It was only a few weeks after the breakup and my ex’s relationship status went from \u201cin a relationship\u201c to \u201csingle\u201c. Photos of him partying with friends and some unknown women were cluttering my news feed. His texts stopped coming and it seemed like he was over me just like that. In the blink of an eye, all the love he swore he had for me was gone and he moved on.<\/p>\n
Entretanto, eu ainda estava a meio da minha segunda embalagem de gelado, a lutar contra as ins\u00f3nias, a chorar sem parar, a falar com os meus amigos, a analisar excessivamente a separa\u00e7\u00e3o e a rela\u00e7\u00e3o, a tentar dar algum sentido ao que tinha acabado de acontecer. Tentando chegar ao fundo das coisas.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow can he move on so fast? Did he ever love me? How can he be so heartless? Where did his love go?\u201d<\/em> e certamente \"<\/em>Ser\u00e1 que ele sente a minha falta?<\/a>\u201d <\/em>were just some of the questions echoing in my head and making everything so much more difficult for me. But they wouldn\u2019t stop. I couldn\u2019t silence my mind. I couldn\u2019t stop the pain that was just getting deeper.<\/p>\n My world was falling apart and he was having the time of his life. I couldn\u2019t grasp it. For the life of me, I couldn\u2019t understand what was going on in his head. It\u2019s maybe not a good thing to confess but if I had known I wasn\u2019t the only one hurting, if I had known that he was going through something similar, maybe it would have been easier to get over the breakup.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know that a lot of women can relate. And a lot of them are wondering, \u201cWhy is this so? Why do men and women handle breakups differently?\u201d This is what I have found out:<\/p>\n Logo ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o, a mulher analisa e tenta dar algum sentido \u00e0 situa\u00e7\u00e3o. Falar\u00e1 abertamente sobre o assunto com os amigos, de forma a facilitar as coisas para si pr\u00f3pria. Por outro lado, os homens lutar contra os seus sentimentos<\/a>. They will ignore them and put them aside. They will avoid the subject and try to move on as fast as they can because that\u2019s what men do. They don\u2019t display their feelings publically or go into in-depth analyses with their friends.<\/p>\n Numa perspetiva a longo prazo, as mulheres t\u00eam melhores resultados na supera\u00e7\u00e3o de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. Pode demorar muito tempo, mas elas processam os seus sentimentos. Ao falarem sobre eles, de certa forma, deixam a dor sair lentamente dos seus sistemas. Chegam a algumas conclus\u00f5es significativas que as ajudam a ter uma vida melhor por causa disso.<\/p>\n While that initial blow is harder on women, that doesn\u2019t mean men are unaffected. A breakup doesn\u2019t spare anybody\u2014it\u2019s just the difference in timing. Women are more affected at the beginning and men later on.<\/p>\n Enquanto as mulheres est\u00e3o a passar pelo per\u00edodo de luto e a dissecar toda a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com as amigas, est\u00e3o na realidade a curar-se a si pr\u00f3prias nesse processo. Percebem que acabou e porque \u00e9 que teve de ser assim. Por outro lado, os homens est\u00e3o demasiado ocupados a fugir dos seus sentimentos e a distra\u00edrem-se, de modo que a perce\u00e7\u00e3o da rutura e do facto de n\u00e3o poderem voltar atr\u00e1s vem mais tarde.<\/p>\n This is probably one of the most important differences. After the breakup, men are guarding their pride and self-esteem. They can experience anger and resentment if they weren\u2019t the ones who did the breaking up. So their coping mechanisms are bit more destructive. They hide their feelings, go out partying, are more prone to rebound relationships, etc. So, they don\u2019t solve the problem. They are not healing\u2014they are avoiding dealing with the breakup.<\/p>\n Women, however, do the complete opposite and most of the relationship experts agree that women\u2019s way of coping with breakups is more constructive. By turning to other people in their lives, by talking about their feelings and analyzing them, they try to give themselves some kind of closure. They learn their lessons, try to see the silver lining in all the pain and grow as the individuals.<\/p>\n Os homens e as mulheres t\u00eam vis\u00f5es totalmente diferentes sobre o conceito de rela\u00e7\u00e3o e de expectativas diferentes<\/a>. A maioria das mulheres, normalmente sem qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o real de o fazer, encara uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o como algo a longo prazo desde o in\u00edcio. Por isso, investem muito mais nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es do que os homens. E isso \u00e9 natural e normal, mas um \u00f3timo in\u00edcio de rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o garante que se esteja onde se deve estar.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why when the relationship breaks up, women have this feeling that they have lost so much more\u2014the potential of the relationship and everything they thought that relationship could become has gone down the drain. By default, the pain is so much greater for it. On the contrary, men are less affected and less hurt because of their perception of a relationship. They go one day at a time without thinking too much of where the relationship is headed, especially early on.<\/p>\n1. Reac\u00e7\u00f5es iniciais<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
2. Tempo de realiza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
3. Mecanismos de resposta<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
4. Percep\u00e7\u00f5es espec\u00edficas de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
5. Emo\u00e7\u00f5es vs. raz\u00e3o<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n