Nem sequer se apercebe da sorte que tem por poder sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o falida. A tua felicidade est\u00e1 toda encoberta pela dor e pela tristeza que sentes agora. Mas isso vai passar, sabes?<\/p>\n
It\u2019s just the feeling of loneliness that is overwhelming you, the change that happened. You were in a relationship for some time and you didn\u2019t even realize that you were unhappy.<\/p>\n
Pensavas que as coisas iam mudar, mas a sua indiferen\u00e7a e o seu ego\u00edsmo apenas te empurravam para mais fundo na tristeza que ocupava o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a tua mente.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Estes homens t\u00f3xicos atraem-nos para a sua armadilha e prendem-nos, alimentando-se da nossa energia, at\u00e9 que um dia j\u00e1 n\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais energia em n\u00f3s. At\u00e9 que um dia esteja completamente seca, at\u00e9 que se renda e desista dele, da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n You were abused emotionally, you were yelled at, and you were told that you were incompetent and stupid. God knows how many disgusting things you heard but chose to forget. Although we both know that you will never erase those moments from your mind, you\u2019ll try to push them deep to the back of your mind.<\/p>\n Um dia, afastamo-nos. Afasta-se dos seus maus tratos, gritos e intimida\u00e7\u00f5es e sente-se uma merda. Pensava que se ia libertar e sentir-se novamente positiva e feliz. Mas as coisas s\u00f3 parecem piorar e, por isso, come\u00e7a a sentir a sua falta<\/a> e rapidamente volta para ele, esperando que desta vez as coisas sejam diferentes.<\/p>\n You\u2019re hoping that he\u2019ll turn things around because he has realized how miserable he is without you. And indeed, you really see that new side of him in the first few days. He\u2019s attentive, loving and caring up until the first disagreement, up until the first time you stand up for yourself.<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t like that. He doesn\u2019t want a strong and independent woman by his side. He wants a poor and rapariga fraca<\/a> who will do exactly as she is told, a girl who doesn\u2019t fight back and that\u2019s not you.<\/p>\n Then suddenly, you\u2019ve been shifted to your abusive reality. Something woke you up from a beautiful dreamland you were in and showed you, once again, who he really is.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n I know what you\u2019re going through. I know that once again you\u2019ve left and you feel tempted to go back because you\u2019re scared to be alone, or you think he\u2019s going to change, or you think you still love him so you want to give him another shot.<\/p>\n Stop! Nothing is going to change. He\u2019s going to stay the same abusive and self-centered idiota<\/a> and you\u2019re still going to be his victim to lash out on whenever he feels like it.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll be lost when you break it off for good. You\u2019re going to feel unwanted and you\u2019re going to be miserable for some time.<\/p>\n But you have to let those tears out otherwise you\u2019ll choke on them. You have to scream to release all your anger and not to bottle it up inside you because it will destroy you, it will beat you to an emotional death.<\/p>\n Mas assim que tirares tudo o que \u00e9 mau do teu sistema, assim que aceitares o teu novo estatuto e o teu novo papel na vida, as coisas v\u00e3o come\u00e7ar a mudar \u00e0 velocidade da luz. Sabes que depois de chover, o sol nasce sempre.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso bater no fundo do po\u00e7o para nos levantarmos e voltarmos a erguer-nos.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not going to see yourself in the same way anymore. You\u2019ve learned your lesson and it has changed you. Maybe not even changed you as much as it showed you which path you must never take anymore, what lies and manipulations you should never believe in again.<\/p>\n You\u2019re going to learn to respect yourself because you\u2019ve been treated like shit for such a long time. You\u2019ll see what you\u2019ve been missing out on, how much love you deserved and never got.<\/p>\n You\u2019re going to stop underestimating yourself and embrace yourself because you are the best version of yourself, you just bumped into the wrong man for you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not going to happen so soon. You\u2019ll resent yourself and hate yourself for being so stupid to trust him.<\/p>\n1. You\u2019ll learn to love yourself<\/span><\/h2>\n
2. You\u2019ll gradually forgive yourself<\/span><\/h2>\n