{"id":18258,"date":"2020-05-06T11:16:24","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T11:16:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18258"},"modified":"2022-10-17T15:54:37","modified_gmt":"2022-10-17T15:54:37","slug":"deixar-de-ser-complacente-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixar-de-ser-complacente-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneiras comprovadas de deixar de ser complacente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

As pessoas dizem muitas vezes que o amor se desvanece com o tempo. Mas isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 verdade. O amor n\u00e3o se desvanece por causa do tempo; o amor desvanece-se por causa da complac\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

It fades because we settle for good without trying harder to reach greatness. Love fades because it\u2019s considerado um dado adquirido.<\/a><\/p>\n

Ao serem demasiado complacentes numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, as pessoas est\u00e3o a mat\u00e1-la lenta e involuntariamente.<\/p>\n

They wake up one day and everything they have built, everything they have worked for, is gone and they don\u2019t know why. The simple truth is it\u2019s gone because they stopped building.<\/p>\n

Deixaram de se esfor\u00e7ar. Deixaram de partilhar coisas com a pessoa amada. Deixaram de mostrar que ainda se preocupam.<\/p>\n

A complac\u00eancia afecta normalmente as rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras e os casamentos. Por vezes, as pessoas est\u00e3o bem com a forma como as coisas est\u00e3o e n\u00e3o t\u00eam vontade de melhorar nada.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, ficam presos numa rotina e aceitam a p\u00e9ssima situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que se encontram. Em ambas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es, n\u00e3o t\u00eam necessidade de se esfor\u00e7arem um pouco mais, de se esfor\u00e7arem, de tentarem algo novo e de estarem realmente presentes na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not just the lack of effort, even though that\u2019s the main issue. It\u2019s also failing to notice your partner and everything about him. It\u2019s a lack of affection, attention and communication.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an emotional distance that\u2019s getting bigger by the minute, tearing your heart apart, and causar a rutura da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The worst part is, more often than not, their behavior is unconscious. People don\u2019t see that their relationship is suffering and what they are inflicting on their partner.<\/p>\n

Para evitar que isso aconte\u00e7a, primeiro temos de saber como reconhecer a complac\u00eancia numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o:<\/p>\n

Confundir conforto com complac\u00eancia<\/h2>\n

\"homemThere is a thin line between complacency and comfort and it\u2019s easy to mix up the two.<\/p>\n

Comfort is a positive feeling. It usually means you feel relaxed with your partner and you can be yourself around him. You don\u2019t have the need to dress up because you know he will think you are also adorable in your PJs with messy hair.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t have to shave all the time because you love his three-day beard. And that\u2019s nice and loving.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you are being too complacent, you won\u2019t notice his beard and he won\u2019t notice how adorable you are when you are being yourself at home.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 apenas um exemplo simples e h\u00e1 muitos outros semelhantes. O que se passa aqui \u00e9 que se tornou demasiado confort\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Deixaram de se ver uns aos outros. Deixaram de reparar no pequenas coisas<\/a> que importa.<\/p>\n

Consequentemente, quando os dois deixam de prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o um ao outro, deixam tamb\u00e9m de se esfor\u00e7ar para se seduzirem.<\/p>\n

Pensa que a outra pessoa j\u00e1 \u00e9 sua e que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de a tentar conquistar, pois o seu trabalho j\u00e1 est\u00e1 feito.<\/p>\n

Falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulherA healthy relationship can never exist without healthy communication. You need to be able to trust your partner and to feel like he\u2019s the person you can tell your deepest secrets to, without the fear of being judged, if you plan for things between the two of you to work out.<\/p>\n

No entanto, j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 esse o caso na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Algures ao longo do caminho, toda a vossa comunica\u00e7\u00e3o desapareceu e, com o tempo, os dois come\u00e7aram a agir como completos estranhos.<\/p>\n

O seu parceiro j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 o seu confidente. Independentemente do que acontecesse, bom ou mau, costumava ir ter com ele primeiro para lhe dar a not\u00edcia, mas, infelizmente, isso j\u00e1 n\u00e3o acontece.<\/p>\n

A sua opini\u00e3o significava muito para si e era a \u00fanica pessoa cujos conselhos tinha sempre em considera\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

This was the person you were never ashamed in front of and the person whose opinion you valued above everyone else\u2019s.<\/p>\n

You would talk for hours about everything and now you can\u2019t even remember when you guys had a decent conversation.<\/p>\n

Sim, ainda podem falar sobre coisas do dia a dia e ter alguma conversa fiada, mas a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o significativa est\u00e1 fora de quest\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Instead of actually living together as lovers, you started cohabitating more as friends and it\u2019s taking its toll on the entire relationship.<\/p>\n

The two of you are no longer lovers or even best friends\u2014you\u2019ve become nothing more than roommates who happen to share a living space. You\u2019ve started seeing them almost as a part of the furniture instead of a part of your life.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, h\u00e1 muitos casais que passam de uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o zero para uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o apenas quando est\u00e3o argumenta\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

E embora as brigas possam ser ben\u00e9ficas e produtivas para a rela\u00e7\u00e3o e ajudar as coisas a mudar e a melhorar, quando a complac\u00eancia se instala, as brigas tornam-se uma s\u00e9rie de quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o abordadas e n\u00e3o resolvidas que s\u00f3 abrem espa\u00e7o para o ressentimento.<\/p>\n

The problem is that you don\u2019t resolve your issues one at a time when they\u2019re actually happening.<\/p>\n

Instead, you pile up the things that bother you and you brush them under the carpet because you don\u2019t see a way of talking them through with your significant other.<\/p>\n

Later on, when a huge fight breaks out, everything you\u2019ve been holding back explodes and you guys end up without ever really resolving anything and without coming to a conclusion.<\/p>\n

Esfor\u00e7os reduzidos<\/h2>\n

\"homemThis is definitely one of the biggest reasons complacency kills marriages and relationships. It\u2019s when people just stop trying.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o t\u00e3o envolvidos na rela\u00e7\u00e3o que deixaram de se esfor\u00e7ar. Deixam as coisas como est\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o sentem qualquer vontade de trabalhar nas coisas para fazer alguns ajustes para as melhorar.<\/p>\n

Mesmo quando as coisas est\u00e3o a correr muito mal e quando chega a altura de dar um passo em frente e resolver a rela\u00e7\u00e3o, permanecem passivos.<\/p>\n

Isto pode acontecer porque, com o passar do tempo, ficamos simplesmente demasiado cansados.<\/p>\n

Both of you have fought for this relationship to work out up to now and when you\u2019ve finally succeeded in meeting halfway, you just lost all of your energy.<\/p>\n

Or maybe you and your partner started taking each other for granted. You\u2019ve become so certain of one another\u2019s love that you don\u2019t see a point in trying to deserve it.<\/p>\n

Ambos pensam que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que possam fazer para que a outra pessoa deixe de vos amar e que ela estar\u00e1 sempre por perto, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. Por isso, porqu\u00ea dar-se ao trabalho.<\/p>\n

Forgetting to have some \u2018alone time\u2019<\/h2>\n

\"mulherAs pessoas preocupam-se com os filhos, os problemas familiares, o trabalho e todas as outras quest\u00f5es quotidianas. Esquecem-se de como \u00e9 importante passar algum tempo juntos como casal.<\/p>\n

Lembrem-se que, para al\u00e9m de serem pessoas orientadas para a carreira ou co-pais<\/a>No entanto, os dois continuam a ser amantes e parceiros rom\u00e2nticos e devem sempre encontrar tempo e energia para agir dessa forma. No entanto, infelizmente, \u00e9 isto que a maioria das pessoas esquece.<\/p>\n

They emotionally drift apart and are unable to connect anymore. They don\u2019t go out, don\u2019t cuddle and watch movies, stop hugging and kissing and being affectionate.<\/p>\n

Esquecem-se dos anivers\u00e1rios e das datas de nascimento e est\u00e3o a ficar cada vez mais distantes.<\/p>\n

Vivendo uma vida atarefada, esquecem-se de reservar algum tempo para si pr\u00f3prios, sem que ningu\u00e9m ou nada os incomode ou interfira.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que, por vezes, isto parece uma miss\u00e3o imposs\u00edvel, mas \u00e9 imperativo para uma parceria de sucesso.<\/p>\n

Escravos do h\u00e1bito<\/h2>\n

\"homemOs casais que caem na armadilha de tornar-se demasiado complacente<\/a> fazem as coisas por defeito, sem p\u00f4r as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es nelas.<\/p>\n

Sem sequer se aperceberem disso, ficam presos nas suas zona de conforto<\/a> sem a coragem de sair dela e de fazer algumas mudan\u00e7as na sua vida.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 mais vis\u00edvel na parte \u00edntima de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. O sexo torna-se algo que apenas se faz e, com o tempo, come\u00e7a-se a encar\u00e1-lo como um dever, sem o desfrutar ao m\u00e1ximo.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7amos a v\u00ea-lo como algo que temos de fazer em vez de algo que dever\u00edamos ter o desejo de fazer com a pessoa amada. O sexo passa a ser apenas um dos as actividades de relacionamento<\/a> que se espera de si, em vez de ser um ato \u00edntimo e de prazer f\u00edsico.<\/p>\n

You get things done, without any special pleasure. It is good but it isn\u2019t great.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o est\u00e3o totalmente satisfeitos, mas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o dispostos a apimentar as coisas. Ou, no pior dos casos, o sexo \u00e9 inexistente e sentem-se mais como companheiros de quarto do que como um casal.<\/p>\n

Como evitar a complac\u00eancia numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"Jovem<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019ve gotten this far, it is more than obvious that your relationship can be related to some or even most of the things mentioned above and that you have a problem.<\/p>\n

Well, after recognizing the signs and being aware that you and your partner have fallen into the trap of becoming too complacent in a relationship, it\u2019s about time to take some action to make things better and ultimately save your relationship because the situation you are in now isn\u2019t good.<\/p>\n

Nenhum de voc\u00eas pode querer admitir isto, mas a forma como a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 agora faz com que ambos se sintam infelizes.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re clearly not solving anything and it\u2019s time you bring the spark back into your relationship.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7ar a reparar<\/h2>\n

\"mulherIf you\u2019re looking for ways to stop being complacent in a relationship, start by not taking your partner for granted and don\u2019t allow him to tom\u00e1-lo por garantido<\/a> ou.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se de o elogiar quando ele muda alguma coisa no seu aspeto ou quando faz alguma coisa em casa.<\/p>\n

If he fails to notice something you believe he should, turn his attention to it. Ask him what he thinks and subtly imply how you wish that things like that didn\u2019t go unnoticed.<\/p>\n

O segredo est\u00e1 em reparar nas pequenas coisas e em mostrar que se v\u00eaem realmente um ao outro. Trata-se de prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o um ao outro, tal como no in\u00edcio da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Falar abertamente com o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"homemA pr\u00f3xima coisa que precisa de fazer no processo de n\u00e3o ser complacente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 dizer honestamente ao seu parceiro qual \u00e9 o problema.<\/p>\n

Diga-lhe como se sente em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a tudo e que acha que ambos se tornaram complacentes na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him deny it and don\u2019t allow him to dismiss your words as unimportant or foolish.<\/p>\n

Explique-lhe que voc\u00eas os dois t\u00eam realmente um problema que tem de ser resolvido o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Se quer deixar de ser complacente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, junte for\u00e7as e, em conjunto, vejam o que podem fazer. Definir algumas objectivos de relacionamento<\/a> e avan\u00e7ar em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a eles.<\/p>\n

Talvez seja bom ter algumas orienta\u00e7\u00f5es sobre a forma de atingir esses objectivos.<\/p>\n

The most important thing here is that you both admit that you have a problem and that you are both willing to snap out of it and work hard to save your relationship because there is no point if you\u2019re the only one fighting and the only trying.<\/p>\n

Esfor\u00e7ar-se mais<\/h2>\n

\"fotografiaEsfor\u00e7ar-se nas coisas<\/a>. Look at all the things you can improve and that both of you as a couple could do differently. Don\u2019t sleepwalk through your relationship. Be present.  <\/p>\n

Ask things. Support. Talk openly about anything and everything\u2014communication is vital. Show interest.<\/p>\n

Experimentem juntos algo novo e excitante. No final, todos os pequenos esfor\u00e7os acabar\u00e3o por se transformar em algo grandioso.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s never too late to start being better to one another and to start working on the fact that you\u2019ve become complacent in the relationship. Simple acts of kindness should never be underestimated.<\/p>\n

You both need to feel appreciated and loved. You both need to work on things because relationships are always about two. One-sided efforts won\u2019t suffice.<\/p>\n

Arranjar tempo s\u00f3 para voc\u00eas os dois<\/h2>\n

\"casalUma das coisas mais importantes que o ajudar\u00e1 a sair da armadilha de ser demasiado complacente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 encontrar tempo que os dois passem sozinhos, como um casal, sem mais ningu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Yes, time spent apart or with friends and family is also beneficial for your relationship but it\u2019s time you focus on the two of you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow everything else to be more important than the two of you.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que gosta do seu trabalho e quer progredir. Naturalmente, gosta dos seus filhos acima de tudo e eles t\u00eam toda a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

However, work or money won\u2019t hug you at night. Your children will grow up and have lives of their own and in the end, it\u2019s going to be just the two of you.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s never really \u2018either\/or\u2019. If you work at it, you can have the best of everything.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to make time for each other agora <\/i>antes que seja demasiado tarde, <\/i>para trabalhar na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e torn\u00e1-la mais satisfat\u00f3ria e gratificante.<\/p>\n

Remember to manage your time wisely so you have time for all the people and everything else that\u2019s important in your life but it\u2019s important that you and your partner learn to enjoy each other\u2019s company all over again.<\/p>\n

Apimentar um pouco as coisas<\/h2>\n

\"mulherWhile sex might not be the most important part of the relationship, it\u2019s equally as important as all the other parts.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se o sexo for mau ou, pior ainda, inexistente, porque \u00e9 nessa altura que se sente como \u00e9 crucial para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s what distinguishes friendship from love. And it\u2019s important that you have your best friend and lover in one person.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not talking about physical pleasure connected with sex here only\u2014I\u2019m talking about the intimacy connected to it.<\/p>\n

O sexo aproxima-o do seu parceiro. Cria la\u00e7os emocionais que influenciam profundamente a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t let the passion die. Apimente a sua vida sexual<\/a> um pouco, experimentar coisas novas. Namorisca. Envia sexts.<\/p>\n

Make an effort in this aspect of your relationship, too. Don\u2019t allow sex to be just one more of your daily chores or something you have to get over with. Bring back all the sparks you had when you first started.<\/p>\n

O que interessa \u00e9 que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es precisam de ser trabalhadas constantemente. Precisam de esfor\u00e7os m\u00fatuos e de melhorias constantes.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what makes them last. That\u2019s why you should never take your partner for granted.<\/p>\n

Nunca se deve partir do princ\u00edpio de que, s\u00f3 porque se est\u00e1 numa uni\u00e3o de facto ou num casamento de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o, se deve deixar de tentar e tornar-se demasiado complacente com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

There is a big difference between feeling comfortable around each other and acting like you don\u2019t care. If you act like you don\u2019t care, your partner will start to believe that.<\/p>\n

Actions speak louder than words. And if there are no actions, there is nothing that\u2019s going to prove to your partner that you genuinely care. It will push them away. That\u2019s why you should never risk making somebody you truly love feel like they are not important anymore.  <\/p>\n

React immediately, don\u2019t let things get too far. When there is love, understanding and the enormous wish of both partners for something to last, they will make it work.<\/p>\n

Far\u00e3o todas as altera\u00e7\u00f5es necess\u00e1rias. Esfor\u00e7ar-se-\u00e3o e far\u00e3o tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para que as coisas funcionem.<\/p>\n

If that\u2019s the case, complacency will be just a rough patch they managed to overcome and their relationship will grow stronger because of it.<\/p>\n

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