{"id":17708,"date":"2018-04-17T09:24:12","date_gmt":"2018-04-17T09:24:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17708"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:11:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:11:16","slug":"se-queres-ajudar-um-amigo-suicida-le-isto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-queres-ajudar-um-amigo-suicida-le-isto\/","title":{"rendered":"Queres ajudar o teu amigo que tem tend\u00eancias suicidas? Leia isto:"},"content":{"rendered":"

Can you please stop sharing the suicide hotline number and acting like you\u2019re somehow going to be a martyr for mental health? Because you are not listening and you will not always be there. I\u2019ll tell you how I know this. First of all, you don\u2019t even know what to listen for. When a person is suicidal, they aren\u2019t shouting it on the fucking mountain top, waiting for someone to hear them. They aren\u2019t sending you private messages asking for help and allowing you the honour of swooping in just in time to save them from themselves. S\u00e3o muitas vezes retra\u00eddas, no seu pr\u00f3prio mundo, sozinhas, e acreditam que ningu\u00e9m se importa, porque ningu\u00e9m reparou sequer que elas est\u00e3o retra\u00eddas e sozinhas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Deixem-me pintar-vos um quadro, porque \u00e9 assim que os suicidas se parecem. Pode come\u00e7ar com uma irritabilidade s\u00fabita e irracional. Pode tornar-se completamente insuport\u00e1vel lidar com uma pessoa, o seu comportamento torna-se cada vez mais inaceit\u00e1vel e, no momento em que se apercebe do problema, ela tamb\u00e9m se apercebe. \u00c9 nesta altura que a pessoa precisa que a ou\u00e7a.<\/strong> But it\u2019s hard to listen to a person who is yelling at you for no reason, so you decide (justifiably so) that you do not need to be subjected to such inexcusable behaviour and you retreat. They start to feel ashamed, embarrassed, and guilty. They feel so guilty, in fact, that they don\u2019t even want to face you, or anyone for that matter, out of a very legitimate fear that they will say or do something to further alienate people, thereby reinforcing their already negative self-perceptions in an extremely harmful cycle. That\u2019s when they start to believe you are better off without them. And they stop reaching out,<\/strong> encontrando conforto na seguran\u00e7a do seu sof\u00e1. Eles retiram-se e n\u00f3s retiramo-nos, aliviados por n\u00e3o termos de lidar com isso.<\/p>\n

A few months go by, and maybe you start to notice that you haven\u2019t seen or heard from your friend\u2026 you wonder for a second what\u2019s going on, hope they are okay and go back to your life. Whatever their deal is, it isn\u2019t seu<\/em> responsabilidade.<\/strong> You \u201clike\u201d their sporadic posts on facebook\u2014which give you little insight into their mental health\u2014keep a safe distance, and call it a day. You scroll through your own feed, and meaning so well I\u2019m sure, you repost and share the suicide hotline number, you say you\u2019re always listening and you hashtag #awareness\u2026 but you didn\u2019t hear your own friend\u2019s cries for help. Because they didn\u2019t sound vulnerable. They sounded angry. It\u2019s much easier to empathize with the vulnerable, isn\u2019t it?<\/strong><\/p>\n

So here you are, willing to listen to every \u201cfriend\u201d you have on facebook\u2026 but in the meantime seu<\/em> friend had a birthday and not only did you not reach out to do something to celebrate, but you didn\u2019t even bother to wish them a happy birthday. I mean, after all, they\u2019ve been pretty shitty to you so nobody would blame you. But they noticed. They noticed that quite a few people didn\u2019t bother. Because here\u2019s the thing\u2014you are not the only person who is keeping their distance. Your angry friend has successfully pushed all of their friends away, not just you. And when their birthday came around and you weren\u2019t the only person who felt they didn\u2019t deserve your time or attention, they felt worthless, and sad, and lonely. And that\u2019s the day your friend became suicidal. But you weren\u2019t listening.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por isso, se quer realmente ajudar o seu amigo, pare de partilhar apenas um n\u00famero e informe-se, para que possa come\u00e7ar a espalhar a verdadeira consci\u00eancia. Saiba o que procurar quando uma pessoa \u00e9 suicida.<\/strong> It\u2019s not always as obvious as the memes would have you believe. Know which services are available locally to help people in crisis, where they are and how to access them. Be willing to look past the anger you don\u2019t understand to see the pain underneath.<\/strong> Look for the things you can\u2019t see right away\u2014sometimes the very act of looking can make all the difference to a person who has given up on themselves.<\/p>\n

Sinais de que uma pessoa pode estar a pensar em suic\u00eddio:<\/strong><\/p>\n