{"id":16900,"date":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16900"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","slug":"uma-carta-aberta-da-rapariga-que-decidiu-seguir-em-frente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-aberta-da-rapariga-que-decidiu-seguir-em-frente\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta aberta da rapariga que decidiu seguir em frente"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out.<\/p>\n

This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story.<\/p>\n

A hist\u00f3ria \u00e9 a seguinte:<\/p>\n

Apaixonei-me por um tipo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t just fall for him, I was made to believe that it was mutual. There were clear and sinais \u00f3bvios de atra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As fa\u00edscas que estavam a acontecer entre n\u00f3s eram imposs\u00edveis de perder ou de fingir. Demos um passo de cada vez e nada parecia ter sido feito \u00e0 pressa.<\/p>\n

Ele fez-me acreditar que \u00edamos a algum lado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never for a moment did I feel like we were stuck. Our random texting was replaced with long, deep conversations and then it all moved to late-night talks about literally everything. From just casual going out to going out together, it was only the two of us running away from everyone just so we\u2019d have time for ourselves.<\/p>\n

Cada passo que d\u00e1vamos, cada momento que pass\u00e1vamos juntos, cada toque que sent\u00edamos, tudo era uma promessa silenciosa de que algo melhor, maior e mais s\u00e9rio estava a vir na nossa dire\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Estava pronto para o passo seguinte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tudo o que pass\u00e1mos fez-me sentir preparada e segura do nosso futuro juntos. Sinais ele quer algo s\u00e9rio<\/a> estavam escritos por todo o lado.<\/p>\n

And honestly, I wanted it too. I thought it was finally time I stopped wandering around and committed myself to a single person. It felt cozy with him, it felt good. I could picture us together in life, holding each other\u2019s hands as we fought all the battles destiny threw at us.<\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

While I couldn\u2019t have been more sure about us, he couldn\u2019t have been more scared.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t know if it was fear of commitment or just his decision to keep his options open.<\/p>\n

After all that we shared together, he told me how he wasn\u2019t really ready for anything serious. He wasn\u2019t looking for anything that he could sink his teeth into.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t interested in anything that would demand a lot of time, effort and communication from him. He didn\u2019t really want to be in a relationship, including with me.<\/p>\n

O que mais me doeu foi o facto de eu querer todas essas coisas dele. Eu queria algo s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n

I was interested in giving him my time and efforts and devoting myself to our relationship. I really wanted us to be in a place to which he said a firm \u2018no\u2019 and that\u2019s what hurt me the most.<\/p>\n

When he said he wasn\u2019t interested in moving on I was caught off guard. I didn\u2019t see that coming. There were no telltale signs, there was nothing to give me a hint of this outcome. Actually, everything I saw was directing me toward something completely opposite.<\/p>\n

\"a<\/p>\n

I guess I was wrong. I was so easily deceived and I let my assumptions get the best of me. The worst part is, I\u2019d still do everything the same if I could turn back time. I can\u2019t help it.<\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t like how things ended and I do wish for something different but I\u2019m going to have to respect his decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esperei tanto e acreditei tanto em n\u00f3s que acabei por receber apenas um ombro frio em vez do amor que pensava merecer. Fiquei t\u00e3o presa aos meus sentimentos que nunca pensei que houvesse a possibilidade de um resultado diferente.<\/p>\n

Enquanto eu dei um salto de f\u00e9 para nos tornarmos oficiais, ele acobardou-se. Enquanto eu estava pronta para zarpar o nosso navio, ele preferiu ficar no porto.<\/p>\n

E o que mais me impressiona \u00e9 a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de que tudo o que t\u00ednhamos vivido antes tinha sido em v\u00e3o. Os momentos que eu via como dos mais felizes que vivi na minha vida revelaram-se mentiras. Ele tinha sido apenas a enganar-me<\/a>.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o fa\u00e7o ideia porque \u00e9 que ele nos fez passar por tudo aquilo s\u00f3 para me tirar isso. S\u00f3 para me desfazer de tudo e dizer-me que nada daquilo era real.<\/p>\n

Be that as it may, I decided I\u2019m going to move on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to force things. I don\u2019t want a relationship I\u2019ll have to beg for. I don\u2019t want a guy if I have to beg him to choose me. And I don\u2019t want to stay undefined either. It\u2019s way more humiliating than I can take. And it’s more painful than moving on.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to love everything we should\u2019ve been, but I\u2019m also accepting that it won\u2019t happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m a grown-up girl and despite the pain I\u2019m feeling, I won\u2019t allow it to get the best of me. Despite my desires, I know that we don\u2019t always get the things in life that we want and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m ready to accept that life won\u2019t give me the person I want the most. I\u2019m accepting that we\u2019re only going to stay an unlived dream, an opportunity that never came to see the light of day.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to keep in my mind all our memories but I\u2019m accepting that there won\u2019t be any new ones.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In other words, I\u2019m choosing to leave us in the past. But I\u2019m choosing to look back at the past and be grateful for all the happy moments we shared instead of looking at it with a bitter taste in my mouth.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the things that could\u2019ve been and should\u2019ve been don\u2019t really happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when you need to choose to search for your own happiness and find love in some other place and accept that sometimes we all sail into our lives having to leave some people behind in the harbor and choose to move on.<\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out. This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story. The…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":105017,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16900","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/An-Open-Letter-From-The-Girl-Who-Decided-To-Move-On.jpeg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16900"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105017"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16900"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16900"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16900"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}