{"id":18982,"date":"2018-05-21T12:23:03","date_gmt":"2018-05-21T12:23:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18982"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:26:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:26:56","slug":"ele-esta-vazio-por-dentro-por-isso-e-incapaz-de-amar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-esta-vazio-por-dentro-por-isso-e-incapaz-de-amar\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele est\u00e1 vazio por dentro, \u00e9 por isso que \u00e9 incapaz de amar"},"content":{"rendered":"

As apar\u00eancias podem enganar<\/span>\u2014<\/span>he taught me that, all too well. I never imagined who he really was underneath that perfect exterior he so skillfully created. I could never have guessed that he couldn’t love me because he had nothing left to give, he was completely empty on the inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn’t resist him. There was something that drew me to him, something that just seemed familiar. It made me feel safe. His behavior, his sweet talk, and his smooth ways made my walls tumble down. I trusted him. I fell in love with him in a split second, without fear or doubt, without thinking too much. I just followed my feelings, completely unaware of what lay ahead. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca imaginei que algu\u00e9m pudesse ser t\u00e3o frio e calculista. Mas agora sei que ele nunca tencionou ficar. Ele tinha tudo planeado, tenho a certeza disso. Tenho a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de que ele j\u00e1 o tinha feito um milh\u00e3o de vezes antes, por isso conhecia bem o seu plano de jogo. Ele estava a proteger-se do amor e a magoar-me no processo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele sabia o que dizer e quando o fazer.<\/b> Ele sabia como dar-me apenas o suficiente. Apenas o suficiente de si pr\u00f3prio e das suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es para que eu me agarrasse a ele e o desejasse mais e nunca o suficiente para sentir que ele era completamente meu. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele sabia como estar t\u00e3o perto e t\u00e3o distante ao mesmo tempo. <\/b>He made a plan and he executed it. He lured me in by making our beginning so incredibly beautiful. And when he saw that my feelings were growing, that I was already attached, that\u2019s when the other part of the plan started. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tudo mudou gradualmente. <\/b>He started changing the little things in our relationship. For example, texts became less frequent. He would text me, I would text back and then I wouldn\u2019t hear from him for hours. He had a lot of similar texting games, and as easy as it had been to talk to and text with him in the beginning, now it had become frustrating and difficult. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele quase nunca tinha tempo para mim. Tudo era mais importante e eu vinha sempre em \u00faltimo lugar. Quando finalmente encontrava tempo para mim, mantinha-me t\u00e3o perto e era t\u00e3o carinhoso que eu me apaixonava ainda mais por ele. Era quase como se ele estivesse a compensar todo o tempo que me tinha privado. <\/span><\/p>\n

E assim que ele sa\u00eda pela porta, tudo come\u00e7ava de novo. Tornava-se novamente distante. <\/b>Depois, servia-me migalhas da sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o e afeto s\u00f3 para eu ter algo a que me agarrar. Ele atra\u00eda-me quando via que as coisas estavam a ficar demasiado dif\u00edceis de aguentar, depois exagerava quando eu me afastava. Fez-me isto vezes sem conta at\u00e9 se ir embora sem sequer um adeus. <\/span><\/p>\n

That lack of goodbye hurt more than anything because I couldn’t see all that was flawed in our relationship. <\/b>Todos os problemas que tivemos nunca pareceram insol\u00faveis. Eu continuei \u00e0 espera, dando-lhe todo o tempo, espa\u00e7o e compreens\u00e3o que ele queria. A sua partida foi totalmente inesperada. Culpei-me a mim pr\u00f3pria. <\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn’t see how much damage he had left because I kept sugar-coating everything.<\/b> Continuei a agarrar-me a esta imagem perfeita dele que n\u00e3o tinha qualquer liga\u00e7\u00e3o com a realidade. Continuei \u00e0 espera que ele voltasse. Mas ele nunca voltou. Ele deve ter passado para a sua pr\u00f3xima conquista. Ele vai fazer o que faz sempre<\/span>\u2014<\/span>ele far\u00e1 com que algu\u00e9m se apaixone por ele sem qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o de a amar de volta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Only after he was no longer a part of my life, after I\u2019d had a chance to think and unwillingly overanalyze every aspect of our relationship, did everything start to make sense. <\/span>Ele falou-me dela, da sua ex, da pessoa que o destruiu.<\/b> Ele estava t\u00e3o quebrado que nunca conseguiu consertar-se a si pr\u00f3prio. Isso apenas o deixou entorpecido e vazio.  <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why he put those titanium walls up, got his game on and put an indestructible shield in front of him to protect him from potential hurt. It saved him the hurt but it never allowed him to be happy or to love again either.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Era mais f\u00e1cil para ele magoar-me e passar para a rapariga seguinte do que abrir-se comigo e deixar-me entrar. <\/b>He felt safe and in control knowing that I cared more and that I couldn\u2019t hurt him. I guess he decided it was time to go when he started caring more for me too. I am not saying this to justify what he did to me. I was also broken and I didn\u2019t go around destroying other people. <\/span><\/p>\n

No final, s\u00f3 tenho pena dele. Tornou-se t\u00e3o bom a esquivar-se \u00e0 dor que se esquivou tamb\u00e9m ao amor.<\/b> Deve ser triste ser ele. Ele sabe que algo vai acabar antes mesmo de come\u00e7ar. Ele planeia uma rota de fuga sempre que come\u00e7a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Foge dos seus sentimentos para encobrir o facto de ainda estar t\u00e3o incrivelmente destro\u00e7ado.  <\/span><\/p>\n

He never healed and now he is walking around with this numbness and emptiness inside of him that doesn\u2019t allow him to truly feel anything again. He doesn\u2019t allow anybody in because the stakes are too high, the pain is too great. <\/span>But there is still one thing I don’t get<\/i><\/b>\u2014<\/i><\/b>\u201cHow could he hurt me, knowing exactly how it would make me feel?\u201d <\/i><\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Looks can be deceiving\u2014he taught me that, all too well. I never imagined who he really was underneath that perfect exterior he so skillfully created. I could never have guessed that he couldn’t love me because he had nothing left to give, he was completely empty on the inside. I couldn’t resist him. There was…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":18983,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18982","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/black-and-white-emotion-looking-59196.jpg",800,558,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18982","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18982"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18982\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18983"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18982"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18982"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18982"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}