{"id":18273,"date":"2018-05-03T12:05:42","date_gmt":"2018-05-03T12:05:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18273"},"modified":"2022-01-21T21:57:50","modified_gmt":"2022-01-21T21:57:50","slug":"isto-e-tudo-o-que-precisa-de-saber-sobre-como-manter-a-amizade-com-o-seu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/isto-e-tudo-o-que-precisa-de-saber-sobre-como-manter-a-amizade-com-o-seu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Isto \u00e9 tudo o que precisas de saber sobre como manter a amizade com o teu ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

A possibilidade de continuar a ser amigo do seu ex tem sido debatida desde sempre. <\/span>A amizade \u00e9 poss\u00edvel depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Ser\u00e1 que eu e <\/b>Devo continuar a ser amigo do meu ex?<\/b><\/a> Estas s\u00e3o as perguntas que todos n\u00f3s j\u00e1 fizemos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e \u00e0s pessoas que nos rodeiam, mas a resposta certa parece imposs\u00edvel de encontrar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bem, posso dizer-vos uma coisa: a amizade com o vosso ex pode ser a melhor ou a pior ideia da vossa vida. Tudo depende de diferentes factores, a come\u00e7ar pelas raz\u00f5es pelas quais quer que essa amizade aconte\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

Uma amizade entre duas pessoas que estiveram numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00f3 pode acontecer se voc\u00ea e o seu ex tiverem tido uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o civilizada. Se a sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi dolorosa ou se envolveu trai\u00e7\u00e3o ou mentira, digo-lhe diretamente: pode esquecer a possibilidade de ser amigo do seu ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 alturas em que <\/span>it\u2019s OK to be friends with your ex<\/span><\/a>. Sometimes, people simply outgrow each other or they mutually conclude that they shouldn\u2019t stay together anymore. <\/span>Por vezes, ainda queremos que o nosso ex fa\u00e7a parte da nossa vida,<\/b> but you don\u2019t feel attracted to him in the same way you used to or you can\u2019t imagine being romantically involved with him anymore. Sometimes you two still care for each other deeply but you both are very well aware that you can\u2019t function as a couple. And that is more than all right. After all, this person has been a huge part of your life for a long period of time and it is perfectly normal that you are having a hard time cutting him off for good overnight. The two of you weren\u2019t just love partners<\/span>\u2014<\/span>you were also friends and you started seeing him as your family and as a part of you. But if you and your ex decide you will be friends after the break-up has happened, the most important thing is that both of you want the same thing. The worst thing that can happen is that you or your ex still have unresolved feelings for the other and that being friends is just a mask. Being friends with your ex requires that both of you expect the same things from this friendship. You both need to be clear about your feelings for each other and you need to be certain that you don\u2019t love each other romantically anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como lidar com o facto de a sua melhor amiga ser amiga do seu ex<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Depois disto,<\/span> voc\u00eas os dois precisam de estabelecer alguns termos para esta amizade.<\/b> You can\u2019t expect to be best friends with your ex, because that involves talking to each other about your love life and that is never a good idea. Do you two plan on hanging out on a regular basis or do you just want to stay in touch? Also, you need to understand that sooner or later one or both of you will have someone new in your life and that there is no place for jealousy in this case. Plus you need to think about the future. How will your new boyfriend react to this friendship? You need to understand that many people wouldn\u2019t be comfortable with the idea that their partner is  still close to their ex and you shouldn\u2019t allow your <\/span>ex para arruinar a sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>. O que faria se ele lhe pedisse para escolher entre uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com ele e a amizade com o seu ex? Estas s\u00e3o todas as perguntas a que tanto voc\u00ea como o seu ex t\u00eam de responder e com as quais t\u00eam de concordar se quiserem ter uma amizade bem sucedida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se tenciona ser amigo do seu ex, tem de compreender que essa amizade raramente pode funcionar logo ap\u00f3s o fim da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b> Provavelmente, ambos precisam de algum tempo para se recomporem um do outro e para organizarem as vossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es. \u00c9 pouco prov\u00e1vel que seja poss\u00edvel serem amigos neste per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-rutura da vossa vida, porque pelo menos um de v\u00f3s ver\u00e1 provavelmente que esta \u00e9 uma oportunidade para voltarem a estar juntos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por outro lado, \u00e9 preciso ter em conta que ser amigo do ex tamb\u00e9m pode ser mau para si.<\/b> You need to make sure that his motives are clear as well. You don\u2019t want him to keep you around just so he could keep his options open or because he is not ready to accept the break-up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Staying friends with your ex can prevent you from moving on with your life and it can give you false hope of getting back together with him, even without you being aware of it. As long as you have him in your life, you are subconsciously holding on to him and it is possible that you haven\u2019t actually accepted the break-up and that is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, a escolha \u00e9 vossa. E seja qual for a sua escolha, tem de estar consciente daquilo em que se est\u00e1 a meter e tem de se certificar de que a outra pessoa tamb\u00e9m est\u00e1 perfeitamente consciente disso.<\/b> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The possibility of staying friends with your ex has been debated forever. Is friendship possible after a relationship? Can I and should I stay friends with my ex? These are all the questions we have all asked ourself and the people around us but the right answer seems impossible to find. Well, I can tell…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":18274,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/allan-ferreira-553241-unsplash.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18273\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18274"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}