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<\/p>\nDei por mim num ciclo intermin\u00e1vel. Estava a ser magoada dia ap\u00f3s dia e n\u00e3o conseguia fazer nada. Lutei e tentei confront\u00e1-lo, mas a situa\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00f3 piorava.<\/p>\n
Como o meu estado emocional se estava a deteriorar e o meu n\u00edvel de stress era mais elevado, ele estava mais feliz.<\/p>\n
Os narcisistas retiram energia das suas v\u00edtimas quando estas se encontram nos seus estados mais vulner\u00e1veis. A sua mis\u00e9ria e agonia s\u00e3o o que os mant\u00e9m vivos. Eles s\u00e3o como parasitas que se alimentam de outros organismos e n\u00e3o fazem nada em troca.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
That\u2019s what I was\u2014a source of emotional food. My every tear and anxiety attack made him stronger.<\/p>\n
Doubting in myself and thinking I\u2019m not good enough pushed his ego sky high. That was all he needed from me.<\/p>\n
Even when I dumped him, I couldn\u2019t get rid of him. He had some kind of power over me. He knew how to emotionally hook me and bring me back every time I tried to escape.<\/p>\n
He would turn on his irresistible charm, his goodie face and I thought he had changed. I thought he finally understood that he was acting like a piece of shit. But, psychopaths don\u2019t work that way and I didn\u2019t know that, so I foolishly tried to understand him.<\/p>\n
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Essas eram apenas uma das suas numerosas mentiras para conseguir o que queria, para me usar at\u00e9 n\u00e3o restar nada de mim para usar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
N\u00e3o existe uma forma f\u00e1cil de libertar-se de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o narc\u00edsica<\/a>. Como j\u00e1 deve saber, quando quis sair, ou se realmente saiu, a sua toxicodepend\u00eancia entrou em a\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n You knew that you needed a dose of him. You couldn\u2019t just go on and live your life without him in it because he made sure that you missed him. He knew exactly how to manipulate you into staying.<\/p>\n He wasn\u2019t such an idiot all the time. There were times when you loved him so much\u2014when he appeared to be something completely different than what he really was.<\/p>\n Mas, claro, tudo isso era uma mentira. E o problema surgiu porque te agarraste a essa mentira e esperaste que pudesse ser verdade.<\/p>\n Secretamente don\u2019t want to let go<\/a> because you hope it\u2019s not too late to turn things around. You still hope there is something good in him and you can take it out and change him. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Esperas que ele possa ser realmente atencioso e carinhoso. Esperas que ele te fa\u00e7a a prioridade dele, mas a verdade \u00e9 que ele s\u00f3 se preocupa com ele pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n Deep down inside, he is a poor little insecure boy who turned into a monster to hide his vulnerabilities and his shortcomings. And you\u2019re his victim, his tool to feel good about himself.<\/p>\n But listen, when you find yourself struggling with whether you\u2019ve made a good decision for leaving him or when you find yourself under his pressure of wanting you back, just remember that you are not in love with him but in something he finge<\/i> to be, something that doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n I know it\u2019s not easy to just walk away\u2014especially if you\u2019ve lived with him, have children with him or you have to keep seeing him because he is your boss\u2014or pretty much anyone you can\u2019t avoid in your life.<\/p>\n Relacionadas: 18 sinais de alerta de um namorado controlador<\/a><\/p>\n Todos os outros dizem que nenhum contacto<\/a> \u00e9 a forma mais eficaz de se livrar de um narcisista para sempre.<\/p>\n But what happens when you don\u2019t have that option? What happens when there are things that force you to keep seeing him and prolonging your pain? Then you use the Gray Rock method.<\/p>\n O que \u00e9 o m\u00e9todo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n The whole point is to really become a gray rock. A rock that is so boring and unattractive that no one would look at it twice. Using the grey rock method, you\u2019ll become completely unattractive for him to interact with.<\/p>\n O seu ex abusivo perder\u00e1 o interesse em si e acabar\u00e1 por a deixar em paz.<\/p>\n Look at it this way. Imagine him being a small boy and small boys want toys to play with\u2014only a narc doesn\u2019t want toys because his toys are people.<\/p>\n Ele brinca com as pessoas e com os seus sentimentos, e isso tem consequ\u00eancias graves.<\/p>\n In a narc\u2019s eyes, you are the same as the toy. He knows he can do whatever he wants with you because he has the control. He can create scenarios he likes and make you dance to the music he plays. Narcs are in complete control over you.<\/p>\n Porque \u00e9 que este m\u00e9todo funciona?<\/b><\/p>\n Ele quer brincar consigo e, se se tornar aborrecida e pouco atraente, perder\u00e1 o interesse, como os rapazes fazem com os brinquedos.<\/p>\n While the toys are brand new and while they have some attraction, the \u2018boys\u2019 will play with them because they get something back\u2014satisfaction\u2014and as long as they keep getting satisfaction, they will keep playing. But, when the toy becomes old and worn down, they will toss it because they get nothing in return.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why by using this method, you\u2019re turning yourself into a boring, unattractive, plain old toy he doesn\u2019t want to play with anymore. You become this gray rock that shows no feelings whatsoever.<\/p>\n E onde n\u00e3o h\u00e1 emo\u00e7\u00f5es, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 narcisistas para as drenar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n He wants all the attention he can get from you and once you become cold and indifferent and deny him that attention, love and affection, he will stop playing with you because he can\u2019t get anything from the game; he benefits nothing.<\/p>\n Como utilizar o m\u00e9todo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t create chaos or drama.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Narcissists feed off of chaos and drama. They will provoke you just to get that state because when you\u2019re an emotional wreck, they are the happiest they can be. To avoid this, try to talk about superficial things.<\/p>\n Talk about how you\u2019ve washed your car or how you had to run some errands. Talk about everything that sounds boring and unexciting, anything that won\u2019t give them a reason to create drama.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about your personal life. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about anything that has something to do with you or your accomplishments. It will give them material to suck your energy dry and turn your happiness into misery.<\/p>\n Narcisistas<\/a> are known to be jealous of anything they don\u2019t have and you do.<\/p>\n So, don\u2019t give them a chance to be jealous. Stay quiet and if he tries to talk about your life, steer the conversation in another direction. Smoothly avoid answering the question.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t react to his provocations.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Ele tentar\u00e1 provocar qualquer tipo de emo\u00e7\u00e3o em si, normalmente apenas as negativas. Ele provoca-o e tenta irrit\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n But, whatever he does, you have to deny him seeing any reaction from you. It\u2019s hard to stay indifferent\u2014especially when something makes you sad or hurt\u2014but keep in mind that\u2019s exactly what he wants. He wants to see emotion, so he can use it.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ask him questions.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n T\u00eam esta necessidade louca de aten\u00e7\u00e3o constante; s\u00e3o verdadeiros que procuram aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a> Quando lhes damos o que querem, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 forma de os parar.<\/p>\n So, when you meet with your narcissist, don\u2019t ever ask him anything about his life. If you do, it will give him a chance to rub his accomplishments (real or fake) right into your face.<\/p>\n He will use the situation and turn it around to make you feel worthless because he is doing so great and in his eyes, you\u2019re a complete failure.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ever mention the past.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n They want you to relive those bad moments again (and again) because each time, it will provoke sadness and fear, and you\u2019re risking opening old wounds which have barely healed.<\/p>\n But, if this happens and it probably will, the best thing you can do it to accept responsibility for the end of your relationship (even if you don\u2019t since it wasn\u2019t your fault).<\/p>\n Se tentar negar que a culpa \u00e9 sua porque a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabou, ele atac\u00e1-la-\u00e1 e gritar\u00e1 consigo, o que provocar\u00e1 novamente sentimentos negativos em si, dos quais ele se alimentar\u00e1.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not easy to gray rock someone because they bring you to the point where you want to scream at them and practically strangle them. They provoke you and bring out the worst in you.<\/p>\n Mas nestas situa\u00e7\u00f5es, se quisermos uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo, temos de fingir que nada nos afecta.<\/p>\n Tem de ser t\u00e3o desinteressante como uma rocha cinzenta e, com sorte, ele deix\u00e1-la-\u00e1 novamente e encontrar\u00e1 outra v\u00edtima<\/a> para utilizar.<\/p>\n A desvantagem do m\u00e9todo da pedra cinzenta<\/b><\/p>\n![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/couple-hugging-in-corn-field.jpg\")
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