{"id":18091,"date":"2020-04-26T15:51:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-26T15:51:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18091"},"modified":"2021-08-11T21:02:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T21:02:58","slug":"finalmente-percebi-que-nunca-seriamos-nada-mais-do-que-uma-coisa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/finalmente-percebi-que-nunca-seriamos-nada-mais-do-que-uma-coisa\/","title":{"rendered":"Finalmente percebi que nunca ser\u00edamos nada mais do que \"uma coisa"},"content":{"rendered":"

It took me a while to take off my rose-colored glasses and look at him without any prejudice. At first, I let other things cloud my judgment and I was led to believe that we were heading toward something that could possibly be the greatest thing in our lives. I thought it was love and that I\u2019d got my person for life. But I couldn\u2019t have been more wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was never gonna be my person for life. We were never gonna be anything more than just \u2018<\/b>uma coisa<\/i><\/b>\u2019. <\/b><\/p>\n

Quando as pessoas me perguntavam sobre ele, eu n\u00e3o tinha outra resposta sen\u00e3o dizer-lhes que \u00e9ramos <\/span>uma coisa<\/span><\/i>. But what does that even mean? What the hell does, \u201c<\/span>Yeah, we\u2019re a thing<\/span><\/i>,\u201d mean? It means that we\u2019re in each other lives and that we\u2019re more than friends, but that we\u2019re still undefined. It\u2019s like you\u2019re trapped in limbo, you\u2019re somewhere between life and death, and there are no clear signs you\u2019ll get anywhere away from that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Demorei algum tempo a perceber que ele n\u00e3o estava a comprometer-se comigo, nem nessa altura, nem nunca. <\/b><\/p>\n

Eu queria tanto o compromisso que n\u00e3o vi os sinais que ele estava a dar <\/span>n\u00e3o est\u00e1 pronto para se comprometer<\/span><\/a>. Honestly, I\u2019m no longer sure whether the problem was in his inability to commit or if it was more his unwillingness. Either way, I figured I was waiting to get something from him he never intended to give me. He was never ready to give himself completely to our \u2018relationship\u2019, he was never ready to cross others off his list, he was never willing to make it just about the two of us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Os seus esfor\u00e7os, o seu tempo, o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o nunca me pertenceram, nunca fui a sua prioridade. <\/b><\/p>\n

Demorei algum tempo a aperceber-me da minha estupidez.<\/b><\/p>\n

Eu acreditava que era o seu passado que o tinha feito <\/span>emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel<\/span><\/a>. Estava convencida de que, devido ao seu passado, tinha de me esfor\u00e7ar um pouco mais para o conquistar. Mas quanto mais me esfor\u00e7ava, mais me apercebia que estava a tentar em v\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 outras pessoas que tiveram uma inf\u00e2ncia dif\u00edcil, pais divorciados, um parceiro que as traiu ou problemas de confian\u00e7a. Essas pessoas merecem que algu\u00e9m se esforce por elas tanto quanto eu me esforcei por ele, porque est\u00e3o dispostas a resolver os seus problemas. E quanto a ele? Bem, ele era todo a favor das desculpas.<\/span><\/p>\n

See, if other people had someone to try for them as much as I was trying for him, they\u2019d take it eagerly. But he just took it for granted and <\/b>jogou comigo<\/b><\/a>. Ele fez-me pensar que est\u00e1vamos a caminho de algo maior, quando na realidade \u00e9ramos apenas uma coisa indefinida e nada mais do que isso. Nunca ir\u00edamos ser nada mais do que isso. <\/b><\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m finally ready to see the things the way they truly are. He just doesn\u2019t want me. It\u2019s not me. I\u2019m not the one. And I\u2019m not sure any other will ever be seen as worthy of him since I, who gave him all of me and went the extra mile more than any sane person would, was not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be that as it may, he\u2019s no longer my problem. Nothing that happens to him is my problem anymore. Because I gave my best and it didn’t work out. And regardless of how much it broke me, with everything I went through, I still, from the bottom of my heart, wish him all the best and the best of luck in his life. <\/span><\/p>\n

It became clear to me that I was just wasting my time, my efforts, my love and everything else I could give to a man who couldn\u2019t be moved. But I learned a lesson. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know how they say when you give all your love and your trust to someone, you either get a person for life or a lesson in life? Well, he was my life\u2019s lesson. You can\u2019t fix a man who doesn\u2019t think there is something wrong with him. It took me a while to get that.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It took me a while to take off my rose-colored glasses and look at him without any prejudice. At first, I let other things cloud my judgment and I was led to believe that we were heading toward something that could possibly be the greatest thing in our lives. I thought it was love and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":18094,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18091","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/huyen-nguyen-561863-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18091","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18091"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18091\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18094"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18091"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18091"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18091"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}