por sentir pena de ti.<\/p>\n

Senti-me enjaulado. Aprisionaste-me com as tuas manipula\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong> I felt like I couldn\u2019t go anywhere or do anything right without upsetting you.<\/p>\n

You always made me feel like I wasn\u2019t enough. Like I was beneath you. You preyed on my insecurities.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You wrapped insults into jokes. You would always share your \u2018wisdom\u2019 with me and give me advice on everything concerning my life.<\/p>\n

You always acted like you knew better and everything you said or did was \u2018for my own good\u2019.<\/p>\n

Deitavas-me abaixo, fazias-me sentir in\u00fatil e depois voltavas ao teu modo doce, amoroso e protetor, s\u00f3 para eu me sentir aben\u00e7oada por te ter na minha vida.<\/p>\n

But you weren\u2019t a blessing, you were more like a curse. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Aquela da qual eu n\u00e3o via escapat\u00f3ria at\u00e9 que tu sa\u00edste da minha vida e passaste para a tua pr\u00f3xima v\u00edtima.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Foram palavras suas, o que tamb\u00e9m foi culpa minha, por raz\u00f5es que ficaram por explicar.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t say I was relieved when you were no longer a part of my life.<\/strong> Fiquei destro\u00e7ada e devastada. Pensei que tinha perdido o amor da minha vida.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I missed you. For the first month or so I couldn\u2019t stop my tears from falling.<\/p>\n

As l\u00e1grimas foram parando pouco a pouco; n\u00e3o sei exatamente em que momento, mas houve um momento em que as l\u00e1grimas me limparam a vista e pude v\u00ea-lo claramente.<\/p>\n

Pude ver como eras um idiota manipulador.<\/p>\n

Pela primeira vez em muito tempo, senti-me livre, senti-me t\u00e3o bem. Senti que podia respirar de novo.<\/strong> It was easy to do that when you weren\u2019t messing with my mind anymore.<\/p>\n

Soube t\u00e3o bem e deu-me a for\u00e7a extra de que precisava para recuperar tudo o que me roubaste.<\/p>\n

Demorei muito tempo a descobrir isso confian\u00e7a e amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a> que me tiraste. Finalmente percebi que sou suficiente e que n\u00e3o devo permitir que ningu\u00e9m me trate como se eu fosse menos. <\/em><\/p>\n

My mind and my soul are now at peace because I am happy with who I am. I won\u2019t allow anyone to cage me again.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Parece rid\u00edculo diz\u00ea-lo agora, mas na altura pensei que nunca te iria esquecer. Pensei que os danos que causaste eram permanentes e que a dor que sentia era incur\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

O que n\u00e3o consegui ver foi que, apesar de as cicatrizes ainda l\u00e1 estarem, eu era muito mais forte do que pensava.<\/p>\n

I was so mad at you for a long, long time. I couldn\u2019t process that someone who had my heart could hurt me so badly.<\/p>\n

Mas j\u00e1 n\u00e3o estou zangado. Finalmente aceitei que isto era inevit\u00e1vel. Perdoei-te.<\/p>\n

Perdoei-me por ter ficado tanto tempo e, depois de todo este tempo, quase nunca penso em ti. J\u00e1 n\u00e3o tens qualquer poder sobre mim ou sobre a minha vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve finally accepted that things had to go that way so I could learn how to be truly happy. So I could learn what love should never look like.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o foste o amor da minha vida, foste a li\u00e7\u00e3o mais dura da minha vida. A que eu n\u00e3o tinha outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o aprender.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Aceitei<\/p>\n

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The hardest lessons in life begin peacefully, without any sign of danger. That\u2019s why I never recognized you as someone toxic. You were the closest thing to perfection when we first met. You moved mountains and walked on water just to make me happy. It felt like you were too good to be true and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":112409,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16838","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Ive-Finally-Accepted-That-You-Were-Nothing-More-Than-A-Tough-Lesson-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16838","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16838"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16838\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112409"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16838"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16838"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16838"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}