{"id":17493,"date":"2019-04-11T11:38:58","date_gmt":"2019-04-11T11:38:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17493"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:18:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:18:19","slug":"para-a-rapariga-com-problemas-de-confianca-nem-todos-os-homens-sao-iguais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-a-rapariga-com-problemas-de-confianca-nem-todos-os-homens-sao-iguais\/","title":{"rendered":"Para a rapariga com problemas de confian\u00e7a: Nem todos os homens s\u00e3o iguais"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cAll men are the same.\u201d <\/span><\/i>\u00e9 uma frase que uso frequentemente. S\u00e3o todos encantadores e doces no in\u00edcio e t\u00f3xicos e destrutivos no fim. <\/span><\/p>\n

Parece que todos eles estabeleceram esse padr\u00e3o e que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 op\u00e7\u00e3o para que as coisas melhorem. Mas ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 mesmo assim? <\/span><\/p>\n

Posso dizer, <\/span>\u201cAll men are the same.\u201d<\/span><\/i> s\u00f3 porque me deparei com alguns que eram, na minha opini\u00e3o, os piores dos piores? Claro que n\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

But my past experiences and the experiences of people around me led me to form that belief, and it\u2019s really hard to shake that off and risk getting hurt again. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tornei-me cauteloso. Tornei-me demasiado cauteloso. Tornei-me demasiado desconfiado de tudo e de todos<\/b>\u2014thinking that another disaster was just waiting to happen every time I went out with someone new. <\/span><\/p>\n

E eu n\u00e3o tinha motivos para pensar assim, mas o meu passado dominou-me porque n\u00e3o consegui perceber que nem todos os homens s\u00e3o meus ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 lidei com homens que fingiam ser algo que n\u00e3o eram.<\/b> They were wolves in sheep\u2019s clothing until they showed their true faces. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eles mentiram,<\/span> enganado<\/span><\/a>, <\/span>maltratada<\/span><\/a> e <\/span>manipulado<\/span><\/a> me into thinking that it was love when all they cared about was themselves. It\u2019s no wonder I have major trust issues. <\/span><\/p>\n

And while there are men like that and that\u2019s the reality, I can\u2019t generalize and say that all men are the same. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

It\u2019s just isn\u2019t fair to all those good ones out there we often overlook or fail to see because we are stuck with those who are unworthy of our love. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

We are fighting for the ones that don\u2019t deserve us. <\/b>Damos-lhes in\u00fameras oportunidades, na esperan\u00e7a de um melhor resultado da pr\u00f3xima vez. <\/span><\/p>\n

But they fail us every time. I\u2019ve been there and I know we usually give up on them only when it\u2019s already too late, and we are so deeply disappointed and hurt. <\/span><\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea? Porque \u00e9 que as mulheres t\u00eam esta necessidade constante de se apaixonarem por homens que s\u00f3 lhes trar\u00e3o dor?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Por isso, ficamos assustados e magoados com o nosso passado. <\/b>Temos medo de voltar a confiar. N\u00f3s<\/span> levantar a guarda<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estamos determinados a n\u00e3o nos abrirmos novamente ao amor porque acreditamos que isso s\u00f3 nos vai abrir \u00e0 dor. Esses mecanismos de defesa tamb\u00e9m nos est\u00e3o a impedir de encontrar o amor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Porque n\u00e3o h\u00e1 amor sem confian\u00e7a.<\/b> A confian\u00e7a \u00e9 a base de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel. O nosso passado fez com que esses alicerces ficassem abalados. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, we hit the wall when we want to start a new relationship\u2014a relationship with a man who has never harmed us or done something that proves that he is anything less than honest. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o estamos t\u00e3o ansiosos para lhe dar o benef\u00edcio da d\u00favida, para confiar at\u00e9 prova em contr\u00e1rio, porque temos demasiado medo de que o mesmo cen\u00e1rio se repita. E que tenhamos de voltar a colar os nossos peda\u00e7os partidos. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que temos de fazer para evitar aprofundar os nossos problemas de confian\u00e7a \u00e9 deixar de depositar a nossa confian\u00e7a nas m\u00e3os erradas.<\/b> Temos de deixar de o dar \u00e0queles que j\u00e1 provaram vezes sem conta que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o dignos de confian\u00e7a. <\/span><\/p>\n

Temos de deixar de perdoar os imperdo\u00e1veis, porque eles voltam a trair e a explorar a nossa bondade. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se queremos uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa, temos de esperar por algu\u00e9m em quem possamos confiar. Reconhec\u00ea-lo-emos porque ele ser\u00e1 o completo oposto de tudo o que conhecemos at\u00e9 agora. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though waiting is not always the easiest way, it\u2019s most certainly the best. Because there is a man out there who will find you when you find yourself<\/i><\/b>\u2014<\/span>aquele que n\u00e3o pode ser apressado porque vir\u00e1 quando for suposto.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ele encontrar-te-\u00e1 quando aprenderes a<\/b> ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Ele encontrar-te-\u00e1 quando aprenderes que h\u00e1 situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que tens de exigir o respeito que mereces ou afastar-te. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele vai encontrar-te quando finalmente perceberes que \u00e9s mais forte do que os teus medos e que preferes correr o risco de te magoares a perderes o amor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esse homem <\/b>know your every fear and he won’t walk away, he will wrestle them along with you. <\/b>Ele compreender\u00e1 o seu passado e f\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 parecer pequeno. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele NUNCA quebrar\u00e1 a sua confian\u00e7a e a deitar\u00e1 abaixo como o anterior. Ele preferir\u00e1 ajudar-te e ficar ao teu lado enquanto te reparas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Acima de tudo, temos de come\u00e7ar a confiar em n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/b> We have to know that our past isn\u2019t something that defines us. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is just a lesson we have had to learn so we wouldn\u2019t repeat it\u2014because without those lessons we would never learn. We would ignore all the red flags in front of us and the same scenario would play itself out over and over again until the lesson is finally learned. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t be afraid of making a mistake. Be more afraid of not drawing a lesson from a bad experience.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"PARA<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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