{"id":1916,"date":"2021-10-29T09:17:28","date_gmt":"2021-10-29T09:17:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=1916"},"modified":"2021-11-23T21:06:39","modified_gmt":"2021-11-23T21:06:39","slug":"4-maneiras-elegantes-de-se-livrar-de-pessoas-negativas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/4-maneiras-elegantes-de-se-livrar-de-pessoas-negativas\/","title":{"rendered":"A arte de se livrar de pessoas t\u00f3xicas: 10 dicas e truques"},"content":{"rendered":"

Livrar-se de pessoas t\u00f3xicas<\/a> sem grande inc\u00f3modo parece imposs\u00edvel. Eles drenam a sua energia ao ponto de n\u00e3o ter for\u00e7as para os combater.<\/p>\n

Aside from this, if you’ve ever dealt with someone toxic, you know how stubborn they are. You cannot use indirect ways to tell them to leave you alone.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que \u00e9 preciso apontar diretamente para a cabe\u00e7a. \u00c9 preciso, literalmente, dizer a algu\u00e9m para sair da nossa vida, o que nunca foi uma coisa f\u00e1cil de fazer.<\/p>\n

Well, it’s all part of history from now on. Here is a detailed guide on how to cortar<\/a> qualquer pessoa t\u00f3xica da forma mais elegante poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o os sinais de uma pessoa t\u00f3xica?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

People don’t show their toxic traits right away. Instead, they pretend to be someone they’re not until they get under your skin.<\/p>\n

Passado algum tempo, come\u00e7amos a reparar em pequenas coisas que depois se tornam enormes. Come\u00e7am a fazer-lhe elogios indiretos ou a encontrar sempre o lado negativo em tudo.<\/p>\n

Com o passar do tempo, come\u00e7a a notar cada vez mais sinais da sua toxicidade. Eis os sintomas mais comuns:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. <\/b>Comportamento manipulador<\/b><\/a><\/li>\n
  2. Desejo de controlar<\/b><\/li>\n
  3. N\u00e3o respeitar os limites<\/b><\/li>\n
  4. <\/b>Agress\u00e3o passiva<\/b><\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Falta de responsabiliza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/li>\n
  6. Incoer\u00eancia<\/b><\/li>\n
  7. <\/b>Ego\u00edsmo<\/b><\/a><\/b><\/li>\n
  8. Diferentes formas de abuso<\/b><\/li>\n
  9. Desonestidade<\/b><\/li>\n
  10. Drenagem de energia<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    O que acontece quando se corta um <\/b>pessoa t\u00f3xica<\/b>?<\/b><\/h2>\n

    You’re not losing anything when you finally get rid of someone toxic. On the contrary, you regain control over your life.<\/p>\n

    At first, you’ll probably sentir a sua falta<\/a>, but as time goes by, you’ll feel relieved without them.<\/p>\n

    Eventually, you\u2019ll learn from this experience. It teaches you to recognize people who are not good for you. Most importantly, you learn nunca se contentar com menos<\/a> do que merece.<\/p>\n

    Basicamente, no final do dia, tornamo-nos melhores e mais fortes.<\/p>\n

    10 maneiras elegantes de se livrar de pessoas t\u00f3xicas<\/h2>\n

    \"homem<\/p>\n

    Before you do anything about getting rid of poisonous and negative people in your life, you first have to identify them. Even though you’re aware of all the sinais de uma pessoa t\u00f3xica<\/a>, isto pode ser bastante dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

    Come on, who’d be happy admitting that their life partner, best friend, a close family member, or even o colega de trabalho \u00e9 um indiv\u00edduo t\u00f3xico<\/a>? Sometimes, all the clues are right in front of your nose, but you just can’t admit the truth.<\/p>\n

    Well, I hate to break it to you, but you can’t actually cut toxic people out of your life until you are honest with yourself about their toxic behavior. For some people, it takes years to admit that their loved one is poisonous.<\/p>\n

    But once you finally achieve this, half of the job is already done. You’ve recognized the symptoms, and now you’re finally ready to treat the disease!<\/p>\n

    2. Faz\u00ea-lo antes que se torne contagioso<\/h3>\n

    Deixem-me revelar um pequeno segredo: a toxicidade \u00e9 contagiosa. Se o seu membro pr\u00f3ximo da fam\u00edlia<\/a> or a romantic partner is poisonous, and you don’t see it in time, you’ll likely start imitating their behavior.<\/p>\n

    Como \u00e9 que isso acontece?<\/b><\/h4>\n

    You won’t do it on purpose \u2013 of course. But at some point, you’ll accept that you’ll never have a rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> com eles.<\/p>\n

    You know the drill: you’ve tried talking to them about their actions, you’ve tried being nice, you’ve tried helping them change. Nevertheless, nothing worked.<\/p>\n

    At the same time, you still don’t have the strength to cut them off. So, what other choice do you have but to give them a taste of their own medicine?<\/p>\n

    Come\u00e7amos a pagar-lhes por todas as coisas m\u00e1s que nos fizeram. Quando d\u00e1s por ti, tornas-te igual a eles.<\/p>\n

    But does it stop there? No. Without realizing it, you’ve adopted these toxic behavior patterns as if it\u2019s normal, and you’ve begun acting the same way to other people as well.<\/p>\n

    Voila, you’ve caught the virus!<\/p>\n

    What I’m trying to tell you here is that you don’t have much time. You have to learn how to deal with toxic people before you become one of them.<\/p>\n

    3. Prepara-te para uma batalha dura<\/h3>\n

    \"mulher<\/p>\n

    I’m warning you: Getting rid of toxic people is probably one of the hardest things you’ll have to do in your life. They won’t go away just because you politely ask them to. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be toxic, would they?<\/p>\n

    If you want to throw a toxic person out of your life, get ready for a tough battle. You won’t be done with them overnight. This is a process that will take up a lot of your time and energy.<\/p>\n

    You’ll have a hard time cutting them off because they are like leeches. They don’t think of your well-being and won’t let go, as much as you beg them to.<\/p>\n

    Encontram uma v\u00edtima e ficam por perto para poderem sugar toda a sua energia.<\/p>\n

    But this doesn’t mean it can’t be done. If you’re persistent in your decision, I promise that you’ll make it.<\/p>\n

    4. A falta de limites convida \u00e0 falta de respeito<\/h3>\n

    Now that you’ve done all the pre-steps, it’s time to cut to the chase. The first thing you must do is learn how to estabelecer limites<\/a> e como praticar o distanciamento social<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Basically, you have to decide what you’re willing to tolerate and what your deal breakers are. Not only that: making sure all the toxic individuals in your surroundings know this is even more important.<\/p>\n

    Let’s take this as an example. You can’t stand listening to your toxic coworker complain all the time.<\/p>\n

    You see that they’re full of negativity, and you’ve realized that they drain all of your energy. But you keep spending your lunch breaks with them anyhow.<\/p>\n

    Why? Because you’re too ashamed to tell them that you’ve had enough of their negative outlook on life.<\/p>\n

    Bem, isso tem de mudar. Estabelecer limites<\/a> means learning how to say “no.”<\/p>\n

    It won’t be easy in the beginning, but hey, practice makes perfect.<\/p>\n

    You’re not selfish \u2013 you’re taking care of your mental health<\/b><\/h4>\n

    Let’s make one thing clear: you’re not selfish for doing this. It doesn’t matter who this toxic person we’re talking about is \u2013 if you ask them to respect your boundaries, you’re only protecting yourself.<\/p>\n

    And that’s exactly what you should do.<\/p>\n

    Remember: it’s not your responsibility to put up with people who make you feel bad. You’re not the one who has to help them with their mental health issues, and you certainly shouldn’t endure their abuso emocional<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    5. O que tu permites \u00e9 o que vai continuar<\/h3>\n

    \"o<\/p>\n

    You have to be aware of one thing: people treat you the way you let them. No, I’m not saying that you’re responsible for the abuso emocional<\/a> you’re going through.<\/p>\n

    But if you don’t react properly the first time a toxic person does you harm, you give them the green light to continue doing so. Actually, you belittle yourself more and more every time you give them space to keep on hurting you.<\/p>\n

    The point is that you’re the one who has to stop this madness. You don’t expect them to suddenly realize they’re toxic and leave you alone or change their ways, do you?<\/p>\n

    Este \u00e9 o tipo de pessoas que continuar\u00e1 a quebrar-nos enquanto o permitirmos. \u00c9 exatamente por isso que deve cortar todos os la\u00e7os com elas.<\/p>\n

    And you must do it now. Because as long as you allow this treatment, it will continue. You can’t continuar a cometer os mesmos erros e esperar um resultado diferente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    6. O pre\u00e7o de ser demasiado simp\u00e1tico \u00e9 demasiado elevado<\/h3>\n

    Your heart is warm, you’re selfless, and you think about other people’s wellness.<\/p>\n

    But we live in a harsh, harsh world. And the bitter truth is that being too nice won’t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

    Infelizmente, h\u00e1 pessoas m\u00e1s por a\u00ed. Pessoas que o v\u00eaem como uma presa e que querem fazer parte da sua vida s\u00f3 para eles podem usar-te<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    V\u00eaem a tua bondade como um solo f\u00e9rtil para os seus h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos. V\u00eaem-te como um tapete que podem pisar quando e como quiserem.<\/p>\n

    Don’t get me wrong: I’m not telling you to become this evil person who has no scruples. Actually, we\u2019ve already talked about ways to avoid becoming toxic as well.<\/p>\n

    Mas don’t be too nice<\/a> ou. Fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para encontrar um equil\u00edbrio.<\/p>\n

    Don’t hurt anyone who didn’t deserve it but learn how to stand up for yourself. Escolher a bondade<\/a>, but don’t let anyone treat you like a fool.<\/p>\n

    7. Aceitar em vez de esperar<\/h3>\n

    \"uma<\/p>\n

    The number one mistake that prevents you from cutting toxic people out of your life is believing that things will get better. One of these days, they’ll realize how much pain they’re causing you, and they’ll change.<\/p>\n

    Not\u00edcia de \u00faltima hora: isso nunca vai acontecer. E n\u00e3o tem outra hip\u00f3tese sen\u00e3o aceitar as coisas como elas s\u00e3o<\/a>. A dura realidade \u00e9 que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com este tipo de pessoas nunca ir\u00e1 funcionar.<\/p>\n

    Or you can keep expecting a miracle to come knocking on your door. You can always choose to live a lie and waste your life on someone who’ll nunca te tratam como mereces<\/a>. It’s all up to you.<\/p>\n

    You can’t save people who don’t want to be saved<\/b><\/h4>\n

    Please, be aware that poisonous people usually need professional help to overcome their issues. You’re not a mental health professional, and you can’t make them change their ways.<\/p>\n

    O resultado final \u00e9 que you can’t save them<\/a> \u2013 especially if they don’t want to be saved.<\/p>\n

    So please, spare yourself a lot of trouble and anxiety and don’t even bother trying. I guarantee you: you won’t succeed.<\/p>\n

    8. If you don’t put yourself first, neither will they<\/h3>\n

    You’re only responsible for your own life \u2013 nobody else’s. This means that you have to dar prioridade a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> sobre todos os outros.<\/p>\n

    As long as you’re giving those who do you harm access to you, you’re showing them that you don’t ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. You clearly have some serious self-esteem problems because deep down, you think you don’t deserve better.<\/p>\n

    Mas n\u00e3o se preocupe porque isso pode ser resolvido.<\/p>\n

    Antes de mais, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio tomar consci\u00eancia da sua pr\u00f3pria autoestima<\/a>. Once you understand how valuable you are, you’ll see that you’re settling for less.<\/p>\n

    Trust me: you’re good enough, and there are people out there who’d kill to be in your presence. So, why do you waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you at all?<\/p>\n

    If you’re wondering how to deal with toxic people in your life, the answer is pretty simple: come\u00e7a a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a> more than you love them. But I didn’t say that actually doing it will be simple.<\/p>\n

    9. O luto torna-nos humanos<\/h3>\n

    \"uma<\/p>\n

    Here is the problem: in most cases, you love the toxic person you’re trying to cut off. Sounds ironic, I know.<\/p>\n

    Mas o teu c\u00e9rebro diz-te que tens de salvar a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> while your heart still cares for them deeply. At the end of the day, you feel guilty for loving someone who’s done you so much harm.<\/p>\n

    Well, let me tell you that this isn’t anything unusual. Keep in mind that luto pela sua perda<\/a> is perfectly okay, even if you’re losing someone who is hurting you.<\/p>\n

    Don’t expect to get over them in the blink of an eye. You’ll have to go through several grieving stages that will involve denial, anger, a lot of pain, tears, and nostalgia, among other things.<\/p>\n

    Nevertheless, please don’t let this discourage you. It’s all part of the process.<\/p>\n

    Encontrar um sistema de apoio<\/h4>\n

    Se acha que isto \u00e9 demasiado para si, n\u00e3o \u00e9 vergonha nenhuma pedir ajuda. Para come\u00e7ar, pode pedir ao seu melhor amigo ou a um colega de trabalho em quem confie para o ajudar a ultrapassar a crise.<\/p>\n

    If that doesn’t help, consultar um profissional de sa\u00fade mental<\/a>. They’ll help you cope with your grief and will guide you along the road.<\/p>\n

    10. Accept an apology \u2013 deny the trust<\/h3>\n

    Once your toxic person understands that you’re really leaving them this time, they’ll probably tell you everything you’ve been dying to hear.<\/p>\n

    They’ll even say they’re sorry for all of their wrongdoings and promise that they’ll change. Let me tell you right away: they won’t.<\/p>\n

    But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t accept their apologies \u2013 you just shouldn’t give them a second chance<\/a> to ruin you. Actually, that’s the only healthy way to leave the past where it belongs.<\/p>\n

    No entanto, h\u00e1 uma grande diferen\u00e7a entre perdoar e esquecer. O primeiro d\u00e1-nos paz, enquanto o outro nos atira de novo para o inferno.<\/p>\n

    Even when you forgive, keep your distance. Make it clear that you accept their apology but that you won’t be friends on social media, that you won’t answer their texts anymore, and that you won’t spend time together as if nothing has happened.<\/p>\n

    Livrar-se de pessoas t\u00f3xicas Cita\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

    \"a<\/p>\n

    You might feel like a fool for letting a toxic person trick you. But trust me, you’re not alone.<\/p>\n

    Aqui est\u00e3o algumas pessoas famosas que partilham as suas experi\u00eancias sobre o assunto, enviando-lhe palavras de encorajamento. Espero que algumas delas cita\u00e7\u00f5es interessantes<\/a> ir\u00e1 ajud\u00e1-lo ou inspir\u00e1-lo a seguir em frente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    1. \u201cIt\u2019s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.\u201d \u2013 Daniell Koepke<\/p>\n

    2. \u201cIf you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end, low vibrational relationship or friendship \u2014 you won.\u201d<\/b> \u2013 Lalah Delia<\/b><\/p>\n

    3. \u201cDon\u2019t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.\u201d \u2013 Robert Tew<\/p>\n

    4. \u201cYou cannot change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.\u201d \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

    5. \u201c<\/b>Deixar ir<\/b> doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t care about someone anymore. It\u2019s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.\u201d \u2013 Deborah Reber<\/b><\/p>\n

    6. \u201cMy encouragement: delete the energy vampires from your life, clean out all complexity, build a team around you that frees you to fly, remove anything toxic, and cherish simplicity. Because that\u2019s where genius lives.\u201d \u2013 Robin S. Sharma<\/p>\n

    7. \u201cEvery day, you must unlearn the ways that hold you back. You must rid yourself of negativity, so you can learn to fly.\u201d \u2013 Leon Brown<\/p>\n

    8. \u201cDeixar ir<\/a> of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself.\u201d \u2013 Hussein Nishah<\/p>\n

    9. \u201cKeeping bad company is like being in a germ-infested area. You never know what you\u2019ll catch.\u201d \u2013 Frank Sonnenberg<\/b><\/p>\n

    10. \u201cI have found the best way to deal with a toxic person is to not respond in any other way than a monotone voice and a businesslike manner.\u201d – Jen Grice<\/p>\n

    Para terminar<\/h2>\n

    Deixar um rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a> e a obter a for\u00e7a para finalmente deixar de lado o que te faz infeliz leva<\/a> muita coragem. Obrig\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a sair da sua zona de conforto e a fazer algumas mudan\u00e7as radicais. Ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a viva a sua vida ao m\u00e1ximo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Mas livrar-se de pessoas t\u00f3xicas e acabar com rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas \u00e9 imperativo para a sua sa\u00fade mental. Tem de ficar longe<\/a> de todos os que te fazem mal e te trazem negatividade, se quiseres salvar-te.<\/p>\n

    There will be days when you’ll feel like you can’t make it. Days when you’ll think that toxicity is an overly powerful force you’re unable to defeat.<\/p>\n

    However, I promise you that at the end of the day, you’ll succeed \u2013 if you follow these steps carefully.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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