{"id":18015,"date":"2020-08-24T13:17:13","date_gmt":"2020-08-24T13:17:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18015"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:06:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:06:05","slug":"uma-carta-para-a-rapariga-que-acaba-sempre-por-ser-a-segunda-escolha","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-para-a-rapariga-que-acaba-sempre-por-ser-a-segunda-escolha\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para a rapariga que acaba sempre por ser a segunda escolha"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Ol\u00e1, linda,<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I know that you don\u2019t like being here right now but your good heart brought you here. You were always the one who couldn\u2019t say \u2018no\u2019 to people and if you did tell them that, you didn\u2019t feel good. You would feel guilty for not helping them.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mas deixem-me perguntar-vos uma coisa: alguma vez vos ajudaram? <\/i><\/b> Alguma vez estiveram l\u00e1 para si enquanto <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybuddha.com\/blog\/what-to-do-when-it-seems-like-your-world-is-falling-apart\/\" rel=\"noopener\"> o seu mundo estava a desmoronar-se <\/a> ?<\/p>\n<p>I guess they haven\u2019t because every memory of that brings tears to your eyes. And you know what the worst part is?<\/p>\n<p><b><i>\u00c9 um ser humano fant\u00e1stico, com uma personalidade linda e um cora\u00e7\u00e3o limpo e puro, disposto a ajudar toda a gente.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>And you know that you deserve to be someone\u2019s priority but the thing is that you never are. You don\u2019t know what to do or how to act anymore to get the respect you crave so much.<\/p>\n<p>Porque, seja qual for a tua tentativa, acabas sempre por ser uma segunda escolha, uma rapariga a quem os outros s\u00f3 ligam quando lhes conv\u00e9m.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-106472\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone.jpg\" alt=\"a morena infeliz senta-se no sof\u00e1 e fala ao telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/the-unhappy-brunette-sits-on-the-couch-and-talks-on-her-cell-phone-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>And the bad thing about that is that even he didn\u2019t treat you differently.<\/i><\/b> He was a man who kept you close just because it was convenient for him. Just think about it\u2014did he call you yours that night when he slept with you?<\/p>\n<p>Did he show you to the world because you wanted that? I know that he didn\u2019t and I also know that it <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/acabara-por-se-cansar-de-falar-de-um-coracao-partido\/\"> partiu o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/a><\/p>\n<p>Sei que fingias estar bem, mas o teu mundo estava a desmoronar-se. Estavas a morrer por dentro, a pensar porque \u00e9 que coisas destas tinham sempre de te acontecer.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>You didn\u2019t know what you did to deserve treatment like that.<\/i><\/b> Bem, eu digo-te. Foste demasiado boa para ele e ele foi apenas um idiota que se aproveitou disso.<\/p>\n<p>Ele nunca te chamou namorada, mas sempre quis os benef\u00edcios de namorado. Telefonava-te sempre que o resto dos amigos tinha coisas melhores para fazer do que sair com ele.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Sempre foste o seu <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/rapariga-da-carta-apenas-opcao\/\"><b><i>segunda op\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/b><\/a><b><i>Uma rapariga que estaria sempre presente para o fazer sentir-se bem, para lhe aumentar o ego e para lhe dizer que ele era perfeito.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>But you never got words like that from him. He always said that you were lucky for him being with you and that you should be thankful for that. And you agreed, thinking that you couldn\u2019t find a better man.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-106473\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man.jpg\" alt=\"uma loira bonita e triste olha para o homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-beautiful-sad-blonde-looks-at-the-man-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Todas as tuas esperan\u00e7as se afundaram com as suas palavras frias que te cortaram como a espada mais afiada.<\/i><\/b> Ele estava a fazer-lhe mal, mas voc\u00ea estava calmo e paciente.<\/p>\n<p>Pensou que talvez, pouco a pouco, ele mudasse. Mas ele nunca mudou. Ele conhecia uma boa maneira de enganar uma rapariga que estava loucamente apaixonada por ele e aproveitou essa oportunidade. E tu deixaste que ele se apoderasse de ti por causa do teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o mole e puro.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Eras demasiado boa para ele, mas m\u00e1 para ti pr\u00f3pria.<\/i><\/b> Acreditavas em tudo o que ele dizia, acreditavas em todas as mentiras que sa\u00edam da sua boca.<\/p>\n<p>E esse foi o teu primeiro erro. No dia em que o deixaste manipular-te, deste-lhe o controlo da tua vida. \u00c9 pena que ele tenha sido um homem mau que se aproveitou disso e que a levou na dire\u00e7\u00e3o errada.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de trazer amor, felicidade e harmonia \u00e0 sua vida, ele trouxe l\u00e1grimas, agonia e sofrimento.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>And he didn\u2019t feel any remorse for doing that to you.<\/i><\/b> Ele fez-te todas aquelas coisas desagrad\u00e1veis porque sabia que tu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-tipos-de-sexo-que-os-gajos-vao-fazer-com-as-gajas-que-nao-querem-saber\/\"> didn\u2019t give a damn <\/a> sobre a sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>Ele sabia que tinhas uma baixa autoestima e que obedecerias a tudo o que ele dissesse. E foi isso que fizeste durante todo este tempo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-106474\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/outside-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"l\u00e1 fora um homem abra\u00e7a uma mulher triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"532\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/outside-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/outside-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/outside-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-768x511.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/outside-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You put up with him and his actions and you were convincing yourself that it was all love and that other couples had the same problems as you. But you know what? Love isn\u2019t supposed to hurt but it\u2019s meant to heal.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>And in your case it brought you to the edge, to the place where you didn\u2019t have a chance to save yourself<\/i><\/b><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>And you were pushed into a chasm you couldn\u2019t escape from. And he didn\u2019t even give you his hand to help you out but he was smiling seeing you down, crawling and looking for an escape.<\/p>\n<p>Era um sacana doente que s\u00f3 queria ver-vos em baixo, ver-vos a sofrer, s\u00f3 para se sentir melhor.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>You expected that he would feel sorry for you but he didn\u2019t.<\/i><\/b> Ele nunca o fez. Por isso, agora que atingiu o fundo do po\u00e7o com ele, \u00e9 altura de seguir em frente.<\/p>\n<p>It is finally time to put yourself first because you are a beautiful human being with a kick-ass personality but you just need to say \u2018no\u2019 to some people. Don\u2019t ever say \u2018yes\u2019 to someone if that will mean saying \u2018no\u2019 to yourself.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-obvious-signs-disrespecting\/\"><b><i>Respeitar-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/i><\/b><\/a><b><i> para que outros vos sigam.<\/i><\/b> Tens de mostrar ao mundo que te preocupas com a tua vida e que defendes o que queres.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 preciso fazer o mesmo com as rela\u00e7\u00f5es amorosas. Um homem que entra na sua vida precisa de provar que \u00e9 digno de si e, depois, os dois podem desenvolver algo s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-106475\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods.jpg\" alt=\"um casal sorridente e amoroso a passear pelo bosque\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/a-smiling-loving-couple-walking-through-the-woods-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Please, don\u2019t ever give your heart to someone just to avoid being alone. <\/i><\/b> Let love come to you at its own pace and don\u2019t push or hurry anything.<\/p>\n<p>Aproveita o momento, aprecia as pequenas coisas e nunca te deixes entristecer por causa de um idiota que s\u00f3 quer aproveitar-se de ti.<\/p>\n<p>Porque mereces mais do que isso. Merece ser feliz, ser amada e cuidada. Merece um homem que lhe ponha um sorriso no rosto, dizendo-lhe que tem muita sorte por a ter na sua vida.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>You see, you don\u2019t deserve someone who comes back. You deserve someone who never walks away.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Mereces um homem que te d\u00ea todo o seu amor e que seja feliz porque o est\u00e1 a dar \u00e0 melhor mulher que alguma vez conheceu.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Querida, tu mereces algu\u00e9m que fa\u00e7a de ti nada menos do que uma PRIORIDADE!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-106476 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Uma carta para a rapariga que acaba sempre por ser a segunda escolha\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/A-Letter-To-The-Girl-Who-Always-Ends-Up-As-A-Second-Choice-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey gorgeous, I know that you don\u2019t like being here right now but your good heart brought you here. You were always the one who couldn\u2019t say \u2018no\u2019 to people and if you did tell them that, you didn\u2019t feel good. You would feel guilty for not helping them. But let me ask you something:&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18015","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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