{"id":19054,"date":"2020-05-22T12:19:28","date_gmt":"2020-05-22T12:19:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19054"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:05:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:05:32","slug":"foi-por-isso-que-demorei-tanto-tempo-a-ir-me-embora","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/foi-por-isso-que-demorei-tanto-tempo-a-ir-me-embora\/","title":{"rendered":"Foi por isto que demorei tanto tempo a sair"},"content":{"rendered":"

I broke up my relationship the other day. A relationship where I wasn’t happy but it still ended up lasting for years.<\/p>\n

Por isso, agora, sempre que saio com pessoas que me conhecem h\u00e1 bastante tempo, acabam por me perguntar porque \u00e9 que demorei tanto tempo a sair, e esta \u00e9 a minha resposta.<\/p>\n

Demorei tanto tempo a ir-me embora porque o amava.<\/b><\/p>\n

Adorava a forma como ele dormia calmamente ao meu lado e a forma como ele abra\u00e7a-me <\/a> e puxa-me para mais perto do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I loved him and his voice, his beautiful eyes and the way his face felt when he didn’t shave for a few days.<\/p>\n

Demorei tanto tempo a partir porque estava cego por esse amor.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

<\/b> I was blinded by my own feelings that didn’t let me see the way he was in actuality.<\/p>\n

I didn’t see the way he would look at other women, I would ignore the fact that he was texting someone, smiling constantly, and I ignored the fact that he didn’t come home at the time he told me he would.<\/p>\n

It took me so long to leave because I didn’t listen.<\/b><\/p>\n

I didn’t listen to my friends, I didn’t listen to my family and what hurts me the most is that I didn’t listen to myself.<\/p>\n

I told myself more than enough times that he wasn’t the right one for me and that I should move on, that I should leave.<\/p>\n

I told myself that he didn’t love me the way I loved him and that he wasn’t able to stay by my side no matter how much I tried to make him.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Demorei tanto tempo a ir-me embora porque pensei que as coisas iam melhorar.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b> A certa altura, comecei a aperceber-me da forma como ele evitava as conversas e como fazia com que as minhas emo\u00e7\u00f5es parecessem irracionais.<\/p>\n

Ele estava sempre a deitar-me abaixo, mas eu pensava que as coisas iam melhorar.<\/p>\n

This wasn’t the man I fell in love with and this wasn’t the man I started a relationship with, so I thought that it was just a phase that was going to soon pass.<\/p>\n

Demorei tanto tempo a sair porque tive de pensar numa forma correcta de o fazer.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes, I got to the point where I realized that I had to leave because he didn’t make me happy anymore.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

He would ignore my texts, sleep at a friend\u2019s house more often than not and there was no love shining in his eyes anymore.<\/p>\n

Estavam vazios quando ele olhava para mim.<\/p>\n

I thought about how I should leave him, how I could make sure that I didn\u2019t hurt him and about why I even cared about if I was going to hurt him.<\/p>\n

Por isso, fui-me embora.<\/b><\/p>\n

I left even though it wasn’t easy and it ended in a huge fight over why I was leaving.<\/p>\n

He told me that I was ungrateful for his efforts, he told me that I wasn’t worthy of him anyways and that I didn’t even deserve his company.<\/p>\n

Dirias algo assim \u00e0 pessoa que amas? Reagir\u00edamos assim? Eu s\u00f3 queria a minha felicidade e a dele.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

If the relationship didn’t make either of us happy, why should I stay?<\/p>\n

Quando o deixei, pude finalmente ver tudo com clareza.<\/b><\/p>\n

Conseguia ver o abuso emocional, a forma como ele me deitava abaixo sempre que eu abria a boca, a forma como ele me fazia sentir culpada por chorar.<\/p>\n

Conseguia ver tudo e consegui finalmente perceber aquilo por que tinha passado.<\/p>\n

He manipulated me into thinking that I couldn’t get anyone better than him because I didn’t deserve anyone better.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o sou pat\u00e9tico, pois n\u00e3o?<\/b><\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

That man, the same man who slept with other women thinking that lying to me would make sure I never found out, was telling me that I didn’t deserve him. I didn’t.<\/p>\n

Estou mais do que certo de que nenhuma mulher merecia um homem <\/a> como ele \u00e9.<\/p>\n

He didn’t deserve me and he didn’t deserve my patience.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b> So now I am finally able to say that I left. I left and I won’t ever look back again.<\/p>\n

I am finally free of his grasp and I am able to see what it all was \u2014 just a big lie from which I wasn’t able to escape.<\/p>\n

Demorei tanto tempo a deix\u00e1-lo. Mas mais vale tarde do que nunca, certo?<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Foi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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