{"id":18558,"date":"2020-02-11T11:12:04","date_gmt":"2020-02-11T11:12:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18558"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:15:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:15:20","slug":"o-que-fazer-quando-o-narcisista-volta-e-como-o-fazer-ir-embora","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-fazer-quando-o-narcisista-volta-e-como-o-fazer-ir-embora\/","title":{"rendered":"O que fazer quando o narcisista volta (e como fazer com que ele v\u00e1 embora)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Muitas mulheres cometem o mesmo erro quando o narcisista com quem terminaram a rela\u00e7\u00e3o volta, especialmente se tiverem acabado de sair da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s cometemos esse erro porque, francamente, ainda estamos apaixonados pelo nosso narcisista.<\/p>\n

Although we know they are bad for us and we\u2019re only going to be miserable, something draws us back to them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s their lies and their false epiphany, their empty promises that they will change and that things are going to be different.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when we make the mistake and take them back, instead of chasing them as far away from us as possible.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mas a verdadeira verdade por detr\u00e1s do seu regresso \u00e9 que algo na sua vida n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a correr como desejavam. Algo n\u00e3o est\u00e1 bem.<\/p>\n

Some other source of energetic supply has been compromised and they are coming back to their regular source of energy that kept them happy and \u2018well-fed\u2019 for a long time.<\/p>\n

They are not coming back because they have realized their behavior was hurtful and mean, they are coming back because they have no one to dry the energy out. They don\u2019t love you, they just want to use you.<\/em><\/p>\n

O narcisista<\/a> doesn\u2019t care for you as a person. They don\u2019t care for your virtues or for who you really are.<\/p>\n

They have a desire for something that you provided them with and they want it. That\u2019s why they come back to you.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

V\u00eaem as pessoas como objectos, coisas que podem mudar, usar e deitar fora quando j\u00e1 n\u00e3o lhes interessam e passam para o pr\u00f3ximo objeto.<\/p>\n

Just please remember, they won\u2019t be coming back because they love you.<\/p>\n

Eles voltar\u00e3o porque voc\u00ea tem algo de que eles precisam e voc\u00ea ilude-se pensando que eles voltaram para fazer as pazes e pedir desculpas.<\/p>\n

Pensamos que eles v\u00e3o mudar, mas isso nunca acontece, o que nos deixa destro\u00e7ados e desiludidos. Sente-se usado porque est\u00e1 a ser usado.<\/p>\n

O que fazer quando o narcisista regressa e como o afastar para sempre<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Ele vai pedir-lhe desculpa<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Ele vir\u00e1 a rastejar at\u00e9 si, fingindo estar arrependido. Vai parecer devastado e destro\u00e7ado, como se o seu mundo tivesse desabado.<\/p>\n

He will look like he feels bad for his actions and regrets them. But the thing is, it\u2019s ridiculous to talk about apologizing when someone has done something on purpose.<\/p>\n

An apology can only be true and sincere when you\u2019re apologizing for something that happens by accident.<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas est\u00e3o conscientes do facto de que o que est\u00e3o a fazer \u00e9 errado. Eles sabem que est\u00e3o a partir o nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o e que nos fazem sentir mal, mas fazem-no na mesma.<\/p>\n

So how can an apology be sincere if you know the thing he is apologizing for is intentional? You just can\u2019t match one little sorry with all the horrible things they have done to you.<\/p>\n

2. Ele vai perseguir-te<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Suddenly, you\u2019ll see him all over the place. If you go for a walk, if you go to the gym, if you go to the market, you\u2019ll see him and believe me, that is not an accident.<\/p>\n

That is happening for a reason. It\u2019s all a part of his hovering tactics, with which he wants to pull you back to him. Probably because ele sente a tua falta<\/a> mas n\u00e3o de uma forma normal.<\/p>\n

Ele sente falta de drenar toda a energia de si e de se sentir satisfeito e feliz.<\/p>\n

Ele vai perseguir-te nas redes sociais e observar cuidadosamente todos os teus movimentos.<\/p>\n

He wants to be sure that you are all alone and miserable without him and while he\u2019s waiting for your weak moment, he\u2019ll try to make you see him in the best possible light. Don\u2019t fall for those kinds of tricks.<\/p>\n

The best thing you could do is to ignore him completely. Don\u2019t let him get inside your head. He has not changed and he never will.<\/p>\n

He is still the same old manipulative asshole who\u2019ll drain you and spit you out once again. Spare yourself the pain and chase him away.<\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re his safety net<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Quando o narcisista voltar, ele sabe que voc\u00ea estar\u00e1 l\u00e1 para ele. Ele sabe que vai ser a sua rede de seguran\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re there to catch him, he is going to keep doing what he is doing because there are no consequences.<\/p>\n

Ele consegue sempre o que quer e tu ficas sempre magoada. Isto parece-lhe justo?<\/p>\n

By taking him back over and over again, you\u2019re just proving to him that his behavior is working.<\/p>\n

It might not be right, he knows it\u2019s not, but you keep giving him second chances, so he keeps using them.<\/p>\n

You have to be strong enough to cut him off. You have to make him aware that you\u2019ve had enough and that your energy source is no longer available for him to exploit.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that this should do it but it will definitely keep him at a distance for a while until he becomes desperate again.<\/p>\n

4. Tentar sem contacto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a> \u00e9 a melhor maneira de o fazer. Mas, por vezes, \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel manter o contacto.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible if the guy, your narcissist, is someone you\u2019re working with or your ex-husband whom you have kids with.<\/p>\n

But let\u2019s say there is nothing out there keeping you close to him, then you can easily let him go and block him out of your life.<\/p>\n

But you have to want it. Because there will be times when you\u2019re going to miss him. No matter how big of an ass he was, there were times when he was even good to you.<\/p>\n

Quer dizer, ele foi simp\u00e1tico e am\u00e1vel consigo porque precisava de algo de si, era apenas mais um meio de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

But you\u2019re not going to miss him as a person, you\u2019re going to miss the feeling of affection.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to miss having someone by your side in the moments when you are going to be depressed and alone.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to miss having anyone by your side and that is when the biggest danger of going back to him occurs.<\/p>\n

Ele vai aproveitar-se disso e voltar\u00e1 para si. Tente n\u00e3o o contactar. Mantenha a regra de n\u00e3o o contactar, por mais triste e solit\u00e1ria que esteja.<\/p>\n

Try to talk to a friend or sleep on it and don\u2019t make decisions you\u2019re going to regret.<\/p>\n

5. \u00c9 preciso ser indiferente<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You have to make yourself as less interesting as you can. You have to be so boring that he doesn\u2019t want to be close to you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t respond to his provocations, and there will be plenty, just be boring.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t talk to him about anything except the things you have to talk about.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 a forma mais eficaz de se defender de pessoas narcisistas<\/a> when you have no other option than to be around him, where you can\u2019t apply the no contact rule.<\/p>\n

Narcissists come back all of a sudden and when you least expect it because they are missing something from their life. They need something and probably they can\u2019t get it.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

This is what creates a void inside of them which they need to fulfill right away. That\u2019s when he turns back to you because you were good enough for the job.<\/p>\n

Ele usou-te tantas vezes antes, porque n\u00e3o tentar mais uma vez?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t show any kind of reaction, be faceless as a dull, gray stone and he will leave because you are not interesting to him anymore.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t use you anymore, so he will go off and seek another victim to destroy emotionally.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a que, de cada vez que ele volta e voc\u00ea o aceita de volta, \u00e9 voc\u00ea que fica a chorar enquanto ele se afasta calmamente. S\u00f3 lhe est\u00e1 a fazer um favor.<\/p>\n

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