{"id":17102,"date":"2020-08-29T12:53:33","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T12:53:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17102"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:10:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:10:54","slug":"ser-solteiro-e-sempre-melhor-do-que-ser-tratado-como-merda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ser-solteiro-e-sempre-melhor-do-que-ser-tratado-como-merda\/","title":{"rendered":"Ser solteiro \u00e9 sempre melhor do que ser tratado como merda"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nenhuma quantidade de amor que sintas por uma pessoa deve substituir a tua dignidade ou baixar os teus padr\u00f5es. Nenhum medo que possas sentir quando pensas em ser solteiro deve permitir que outra pessoa te trate como merda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, I know what I\u2019m talking about. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pense no seguinte: Que import\u00e2ncia tem o amor se n\u00e3o formos respeitados, valorizados, apreciados ou tratados da forma que merecemos pela pessoa que amamos? <\/span><\/p>\n

Qual \u00e9 a import\u00e2ncia de ter algu\u00e9m ao nosso lado se esse algu\u00e9m <\/span>trata-te como merda<\/span><\/a>? You have no idea until you\u2019ve had the chance to feel it all on your skin. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been there you know, and I can tell you, there is nothing worse than being with someone who makes you feel miserable all the time. <\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada pior, mesmo ficando solteiro para o resto da vida, do que permitir que outro ser humano arraste constantemente o seu esp\u00edrito para baixo. <\/b><\/p>\n

See, I\u2019m the type of person who\u2019s constantly led by her feelings and therefore it may happen at times that my feelings cloud my judgment or that I think up irrational things that I probably wouldn\u2019t if I didn\u2019t overthink like I normally do. And taking all this and mixing it together, I let myself get attached to someone who treated me like shit.<\/span><\/p>\n

While I stayed at home, he went and partied like there was no tomorrow. While I was planning a future for us, he lived like there was no tomorrow. While I couldn\u2019t have been quicker to pick up the phone when he called, it took him hours to reply to a text. <\/span><\/p>\n

While I was giving him all my kindness and putting him on a pedestal, he couldn\u2019t have treated me with less respect or shoved me any lower down his <\/span>priorit\u00e1rio<\/span><\/a> lista. E mesmo assim, mantive-me ao seu lado. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought I should have been happy to have someone next to me, that it was all part of a relationship. I thought that I was one of the lucky ones who had found her soulmate, even though that \u2018soulmate\u2019 was more of a nightmare. Never for a second did I think that being alone would be better than being in a toxic relationship. <\/b><\/p>\n

I should\u2019ve been happy to have someone next to me but the reality couldn\u2019t have been more different to be honest. Because this person I had next to me didn\u2019t make me happy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele s\u00f3 me fez duvidar do meu valor, duvidar se eu era<\/span> suficientemente bom<\/span><\/a> e quase me convenceu de que ele era o melhor que eu podia ter, porque eu era t\u00e3o m\u00e1 que n\u00e3o havia mais ningu\u00e9m que quisesse amar-me, deliberadamente e sozinho.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por medo de ficar sozinha, agarrei-me durante muito tempo a algu\u00e9m que me tratava como se eu fosse a coisa mais irrelevante deste mundo, como se n\u00e3o valesse nada. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por medo de ser julgada ou marcada como n\u00e3o sendo suficientemente boa para ser desejada por outra pessoa, atirei-me para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica e chamei-lhe amor. E fiz tudo isto a mim pr\u00f3pria. <\/span><\/p>\n

I allowed other people’s opinions of  me to be more important to me than how I was treated. I allowed someone to treat me like shit just because I thought that was better than being alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

E desejo que nenhum outro ser humano, nenhuma outra rapariga ou mulher, se humilhe ao mesmo ponto que eu. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, ou\u00e7am-me quando vos digo: Fiquem solteiros! Fiquem solteiros o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel. Passe pela vida sozinho com a cabe\u00e7a erguida. Orgulha-te de ti mesmo com todos os teus defeitos, cicatrizes e imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es. Ama a tua vida e trabalha para criar a vida que queres ter. <\/b><\/p>\n

Permane\u00e7a solteira. Aprenda sobre as coisas que o entusiasmam, aprenda sobre as coisas de que gosta e n\u00e3o gosta, explore o que incendeia a sua alma. Ame-se como \u00e9 e s\u00f3 ent\u00e3o ser\u00e1 capaz de amar e ser amado da forma correcta por outro ser humano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stay single. Fall and then rise and then fall again.  If you fall thousand times, rise for the thousand and first time. Do it alone. Show yourself what you\u2019re made of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Permanecer solteiro<\/span><\/a>. Don\u2019t rush into a relationship until you\u2019ve seen that the person you\u2019re giving your time, your efforts, your love and yourself to is actually worth it all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca ter medo de estar sozinho<\/span>\u2014<\/span>cherish it, live it. You won\u2019t stay single forever. So don\u2019t allow the fear you\u2019re feeling to push you into the arms of someone who\u2019ll emotionally destroy you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because it will take you years to patch your broken pieces together. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there. <\/span><\/p>\n

Wait for someone who deserves you. Wait for someone who will know your worth and who\u2019ll think you\u2019re too good for him. Wait for someone who\u2019ll admire you and help you build yourself up or at least cheer for you while you do it yourself. <\/b><\/p>\n

Wait until you\u2019re the best version of yourself before you welcome someone into your life. Because only then will you know that you\u2019re with him from the right reasons. <\/span><\/p>\n

And only then will everything make sense. Only then you\u2019ll be able to truly see your worth and be able to cut off of your life anyone who dares to treat you like shit. <\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

No amount of love you feel toward a person should ever replace your dignity or lower your standards. No amount of fear that you might feel when you think about being single should let you allow someone else to treat you like shit. Trust me, I know what I\u2019m talking about. Think about this: How…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":17103,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/kevin-laminto-608594-unsplash.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17102","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17102"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17102\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17102"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17102"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17102"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}