{"id":17336,"date":"2020-04-05T12:58:33","date_gmt":"2020-04-05T12:58:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17336"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:19:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:19:01","slug":"5-coisas-a-fazer-quando-um-homem-emocionalmente-indisponivel-esta-sempre-a-voltar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-coisas-a-fazer-quando-um-homem-emocionalmente-indisponivel-esta-sempre-a-voltar\/","title":{"rendered":"5 coisas a fazer quando um homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel continua a voltar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ultrapassar um homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel \u00e9 dif\u00edcil. Especialmente quando esse homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel est\u00e1 sempre a voltar.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real here. When you start a new relationship, you don\u2019t expect it to end.<\/p>\n

You always hope that he is going to be the one for you, that he\u2019s going to show you that love is worth fighting for.<\/p>\n

And then, he shows you that he\u2019s just another fucktard you fell hopelessly in love with.<\/b><\/p>\n

How do you move on from that? You know that he\u2019s not the one, you know that he screwed you over and over again, but hope is what breaks you every single time you think of him.<\/p>\n

Ainda te lembras de como ele era fant\u00e1stico quando se conheceram, ainda sentes o sabor dos seus l\u00e1bios nos teus e ainda esperas que ele volte.<\/p>\n

Mas o que se passa \u00e9 que os homens emocionalmente indispon\u00edveis precisam de tomar essa decis\u00e3o por si pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

No one can force them to change and grow up. No one can make them change except themselves. And that\u2019s the sucky part.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, e agora? Como \u00e9 que se avan\u00e7a corretamente de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que se sentia como se fosse a \u00fanica pessoa que amava, em que se sentia como se estivesse a gritar para uma parede de tijolo e nada acontecia?<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 acredita que a parede tinha mais emo\u00e7\u00f5es do que a sua ex.<\/b><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se pode sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que se deu o melhor de si e s\u00f3 se ganhou dor e frustra\u00e7\u00e3o em troca?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s break it into a few parts. Firstly, we need to know what the hell he is going to do.<\/p>\n

Vai fazer-se de v\u00edtima, provocar-te ci\u00fames, esfregar-te tudo na cara ou vai entregar-te o pacote completo?<\/p>\n

Then, it\u2019s important to know how to react and what to do. Spoiler alert: it involves the no contact rule.<\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e3o 5 coisas que os homens emocionalmente indispon\u00edveis fazem depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o:<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Fazer-se de v\u00edtima<\/h2>\n

\"colegas<\/p>\n

He will go around telling the story of how you\u2019re the bad guy and he did nothing except love you the best way he knew.<\/p>\n

He will tell that story to anyone with a set of ears and tits. Poor lad, he did nothing wrong and you ended it out of the blue. He\u2019s simply doing this so he can keep his reputation.<\/p>\n

In this case, he has no intention of winning you back, instead he\u2019s trying to make you snap and confirm his story.<\/p>\n

The best thing you can do here is ignoring all of it. You and your friends know the truth and that\u2019s all that matters.<\/p>\n

Sabes que fizeste o teu melhor e nada aconteceu. Sabes que tentaste mas ele recusou-se a fazer o mesmo.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t give him the pleasure of winning once more. Ignore his lying ass and let those poor girls find out the truth the hard way. They won\u2019t believe you anyway, even if you told them, he\u2019s that good at his games.<\/p>\n

Apertando seus bot\u00f5es com ci\u00fames<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele vai esfregar a nova namorada na sua cara at\u00e9 come\u00e7ar a deix\u00e1-la louca e, quando lhe enviar uma mensagem a perguntar sobre isso, ele vai calmamente inform\u00e1-la de que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabou.<\/p>\n

You two have nothing to talk about, you moved on and so did he. He will make you wonder what the hell is the truth and what\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you, happy, grown-up people don\u2019t fuck over their exes.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t play games and parade around with their new arm candy. And you know that he\u2019s doing exactly that.<\/p>\n

Give yourself a break and let him play all the games he wants. You\u2019re better off without him anyway. Embrace your single life and this new opportunity life gave you.<\/p>\n

Recupera\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Passar para o pr\u00f3ximo conjunto de \u00f3rg\u00e3os necess\u00e1rios para aumentar o seu pequeno ego n\u00e3o \u00e9 mais do que uma necessidade para ele.<\/p>\n

You see, if he doesn\u2019t find someone soon enough to boost his confidence, he needs to face the hell he put you through and actually think about his actions for a second. And that\u2019s something he\u2019s not familiar with. Thus, rebounding.<\/p>\n

Se a isto juntarmos os jogos de ci\u00fames, temos um vencedor! Um homem emocionalmente imaturo que poderia envergonhar o Barney Stinson.<\/p>\n

Consider yourself lucky here, you dodged a bullet in a way. It doesn\u2019t mean it hurts less but it means that life gave you lemons for you to make a whiskey sour.<\/p>\n

Disclaimer: Alcohol is not the answer but it sure as hell helps to solve some of life\u2019s mysteries. Or create new ones. It\u2019s fun, either way.<\/p>\n

Amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/h2>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Sabes o que ele quer quando te pede para continuarem amigos. Ele quer todos os benef\u00edcios da rela\u00e7\u00e3o, menos o compromisso. Querida, tu mereces mais do que isso.<\/p>\n

You deserve more than being someone\u2019s backup plan and safety net. And you deserve more than to be his late-night booty call.<\/p>\n

Esta depende de ti. Se conseguires ser amiga dele, sem toda esta merda ben\u00e9fica, for\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Nem toda a gente \u00e9 igual e nem toda a gente precisa dos mesmos passos para se curar.<\/p>\n

Maybe you need to be close to him to remind yourself every day that you\u2019re better off without him.<\/p>\n

Ou precisa que ele desapare\u00e7a da face da terra. Mas, fa\u00e7as o que fizeres, lembra-te de te colocares a ti e \u00e0s tuas necessidades em primeiro lugar. Tamb\u00e9m mereces ser feliz.<\/p>\n

Exibicionismo<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He goes off the radar for a while and all of a sudden he\u2019s traveling the world, starting a successful business and he\u2019s Instagramming the shit out of it all.<\/p>\n

I mean, if he wasn\u2019t that much into social media before, think a bit about the reason behind this new-found social media love.<\/p>\n

I think you already know the answer. The reason behind all of this is to show you that he\u2019s so much better than you are.<\/p>\n

Maybe what he did to you and the way he hurt you affected his ego and shook his world for a bit but have no fear\u2014he\u2019s back on his feet again.<\/p>\n

Ele precisa de ser o melhor, precisa de ter as melhores raparigas \u00e0 sua volta, o melhor carro e esfregar tudo isso na sua cara.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s his way of telling you that he has moved on and there\u2019s no chance in hell you will ever get back together.<\/p>\n

A solu\u00e7\u00e3o para isto? A regra do n\u00e3o contacto. Bloqueie-o em todas as redes sociais, apague as fotografias dele do seu telem\u00f3vel e fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para o ignorar.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t forget to remind yourself every single day that you are amazing and worthy and the fiercest human being out there. You swam oceans of your sadness and you conquered hell. He\u2019s nothing compared to that.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se de que um homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel nunca voltar\u00e1 a rastejar para si. <\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 um mestre da manipula\u00e7\u00e3o e vai fazer com que v\u00e1s ter com ele, com todos estes jogos de ci\u00fames, de exibi\u00e7\u00e3o, de rea\u00e7\u00e3o e de amizade.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

The whole idea is that you see only the best of him, which is supposed to make you miss him like crazy. And the worst part? It actually works. When we\u2019re in love, we\u2019re not thinking clearly. And he knows it.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, aqui est\u00e3o 5 coisas a fazer quando o seu homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel est\u00e1 sempre a voltar:<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Ficar fora de alcance<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher <\/p>\n

Tell him that you\u2019re done and show him. Every time he calls you, show him you\u2019re not there for him.<\/p>\n

Every time he wants to make you jealous, show him that you don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n

Pretend that he\u2019s no longer there and when it\u2019s necessary to acknowledge his existence, give him an Academy Award-winning smile. Make sure that you are out of reach of him, from his games and toxic love.<\/p>\n

Lembra-te que nunca foste tu<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A culpa nunca foi tua. A incapacidade dele de se comprometer e de se manter fiel n\u00e3o tem nada a ver consigo.<\/p>\n

Deste o teu melhor, esfor\u00e7aste-te ao m\u00e1ximo para que esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o resultasse.<\/p>\n

And sometimes, it just doesn\u2019t. Because it takes two for love and you were the only one working on it.<\/p>\n

And every time he comes back to you, asking for a second chance or driving you crazy with his mind games, remind yourself that you\u2019re better than that. Remind yourself that his immature ass doesn\u2019t deserve your time.<\/p>\n

Ignorar os aspectos positivos e acreditar nos negativos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been there, where you are now. Always thinking about the good times we had together and all the times he made me feel like I was the most amazing woman out there. Like I was the only one for him and the world was at our feet.<\/p>\n

Mas o facto \u00e9 que nunca foi assim. Eu nunca fui a \u00fanica para ele e nunca houve um futuro para partilharmos.<\/p>\n

And it wasn\u2019t until I realized the true nature of our relationship that I was able to move on.<\/p>\n

If you are sure you don\u2019t want him in your life anymore, focus on the negatives. Focus on all the times you stared at an empty screen, waiting for his message.<\/p>\n

Concentra-te em todas as vezes que ele te enganou, nas vezes em que te prometeu o mundo e n\u00e3o te deu nada. V\u00ea-o como ele \u00e9, n\u00e3o como a pessoa que ele fingia ser.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t put yourself at his beck and call and keep the no contact rule<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re involved with an emotionally unavailable man, the thing is that you control your role.<\/p>\n

At first, you don\u2019t know who he is and you give him everything, because that\u2019s just how you love.<\/p>\n

But later on, once you see him for who he is, it\u2019s incredibly important for you to change that role.<\/p>\n

Cut him off and don\u2019t go running to him the moment he calls you. I get it, you still love him and you want to help him but you need to help yourself first!<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s exactly why keeping the no contact rule is essential for you to move on.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way that you can show him loud and clear that you have moved on and you\u2019re no longer up for his games and manipulations. It\u2019s time for him to look for another victim because you ain\u2019t one.<\/p>\n

Torne-se a mulher que sempre admirou<\/h2>\n

\"mulher
\nAquela mulher espantosa e forte que n\u00e3o deixa que ningu\u00e9m lhe retire o seu valor. A mulher que mant\u00e9m a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o, independentemente do que a vida lhe atira. A mulher que tem todas as cartas nas suas m\u00e3os e sabe como as dar.<\/p>\n

Guess what? You are already that woman. Just because you fell, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re no longer her.<\/p>\n

Just because you believed and hoped, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not badass and fierce.<\/p>\n

And just because you loved the wrong man, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re less of a badass woman.<\/p>\n

You may lose your ground for a second but you know where you stand. Don\u2019t ever let anyone convince you otherwise!<\/p>\n

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