{"id":19087,"date":"2018-05-23T07:18:20","date_gmt":"2018-05-23T07:18:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19087"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:25:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:25:39","slug":"5-maneiras-de-ajudar-o-seu-homem-destrocado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-maneiras-de-ajudar-o-seu-homem-destrocado\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneiras de ajudar o seu homem destro\u00e7ado"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"N\u00e3o posso prometer que vou resolver todos os teus problemas, mas posso prometer que n\u00e3o os vais enfrentar sozinho.\"<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sometimes, love alone is not enough to make a relationship succeed. Sometimes, there are open wounds from the past that need healing. Sometimes, there are wrong people from the wrong times trying to destroy the right ones. And sometimes, there are scars that are still aching and need someone\u2019s help to mend them completely. You never truly know how damaged a person is until you try to love them.<\/p>\n

Embora estejamos t\u00e3o habituados a ler sobre mulheres destro\u00e7adas, os homens podem ser quebrados<\/a>, too. But unlike women, men tend to ignore it and hide it until it completely destroys them so that they don\u2019t know how to express the love they are feeling or they just don\u2019t want to admit it\u2019s even there.<\/p>\n

Opening up to someone after you\u2019ve been through hell is hard, but sometimes, the broken man we fell in love is worth the fight. And here is how you can help him:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Dar-lhe tempo<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Esta \u00e9 provavelmente uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis que tem de fazer, dar-lhe tempo quando tudo o que quer \u00e9 estar com ele. Mas se quer que ele fique consigo de todo o cora\u00e7\u00e3o, tem de lhe dar algum tempo para sarar. Precisa de lhe mostrar que est\u00e1 l\u00e1 para ele e que n\u00e3o \u00e9 a ex que o destro\u00e7ou; que est\u00e1 com ele por causa dele, n\u00e3o por causa das coisas que ele pode fazer por si. Por vezes, o melhor rem\u00e9dio para um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido \u00e9 o tempo, mas o tempo em combina\u00e7\u00e3o com o amor \u00e9 uma verdadeira combina\u00e7\u00e3o vencedora!<\/p>\n

2. Escuta-o<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Listen to him\u2014not just so you can answer something, but to truly hear what he is saying. To him, opening up is like reliving those memories again. It\u2019s like going through that hell over and over again and he is doing it so you could understand what he been through. He is doing it so you know that he can be better, that he is vale a pena lutar<\/a> afinal de contas. Ele s\u00f3 precisa de mais tempo e do seu amor. Se ele est\u00e1 a abrir-se consigo, j\u00e1 est\u00e1 a meio caminho de melhorar.<\/p>\n

3. Understand that you won\u2019t understand and give him some space<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

No one has lived through the same things and sometimes the hardest part of a relationship is trying to walk in someone else\u2019s shoes. Trying to understand what is bothering our partner and then trying to fix it is what keeps the relationship going, but in this case, understand that you won\u2019t always understand. Talking about it to him is hard and sometimes not even he can understand it, which is why you need to give both him and yourself some space to heal and move on.<\/p>\n

Giving him and yourself some space might be crucial in helping him because there\u2019s a high possibility that you might be overwhelmed with all the failed attempts of helping him and your relationship. Taking some time and space could be the thing that will save your man and your relationship in the end.<\/p>\n

4. Mostrar empatia<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Sometimes, all you can do is to emphasize with him. If it\u2019s hard for him to talk about it, don\u2019t push him to do it\u2014the same like you wouldn\u2019t like him to push you into doing things you don\u2019t want or simply can\u2019t do. Just, be there for him and share silence with him when he needs you to.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t try to change or fix him \u2013 he needs to do it on his own<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

The decision about making changes should be completely up to him. If you are doing it for him or even trying to fix him, it will only break you. If he doesn\u2019t make that decision on his own, there is a high possibility of him resenting you or even pushing you away, simply because he is still afraid and hurting because of his ex. Relationships to him are still the scariest things in this world.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if he is not interested in changing himself, maybe it\u2019s time you stopped putting effort in him. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to let go because not all people can be saved. And not everyone WANTS to be saved. No matter how much you love him, sometimes you need to love yourself more.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cI can\u2019t promise to fix all of your problems, but I can promise you won\u2019t face them alone.\u201d Sometimes, love alone is not enough to make a relationship succeed. Sometimes, there are open wounds from the past that need healing. Sometimes, there are wrong people from the wrong times trying to destroy the right ones….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":19088,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19087","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/priscilla.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19087","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19087"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19087\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19087"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19087"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19087"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}