{"id":17186,"date":"2020-04-02T08:44:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-02T08:44:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17186"},"modified":"2022-02-27T12:30:26","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T12:30:26","slug":"e-por-isso-que-ela-ja-nao-finge-que-esta-bem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-por-isso-que-ela-ja-nao-finge-que-esta-bem\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 por isso que ela j\u00e1 n\u00e3o finge que est\u00e1 bem"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sabe o que \u00e9 ser constantemente a pessoa que fica com a parte mais curta do pau na vida? <\/span><\/p>\n

Sabes como \u00e9 estar sempre <\/span>aquele que ama mais<\/span><\/a>, to be the one who gives more and to be the one who\u2019s always there for people but never to have anyone to hold you when you\u2019re breaking? Well, this girl does. <\/span><\/p>\n

This girl has been through so much in life. If you lived a heartbreak, she had three of those. If you cried yourself to sleep once, she\u2019s done it a thousand times before. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you felt lonely and how you have no one in your life to guard your back, she\u2019s been feeling like this a lot lately. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yet, she never let anyone know how much she\u2019s hurting. She never did that. <\/span><\/p>\n

When someone remembered to ask how she was doing, despite the pain she felt, she\u2019d always smile and offer the one, the <\/span>apenas<\/span><\/i> acceptable answer\u2014fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

From the time we are little, we\u2019re taught that we need to be polite and how the only appropriate answer to question about how you are is, \u201cI am fine.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Bem, que se lixe a educa\u00e7\u00e3o e a adequa\u00e7\u00e3o e, acima de tudo, que se lixe o bem! Ningu\u00e9m se deve sentir obrigado a mentir sobre os seus sentimentos ou a sentir que tem de os guardar.<\/span><\/p>\n

She\u2019s a sensitive human being. I don\u2019t know what others thought about how much pain she can take, but she was brought to the breaking point. <\/b><\/p>\n

Actions of others broke her sensitive heart and everything everything that was bottled inside\u2014it all started pouring out. The avalanche was started.<\/b><\/p>\n

You know, when you\u2019ve been shaking off the tears in your eyes for a long time, when you\u2019ve been constantly on the edge of falling into the abyss but pulling yourself back, when you were one second away from screaming from the top of your lungs but you felt you had no other choice besides smiling, then it doesn\u2019t take much to launch the avalanche and to show how you feel, how you\u2019ve actually been feeling for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bem nunca \u00e9 uma resposta adequada. Bem tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o \u00e9 o que ela sente. <\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 a isso que ela quer responder quando os outros perguntar-lhe como se sente<\/a>. She is not fine and she\u2019s done pretending that she is. <\/b><\/p>\n

How about we start being honest with each other? How about we start asking people how they\u2019ve been and actually be interested in hearing a genuine answer? <\/span><\/p>\n

Que tal come\u00e7armos a ver aqueles que n\u00e3o est\u00e3o bem e cham\u00e1-los \u00e0 raz\u00e3o? Que tal apanharmos aqueles que come\u00e7am a quebrar?<\/p>\n

Can we start being more human again and start being less robotic, please? That\u2019s exactly what she needs. <\/span><\/p>\n

She is tired of pretending she\u2019s fine. She\u2019s tired of smiling when her heart is breaking.<\/p>\n

She is exhausted from listening to other people\u2019s problems, being there for them and then going back home to a cold bed with having no one who\u2019d want to hear her problems or hold her while she cries. <\/span><\/p>\n

She stopped convincing herself how she\u2019s fine, too. She stopped telling herself how everything is okay and how she is not broken. <\/span><\/p>\n

How her heart is not aching. How she is happy. How it\u2019s all okay and how it will disappear when she wakes up. <\/span><\/p>\n

She stopped pretending she\u2019s whole when she\u2019s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ela j\u00e1 n\u00e3o quer mentir. N\u00e3o quer continuar a aparentar estar bem, mas a desmoronar-se por dentro. Ela quer gritar e quer chorar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ela quer ir-se abaixo. Ela quer deitar tudo c\u00e1 para fora. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know why? Because she\u2019s been holding it in for too long. <\/span><\/p>\n

She didn\u2019t want to burden other people with her troubles. She didn\u2019t want to bore others or make them worry about her. She didn\u2019t want them to be hurting because of her. <\/span><\/p>\n

T<\/span>hat\u2019s how selfless she is. But the time has come for her to take care of herself. <\/span><\/p>\n

The time has come to pause everything else and make sure she is really okay. That\u2019s why she no longer pretends she\u2019s fine. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ela quer ficar bem e quer voltar a ser feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

And admitting to yourself you\u2019re not is the first step towards healing. She is not fine now, but she will be again one day.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Do you know what it\u2019s like to constantly be the one who pulls the shorter end of the stick in life? Do you know how it is to always to be the one who loves more, to be the one who gives more and to be the one who\u2019s always there for people but never…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":17187,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17186","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/kinga-cichewicz-515603-unsplash.jpg",800,571,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17186","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17186"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17186\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17187"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}