{"id":18605,"date":"2018-05-11T13:10:02","date_gmt":"2018-05-11T13:10:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18605"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:50:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:50:28","slug":"nao-posso-continuar-a-deixar-te-entrar-na-minha-vida-porque-acaba-sempre-em-desilusao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-posso-continuar-a-deixar-te-entrar-na-minha-vida-porque-acaba-sempre-em-desilusao\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o posso continuar a deixar-te entrar na minha vida porque acaba sempre em desilus\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

To be honest, I never believed in second chances and I never believed that people could change. I was always convinced that someone who screwed you over once will do it again. And that was my attitude toward all people in my life and especially men. It doesn\u2019t mean I didn\u2019t treat them right<\/span>\u2014<\/span>I simply wasn\u2019t ready to allow anyone to walk all over me, to take me for granted and especially to feel that he could do whatever he wanted while keeping me in his life. This was one of my most important deal-breakers:<\/span> Who hurt me once will do it again and I wasn\u2019t ready to give him that chance.<\/b><\/p>\n

I have to admit I kind of felt sorry for the people who couldn\u2019t seem to learn their lesson. I felt sorry for the women who kept forgiving their partners their mistakes over and over again. How could they think they would change? Weren\u2019t they aware that they were only giving them the opportunity to keep screwing them over? I secretly ridiculed the couples who <\/span>continuavam a voltar um para o outro<\/span><\/a> even though they knew things wouldn\u2019t work out and I couldn\u2019t understand how come they allowed their hearts to lead them into something they knew wasn\u2019t right.<\/span><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que me tornei uma dessas pessoas. <\/span>E at\u00e9 tu entrares na minha vida.<\/b><\/p>\n

Desde que os nossos caminhos se cruzaram, fiz muitas coisas que jurei que nunca faria. Tra\u00ed muitos dos meus princ\u00edpios e dos que me impedem de negociar. <\/span>Mas o facto de te deixar voltar a entrar e de te dar infinitas segundas oportunidades foi algo que mais me odiei por ter feito.<\/b><\/p>\n

Porque agora compreendo todas aquelas pessoas que desprezava. Durante anos, pensei que ias mudar, embora a hip\u00f3tese de isso acontecer fosse inexistente. Durante anos, continuei a perdoar-te por repetires todas as coisas que prometeste que nunca farias. Durante anos, permiti que te afastasses de mim e voltasses quando quisesses. Durante anos, eu continuei <\/span>going back to you, knowing I shouldn\u2019t<\/span><\/a>. E esse foi o meu maior erro e derrota.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now I know this. I also know that I was doing it because I loved you. And I still love you. But it doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019ll continue letting you in.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because I know it would be the same even if I did. Now I know that you will never change and that there is nothing I could do to change you. Now I know that I was the one who allowed you to treat me this way and that now it\u2019s too late for me to change my attitude toward you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Every time you come back to me, I hope that this time it will be different. I hope that this will be the time when you will realize that I am the girl you should be with and that you\u2019ll realize you love me the same way I love you. I hope that this will be the time you\u2019ll finally understand I am the only one you need and that all of those other girls meant nothing to you. I hope that you\u2019ll finally come to your senses and that you\u2019ll realize that we are meant to be together.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, eu sempre <\/span>dar-vos uma segunda oportunidade<\/span><\/a> you beg me for. Because whenever you want me to take you back, you turn into the kindest, most loving man in the world. You tell me everything I need and want to hear and you promise me that this is the last time you have done something stupid. You keep telling me that you can\u2019t imagine living your life without me and that you are ready to do whatever it takes just to get another chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s get one thing straight<\/span>\u2014<\/span>my reason has always been telling me that I am foolish. There has always existed this tiny voice in my head that kept warning me that I would get hurt once more. But with time, I\u2019ve learned to ignore that voice and I\u2019ve learn to pretend it doesn\u2019t exist.<\/span><\/p>\n

But finally, after all this time and after everything you\u2019ve put me through, <\/span>a minha voz da raz\u00e3o prevaleceu.<\/b> Tornou-se mais alto do que nunca e ajudou-me a ver o teu verdadeiro eu pela primeira vez. Ajudou-me a desistir de ti. Ajudou-me a perder a esperan\u00e7a de que alguma vez serias diferente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because you and I both know that you will always stay the same. We both know that you will always end up hurting me and disappointing me, despite all the promises you\u2019ve been making. We both know that we have no future together and that it is about time to put an end to this charade.<\/span><\/p>\n

So please, let me walk away for good because that is the least I deserve. Please let me find my peace and don\u2019t come looking for me once you realize what you\u2019ve lost. Because trust me, sooner or later, you will understand everything. But it will be too late.<\/span> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

To be honest, I never believed in second chances and I never believed that people could change. I was always convinced that someone who screwed you over once will do it again. And that was my attitude toward all people in my life and especially men. It doesn\u2019t mean I didn\u2019t treat them right\u2014I simply…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":18606,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18605","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/meiying-ng-71590-unsplash.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18605","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18605"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18605\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18606"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18605"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18605"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18605"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}