There will be days when you will feel exhausted, powerless, and overwhelmed with pain and sadness after a breakup. Unfortunately, there is no skipping through that phase. However, things do get easier, especially if you don’t make your healing process more complicated than it already is.<\/p>\n
There are 5 stages everyone goes through after a breakup: hoping things will change, acknowledging that there\u2019s no going back, time to be mad, making peace with the situation and moving on. And when we finally reach the last phase, seguir em frente<\/a>, we realize that’s where things get harder and the real work begins.<\/p>\n Sometimes we sabotage our own process of moving on by doing things we know we shouldn’t. That’s why we have to change and let go of certain things in order to ease that process, and seriously move on once and for all.<\/p>\n These things seem simple but when you actually do them, you see just how difficult they are. That\u2019s why you have to be decisive and determined to leave your ex and all the pain in the past and start concentrating on yourself and your future.<\/p>\n The place you live in never seemed so small. Everywhere you go and everywhere you look there is something that keeps reminding you of him. It\u2019s like a trip down memory lane and it\u2019s not doing you any good.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why you need a change of scenery. Find a different route to work. Go to relax in some park you never went with him. Find a new movie theater. Find a fresh place to take your morning coffee. This is not a way to escape your past, it\u2019s a way to avoid it being in your face all the time. Your brain does enough coming back on its own\u2014you don\u2019t need additional reminders of your ex.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 outras pessoas que o seu ex trouxe consigo para a sua vida e que passaram a fazer parte da sua. S\u00e3o os amigos dele ou mesmo a fam\u00edlia dele, de quem passou a gostar muito. Mas a \u00eanfase est\u00e1 nas pessoas dele. Na maior parte dos casos, eles apoiam-no e contam-lhe a sua vers\u00e3o da hist\u00f3ria. Intencionalmente ou n\u00e3o, eles intrometer-se-\u00e3o, dar\u00e3o conselhos ou tentar\u00e3o juntar-vos de novo.<\/p>\n If you are serious about moving on, that\u2019s not something you need. What you need is distance from that relationship and everything that is connected to it, even people. It\u2019s harsh. It\u2019s not easy to cut those connections, but sometimes it\u2019s necessary. You have to think about you and your feelings, and whether the presence of those people is getting in your way of letting go of the past.<\/p>\n \u00c9 um pouco redundante dizer isto, mas vale a pena mencionar. Se o seu quarto, apartamento ou casa est\u00e1 cheio de coisas que lhe fazem lembrar o seu ex, deve deit\u00e1-las fora ou d\u00e1-las.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t need small gifts he gave you reminding you of happy moments that are in the past. You don\u2019t need to use his old T-shirt as a PJ because you have other things to wear. You don\u2019t need photos of you and your ex happy and smiling around you because they will only bring out the tears.<\/p>\n Por mais pequenos que sejam, os objectos t\u00eam uma carga emocional. Carregam significados e mem\u00f3rias, pelo que nos mant\u00eam num estado de nostalgia e reminisc\u00eancia, em vez de nos permitirem seguir em frente.<\/p>\n1. Mudar o cen\u00e1rio<\/span><\/h2>\n
2. Dizer adeus a certas pessoas<\/span><\/h2>\n
3. Elimina\u00e7\u00e3o de objectos com carga emocional<\/span><\/h2>\n
4. Mudar a sua rotina<\/span><\/h2>\n